Who do you invite to a shower? - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

Mrs.Levitt · #1 06-06-2006, 08:58 PM

I have only been to like 2 showers ever and now a few family members are talking about throwing me a shower. My 2nd cousin is talking about just inviting about 8-10 of my aunts and cousins. Do I invite jeremys mom and step mom? What about bridesmaids? (2 are out of state, the others jeremys sister and are 20 and 16) I'm not sure what you do. My mom figures their families may throw me a shower so we don't need to invite them (she's very old school about everything wedding related) what did you ladies do?

Marge129 · #2 06-06-2006, 09:02 PM

I invited all local women that were invited to the wedding. It was about 20-30 people.

For your situation... I think all women in the family should be invited along with your BM's.

Are you sure your BM's aren't throwing you a shower? If they are planning on one, you may want to see if your family just wants to help them out.

ljeagle · #3 06-06-2006, 09:19 PM

His family might feel left out if you don't invite them to the shower. I would invite all the ladies that are invited to the wedding including your BP.

Mrs.Levitt · #4 06-06-2006, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Marge129

I invited all local women that were invited to the wedding. It was about 20-30 people.

For your situation... I think all women in the family should be invited along with your BM's.

Are you sure your BM's aren't throwing you a shower? If they are planning on one, you may want to see if your family just wants to help them out.

I know my other cousin who is a BM talked about throwing a small one at her new apt. But I don't think I would invite anyone around here since its a 2 hr drive to her house (wisconsin) I think it would just be my moms sisters, my gma, and a cousin or 2. My MOH lives in AZ so I know she won't be. Being the ages of jeremys sister I wouldn't expect they would throw one but I'm not sure, we done see them much so we really haven't talked about it

Robyn Lynn · #5 06-06-2006, 10:27 PM

I would invite the moms just to be polite. And your bridesmaids.

Mrs.Levitt · #6 06-07-2006, 04:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Marge129

I invited all local women that were invited to the wedding. It was about 20-30 people.

For your situation... I think all women in the family should be invited along with your BM's.

Are you sure your BM's aren't throwing you a shower? If they are planning on one, you may want to see if your family just wants to help them out.

I know my other cousin who is a BM talked about throwing a small one at her new apt. But I don't think I would invite anyone around here since its a 2 hr drive to her house (wisconsin) I think it would just be my moms sisters, my gma, and a cousin or 2. My MOH lives in AZ so I know she won't be. Being the ages of jeremys sister I wouldn't expect they would throw one but I'm not sure, we done see them much so we really haven't talked about it

555Ann555 · #7 06-07-2006, 04:06 PM

I'd invite all the women you arte going to invite to the wedding. I'd think it was a bit impolite to miss them out because they might not be able to attend or because it is so far away. I'd want to be invited even if I couldn't make it!

Mrs.Levitt · #8 06-07-2006, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by 555Ann555

I'd invite all the women you arte going to invite to the wedding. I'd think it was a bit impolite to miss them out because they might not be able to attend or because it is so far away. I'd want to be invited even if I couldn't make it!

Good point

labeadel · #9 06-07-2006, 06:52 PM

I didn't invite every female that was invited to the wedding. I did invite all BM's, even the OOT ones. And both mothers and all grandmothers were invited too. IMO, family should be invited.

Lizbet · #10 06-07-2006, 08:23 PM

I only invited the females to whom I was closest for the shower. I did include the mothers and DH's step-mom and 1/2 sister. There were a lot of female extended family I didn't invite, because they lived so far away.

ETA: I didn't invite my OOT MaidOH, because I didn't want her to feel bad about not being able to be there. But, my MatronOH, who was in town, contacted her anyway. She surprised me by showing up at the party! It was great!

555Ann555 · #11 06-07-2006, 08:35 PM

Ah. I wasn't really thinking about that, I was kind of thinking of my own wedding

We had such a small wedding that it would have been a big deal to have everyone come.

SuzyBride · #12 06-07-2006, 08:41 PM

WEll I had 2 showers. One was given by ladies at my church. There was an announcement in the church bulletin (that spelling doesn't look right..) so a ton of little old ladies came plus I gave them a list of who to send invitations to, which was alot. I also had a small shower at MIL's house hosted by my BMs, it was mostly family and those we regard as family. Between both showers every woman in town that was invited to our wedding recieved an invitation. in my hometown everyone expects to be invited to your shower, sometimes even if they're not and they hear about it they show up!

555Ann555 · #13 06-07-2006, 08:51 PM

That sounds fantastic Suzy!

I'd have had a blast at those!

Kim&Bob2004 · #14 06-07-2006, 09:19 PM

Shelley (My MOH) invited all the women in my family that I am close too, plus friends and Bob's female family members, plus the bridal party minus Joe my Sir of Honor.

Only one of my BM showed up plus my MOH. Bob's family didn't come (they lived on th east coast so I knew they wouldn't but we still invited them....) and most of my way out of town family didn't come. Bob's cousin D'Gail in FL sent a shower gift though and welcomed me into the family, which I thought was a wonderful gesture.

SuzyBride · #15 06-08-2006, 05:22 AM

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That sounds fantastic Suzy!

I'd have had a blast at those!

I know! I love being from a small town because anytime someone is getting married or having a baby its like a big celebration! Everyone wants in on that action! The downside though is that everyone knows all the not so happy stuff too...