Who do I send Save the date Cards to? - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

AngelRoseFyre · #1 06-09-2006, 11:53 PM

I know I am asking yet another questin, for which I appologize.

I don't know just who I am supposed to send save the date cards to. I know NOT to send them to anyone I DON'T paln to invite. but in tems of those I do plan to invite . . .

Do I send them to EVERYONE, -or- just FAMILY - or - everyone, family and friends OUT OF TOWN?

A major issue for me, is I plan to invite some people (old childhood friends I was very close to, or my family friends) I havn't seen or talked (or very little to) in years. I want to invite them to the wedding, but I feel it may be rude to EXPECT them, so to say, to SAVE THE DATE. Should I send them a STD card to let them know, or jusrt send an invitation, and hope they can maybe come.

Thank you for your time!

labeadel · #2 06-09-2006, 11:59 PM

First of all, don't apologize for asking questions. That is the whole point of these forums!! Ask away!

I would send the Save the Dates out 6-9 months ahead of time. As you already know, send them only to people you are going to invite. Once you send a STD out, you HAVE to invite them to the wedding. Don't worry about being rude sending a STD. You are merely letting everyone know when the date is that you are planning to get married so that if they would like to come, they can start planning for it. I only sent mine to our OOT guests, but wished afterward that I had sent them to everyone. So, I say to send them to your whole guest list.

wynelle · #3 06-10-2006, 04:16 AM

To be honest, STD cards really aren't necessary, although nice.

They become important when the wedding is during a holiday weekend, or a destination wedding or in a place where hotel rooms are quickly taken.

A note on nice stationery is less expensive and serves the same purpose for those friends you have lost contact with.

But STDs can be fun, quirky, nice memories.

AshyBekka · #4 06-10-2006, 01:16 PM

We did STD cards (man, that sounds awful-haha) because we have so many people coming from all over the place. I sent them to everyone coming from out of town...anyone here in Fayetteville that I know well enough to invite to the wedding is well aware that it's coming up! I found some really great ones with a nice card and a magnet with one of our engagement photos on a website, and I've gotten so many compliments on them. They really weren't that expensive. Also, we ordered photo stamps with one of our favorite pictures on them-a HUGE hit! Hope that helps!

ljeagle · #5 06-10-2006, 05:47 PM

I say send them to every one that you plan to invite.

Robyn Lynn · #6 06-10-2006, 06:38 PM

IMO, STD cards are a courtesy to guests to let them plan ahead to attend your wedding. If they don't want to come they won't save the date, but if they do they'll mark it on the calendar and not plan anything else that day!!

Kim&Bob2004 · #7 06-10-2006, 07:39 PM

It's my opinion that if you really want the person to make a point of trying to be at your wedding, they already know you are getting married and the date of the big event without a STD card because you have told them! People you haven't talked to in years very likely won't come unless they don't need to travel. Though STD's are a cute thing to add. A nice note or email can work also. Most people won't book airlines tickets more than a couple months in advance anyway, and most invites are sent out at 8-6 weeks from the event. Just my thoughts though!

I don't know if I welcomed you to Pash, so Welcome and congrats on your upcoming wedding!

weddingadvisor · #8 06-11-2006, 04:02 PM

STD cards can be very useful if you are anticipating some OOT guests. You can include local travel info if you are that prepared.

What we did is just send a quick announcement card letting people know we are getting married on such and such date at such and such location.

Then finished with 'invitation to follow' so they know this is just a preliminary card. That way they can put it down on their calendars and start making travel arrangements.

My family also found it useful cause it's a small card, so most of them have it on their fridge to remind them of the upcoming date. Go ahead and send it out to everyone you are planning to invite, OOT or local. They will appreciate it.