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Tykat · #1 06-04-2006, 03:04 PM

My FH does not like to dance (actualy hates it). What should we do for our first song. I am looking onto really short song to ease his nerves but if there are any suggestions for alternatives to having that first dance I would love to hear them.

breezy · #2 06-04-2006, 04:20 PM

Ya know, it her truly HATES it... don't do it. You don't even have to have music at the wedding if you don't desire it

Do what feels right for you two and toss the rest of the traditions.

ljeagle · #3 06-04-2006, 04:53 PM

I agree if he don't really want it then I wouldn't do it. Welcome to PASH!

Robyn Lynn · #4 06-04-2006, 05:01 PM

You can maybe do a toast to each other or have someone sing a song to you two while you are sitting (instead of dancing).

Where is your reception being held? I went to one in a restaurant and there was no dancing. People kept getting up and giving inpromptu speeches, though and that was very nice. If you are in a small space this works very well as you don;t need a microphone and it is very informal.

SuzyBride · #5 06-04-2006, 06:48 PM

Well I know your pain! My husband hates to dance and hates to be the center of attention! But I really wanted a first dance, so we comprimised. We had a good friend sing our first dance song. He sang "At Last" and we kinda got the share the spotlight with him while he sang. It worked out great because my husband didn't feel like all eyes were on him.

555Ann555 · #6 06-05-2006, 02:51 AM

We both hate to dance! lol.

We discussed it quite a lot before the wedding... I didn't want to miss out dancing with him on our wedding day, even though my husband is painfully shy!

We got through it by firstly letting him have the final say on the song (we went with an acoustic version of Heaven by Bryan Adams) and secondly by just having a giggle with each other throughout the entire song! As you can see from my current avatar we made it through it OK.

Our first dance was actually our first ever dance! And we've been together 12 1/2 yrs! lol.

If it is shyness that makes him hate it then just give him plenty of time to get used to the idea, make sure the lighting is low enough that he won't feel too exposed & keep his attention on you so he doesn't have the time to think about who is watching!

TheaterDiva1 · #7 06-05-2006, 02:59 PM

I can't think of any short songs (except maybe Adam Sandler's "Grow Old With You" from The Wedding Singer, as someone here mentioned), but can you maybe split up a song? For example, start it off with just you and your FH, then have the bridal party, or parents, or all guests join in halfway through? That way, you'll get your special dance, and your DH won't have to spend do much time in the spotlight.

SuzyBride · #8 06-05-2006, 04:13 PM

When one of my friends got married she was dancing with her new DH and halfway through the song her dad came and cut in.. It was cute and they shared the spotlight. Just a thought...

AlwaysABride · #9 07-01-2006, 12:54 AM

My husband CAN'T Dance -- we are going to Authur Murray with a quickness, because in almost six years, I haven't been able to teach him myself!

But I would do as all others said -- have your dad or someone (best man, brother, etc) cut in halfway through the song, or have the bridal party or your parents (both sets) join you after the first verse or something.

michaelsbride · #10 07-01-2006, 12:59 AM

I have a version of At Last thats only 2.5 minutes long so thats kinda short.

Jacqueline · #11 07-01-2006, 11:42 AM

you could always do what me and dave are doing

which is having people join in after a min or so of us danceing my dad will cut in on dave while i dance with my dad dave will dance with my mum

or you can just dance with your man while other get up around that way neather of you will feel that out of place

or just dont do one at all

Emily · #12 07-03-2006, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzyBride

When one of my friends got married she was dancing with her new DH and halfway through the song her dad came and cut in.. It was cute and they shared the spotlight. Just a thought...

Or you could do it the other way around - have you dancing with your Dad up untill half way then he could hand you over to your new DH!

555Ann555 · #13 07-03-2006, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Emily

Or you could do it the other way around - have you dancing with your Dad up untill half way then he could hand you over to your new DH!

I've never seen that but it sounds really lovely! Kind of like a wee replay of the wedding ceremony!