Gift Registries - Numbers and Kids - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

AngelRoseFyre · #1 06-08-2006, 03:52 AM

I am looking at several registries, is there a magic number of gift registries (I sincely doubt it), one may not cover the various things we are interested in, and I think too many is rude. I don't know, maybe once I get my feet wet I'll know. lso since my son is still young, and may feel left out that we are getting lots of gifts and he isn't getting any, is it rude to add a small number of childrens items onto our registries?

fallbride · #2 06-08-2006, 04:05 AM

I asked this question awhile back. Take a look at what all the ladies said to me. It should help you out also.

http://www.pashweddings.com/weddingf...ead.php?t=1932

Heather · #3 06-08-2006, 04:48 AM

Two or three registeries is common.

I would not register for gifts for your son. As a guest viewing your registry, I would probably be offended... actually I think I would be very offended. The point of the registry is to buy gifts for the bride and groom for what they may need to set up a house, or to upgrade/replace things you may already have. Most registry gifts are also bought for the bridal shower (typically), and the point of the shower is to well, shower the bride with gifts. I don't want to visit a registry and think I have to buy for the whole family.

SuzyBride · #4 06-08-2006, 05:08 AM

I agree that 2 or 3 would be a good number.. As for gifts for your son, I also don't think it would be a good idea to register for stuff for him.. You wil probably get a few gift cards though and you could spend that on him maybe.

AngelRoseFyre · #5 06-08-2006, 05:12 AM

Thank you FallBride for providing me your website it was very insightful. And I was kind of thinking the same thing about my son, I guess I just needed someone else to put it that way. Right after I posted that, I got the idea to just go out before the wedding and buy my son some gifts, then give them to him in private after the wedding, just the three of us.

Anyway my other question was this: I found this sight online, for gifts (well kind of). Instead of asking for gifts you ask that people put money down for you. The recipient can then trade the money value in for gift certificates or services. It is an interesting idea, but isn't it a little rude to flat out ask for money (in any form)? I'm sorry I'm still kind of lost at this whole registry thing.

http://www.givefun.com/default.asp

AshyBekka · #6 06-08-2006, 02:35 PM

I'm personally not a big fan of registeries for cash in any form, but I guess that depends on what's considered acceptable in a given area. Keep in mind that most anywhere you register will let you return gifts for gift certificates (or in Bed Bath and Beyond's case, cash) if you don't like what someone gave you. But regardless of the wrapper, I think asking for cash directly is a no no.

However, again, if that's something typical in your area, then I don't see a problem!

ljeagle · #7 06-08-2006, 03:45 PM

It a big no no to ask for cash. If I was invited to a wedding and someone wanted cash I would go and buy something on spit just because it's so rude in my eyes. I'm trying to pull up a old post where we talked about this b-4.

ljeagle · #8 06-08-2006, 03:48 PM

Here is a link where we talked about asking for GC. http://www.pashweddings.com/weddingf...ead.php?t=1786

Robyn Lynn · #9 06-08-2006, 04:36 PM

I don't like asking for money for a wedding in any form. I don't even like the honeymoon registries. it seems rude.

I've registered, but received money as well.

As for your son, I wouldn't register for gifts specifically for him, but maybe some "family" gifts. For example....At Bed, Bath and Beyond they have beach towel games like Candyland,Checkers, Twister, ring toss. I even registered for a couple of these!! It is something you all can use and enjoy.

Also, how about letting him open the gifts that you receive at your home and after the wedding? Then he'll feel included.

555Ann555 · #10 06-08-2006, 06:51 PM

I think it is a lovely idea to buy your son some gifts yourself so that he has something to open while you open yours. I wouldn't buy a childs gift on a bridal registry.

On the cash issue: If people want to give you cash or gift cards then they will without you registering for them.

The registries are for the guests who want to buy you actual gifts, so that they have more of an idea what you need.

You still have a really long time till you need to register though! Generally 3 months before the wedding is planty of time, so not really until Feb next year... By then all the new spring stock will be in too!