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Tykat · #1 06-05-2006, 01:33 AM

My FH biological father is Gay and married. My FH has his mother and step dad. We are inviting my parents, his mom and dad, and his dad and dad.
How should we sit and who dances with who?

Marge129 · #2 06-05-2006, 01:52 AM

I'm guessing you want to know where the parents should sit. If they get along, have them sit togehter... otherwise, give them each a seperate table near the head table where you'll be.

As for dancing... traditionally there is the first dance with the bride and groom, the father/daughter dance, and the mother/son dance.

555Ann555 · #3 06-05-2006, 02:36 AM

Like Margie said, it kind of depends on how well they all get on

I could understand it being tricky if they weren't civil to each other...

I've heard of having divorced (or re-married) parents each 'hosting' their own table. That could work if you didn't want them all to sit at a top table.

Did you want help with the seating for the ceremony or just the reception?

And BTW welcome to Pash!

fallbride · #4 06-05-2006, 02:49 AM

Welcome to Pash!!

I agree with what Margie said.

ljeagle · #5 06-05-2006, 07:00 AM

I would go with what Marie said about the dance his father shouldn't come in the picture for that.

As far as where people sit I would just do two parent tables for his side and if they really don't get along put one set on your side. If you are doing all parents at the same table then put your parents in the middle. I'm not sure if you are doing round or square tables. For the ceremony I would put his father in the seats behind the mother.

weddingadvisor · #6 06-11-2006, 08:35 PM

That's the funny thing about weddings. You can do whatever you want. If you want the father-daughter dance you can, but I wouldn't set anything in stone.

Why not make it casual? Don't assign dances. That way, if you want to dance with your dad, you can, but FH doesn't have to join in.

As for seating, just place them where you want. If there is bad feelings with his parents and step-parents, seat them at seperate tables. If they all get along, seat them together. You are totally in control, and their sexual orientation has nothing to do with seating or dances.

I think it would be cute to see the men dance together though. I'm happy that both of his parents were able to find love after divorce. Good for them.

syringa · #7 06-13-2006, 04:01 AM

It is very common to eliminate one or more of the first dances. If there might be a problem with having a father/daughter dance or a groom/mother dance, then don't have them. There is no traditional father-in-law/bride dance to worry about, though you might dance with him at some point during the reception.