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06-12-2006, 02:08 AM
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Gift Query
I have a slight problem and I'd like your thoughts on it...
Some background:
We had a gift registry for our wedding, but the company only delivers to the purchasers home, or they have to collect it from the store.
Anyway... At our wedding one of our friends came up to me & said that 4 of our friends had put their money together to get us the huge mirror we put on our list, that she had it at her house. She asked what I wanted her to do with it. I said she could drop it at my MIL's house (it is 5min away from her house by car, and she knows the house). I said that there is always someone there & that she could drop it later that week while we were on honeymoon...
Well it is now more than a month since the wedding. I did wonder if maybe she was just saying they had bought it, but they hadn't really... But on the wedding list it says who bought it & that they picked it up.
I'm not sure what to do.
We really wanted a big leather mirror for our living room, and we have gift vouchers for this shop so we could go get one, but what if they bring us this one after all?
At the same time I really don't fancy getting in touch to say "Em, you know that gift you bought us? Where is it?!" 
But what is the point in waisting our vouchers if they are going to bring it to us eventually...  These are old friends, but not a group we see very regularly...
Thoughts anyone?
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06-12-2006, 02:23 AM
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This is a tough one, but what I would do is call or e-mail and say:
"Hey! We're back from our honeymoon and we're all settled in. If you want to bring the mirror directly here, we can arrange to be home, or we can arrange to pick it up at your house. Just let me know what works for you."
I think since the girl approached you it's okay to send a gentle reminder with the guise that you're making the whole thing easy for them. I ordered a high-chair for a friend and accidently sent it to myself, lol. It sat in my house for two months before I got it to them.
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06-12-2006, 02:57 AM
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Do u ever go to her house if so just drop in one day or call and ask if she would could stop by for a visit.
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06-12-2006, 04:28 AM
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Would your MIL feel comfortable making a phone call? I would have her call and say that you warned her that they would be dropping off a large mirror and she was concerned that maybe she missed them or that they didn't know where her house was. That way it looks like she concerned more about them than the mirror itself but you get some information. At that point she could even set up a time that she'll for sure be home for them to drop off the mirror.
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06-12-2006, 04:44 AM
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That's a great idea Wembley!
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06-12-2006, 02:57 PM
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I'd give her an email like Heather suggested. 
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06-12-2006, 03:03 PM
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I think Heather and Annie both had really good ideas.  Just keep it light and easy.
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06-12-2006, 03:22 PM
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I've sent her a wee 'how you doing' email... Hopefully she'll mention the mirror when she replies, but if not I'll try to bring it up subtly.
I didn't know whether to just write it off & buy another one!
Annie: that'd be a great idea, but they don't know each other & Mo's mum is just as shy as he is. She wouldn't be comfortable calling one of our frineds, she's bad enough calling me! 
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06-12-2006, 10:01 PM
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Yeah, I know my MIL would do it on her own but not all are like that. Maybe you could say something similar but on her behalf, since she is shy.
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06-27-2006, 01:05 AM
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I think I would stop by her house to say "Hi" and just casually bring it up. She may have been very busy and didn't have time to deliver it. If you're there you may just pick it up while your there.
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06-27-2006, 01:26 AM
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Did you get the mirror yet?
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06-27-2006, 10:28 AM
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Nope.
She didn't even reply to that how you doing email!  Maybe she really likes my mirror 
Now you've brought it back up I think I'll send her a wee text message. I would pop round to see her, but we're not really visiting friends if you know what I mean. We all used to hang out all the time, but when they got married they stopped doing that so even though I'd pop in to see my BF I wouldn't do it with this girl...
Mo said just forget it & buy another one!
ETA:You know what? It wouldn't really have bothered me if they hadn't bought a gift at all, but she said that 6 of them had put together to buy it, then 1 of them keeping it just seems wrong! I bet the others don't realise that she's kept it!
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06-27-2006, 02:22 PM
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At this point, I would ask her directly - OR - ask one of the others with whom they went in on it with.
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06-27-2006, 02:37 PM
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I sent her a text message a wee while ago so we shall see To be fair, she doesn't have internet access at home, she checks her email every weekend at her parents house. But she has found the time to send me stupid junk mail so she must be checking her mail...
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06-28-2006, 04:57 PM
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I would contact one of the other six and in passing mention the mirror, like you said, they probably think it's already in your possession and I'm sure if they realize it's not they will make a phone call....good luck!
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06-28-2006, 05:48 PM
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I agree. After this length of time, it may be time to call in the calvary. It isn't fair to the others who assume you are enjoying your lovely gift and are probably even wondering why there wasn't a thank you card to them.
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