Remembering My Father - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

scipra · #1 05-19-2006, 05:51 PM

Hi Ladies-
I'm in a really tough situation and am debating on the father-daughter dance. My father passed in '94 and my mother has sinced remarried. I absolutely love my stepdad, but I'm not sure how to go about the Father/Daughter dance. I also considered dancing w/my father's brother (my uncle) who has been so supportive over the last 12 years..If I dance w/my stepdad or uncle, I'm thinking about having an introduction made before we dance and having the DJ play "There You'll Be" by Faith Hill (from the Pearl Harbor soundtrack). What do you all think? Which one: stepdad or uncle? Any ideas on an "intro" to the song??? Or should I just bag it all together? Thanks in advance!!

Kim&Bob2004 · #2 05-19-2006, 05:57 PM

First, welcome to Pash!

I really don't know about this. I guess it could depend on how supportive you SD is. Who is walking you down and giving you away?

Heather · #3 05-19-2006, 06:09 PM

Hi Scirpa - welcome to Pash.

My Dad had passed away before my wedding too, so I danced with my oldest big brother for the Father/Daughter dance. This was after debating for months about whether I would have one at all. My mother-in-law really wanted to do the Mother/Son dance and I know my brother wanted to support me in this, so I did it. (I had my two big brothers walk me down the aisle.)

I think you can do any song that you would like. Can I ask who is walking you down the aisle? If it's your step-dad, maybe you could dance with your uncle, or vice/versa?

scipra · #4 05-19-2006, 06:11 PM

I was planning on walking down the aisle solo, but now that you all mention it, perhaps I should have one of them walk me.

Nicholette · #5 05-19-2006, 06:17 PM

I think you should dance with both of them, have one go first and the other cut in if you are feeling torn between the 2. If you dont like that idea I would say your uncle and explain to your stepdad that its not because you dont love him but that the connection between you and your uncle is your way of honoring your father.

Kim&Bob2004 · #6 05-19-2006, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Nicholette

I think you should dance with both of them, have one go first and the other cut in if you are feeling torn between the 2. If you dont like that idea I would say your uncle and explain to your stepdad that its not because you dont love him but that the connection between you and your uncle is your way of honoring your father.

Wonderful idea!

scipra · #7 05-19-2006, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Nicholette

I think you should dance with both of them, have one go first and the other cut in if you are feeling torn between the 2. If you dont like that idea I would say your uncle and explain to your stepdad that its not because you dont love him but that the connection between you and your uncle is your way of honoring your father.

I love this idea!

It makes perfect sense!!! Thank you ladies!!!

ljeagle · #8 05-19-2006, 07:55 PM

I agree with Nicholette start with one and half way through the song have one cut in. As far as a song I would choose what is special to you.

Jacqueline · #9 05-19-2006, 07:59 PM

hi and welcome

why not start with your uncle as he was there when your dad passed the about half way through have your step dad come in and take over as he was there for the planing

as for the intro most the friends and family will know about your dad so somthing like this is for people who could not be here with us but forever in our hearts or something like that

hope this helps

Jacqueline · #10 05-19-2006, 08:01 PM

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Originally Posted by scipra

I was planning on walking down the aisle solo, but now that you all mention it, perhaps I should have one of them walk me.

i have my dad and the man(rod) who would have given me away if dad had not made it with his op but rod is meeting us half way and doing our reading

PlanetClaire · #11 05-19-2006, 10:18 PM

If you are equally close to both of them I would have one walk me down the aisle and one dance with me for the "official" dance.

Do they know each other? How about talking to both of them about it and telling them how you feel; that they are both important to you and you want to honour them and your Dad on your special day.

breezy · #12 05-20-2006, 01:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Nicholette

I think you should dance with both of them, have one go first and the other cut in if you are feeling torn between the 2. If you dont like that idea I would say your uncle and explain to your stepdad that its not because you dont love him but that the connection between you and your uncle is your way of honoring your father.

This was going to be what I suggested

Robyn Lynn · #13 05-20-2006, 01:46 AM

My first thought was BOTH!!!

I was going to walk solo, too, but I decided to ask my uncle to be on standby and he was so honored that I decided I will have him do it no matter what.