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Sabrina · #1 05-11-2006, 06:38 AM

Ok so im going to a wedding May28. Do I bring the gift to the wedding (after getting it from the registry) or do I send it to them direct before the wedding?

As far as rehearsals, do we need to be dressed up or is it casual? Thanks!

maroki13 · #2 05-11-2006, 06:42 AM

About dressing up for the rehearsal...that is something to ask the bride and groom, and whoever is hosting the rehearsal dinner.

As far as the gift...the choice is yours whether to send it to them directly from the registry or bring a gift to the wedding. Most people send gifts from the registry, but people do also bring gifts to the wedding. I'm sure most brides and grooms have a plan for how they will get gifts from the wedding home, in the event gifts arrive at the reception. We have a plan in case people bring gifts.

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ljeagle · #3 05-11-2006, 07:17 AM

With the gift I would do what most people do in your area. I have never heard of sending a gift to someone house if u was going to attend the wedding until I came to this site. If most people mail them then that is what I would do. I'm sure they have made arrangements if people do bring gifts.

I would just ask the bride or groom about what you should wear to the rehearsal. Mine was come as you are but we didn't go all out for the rehearsal.

Sabrina · #4 05-11-2006, 08:51 AM

Thanks!

wynelle · #5 05-11-2006, 02:40 PM

I vote with sending the gift to the bride's home prior to the wedding. To be honest, it was an irritation to have to pack up all the gifts after the 4 weddings we had.

While there may be a plan in place, it is still a courtesy to send it to the bride's home, plus it decreases the risk that a card may becomd detached from a package, or that something might get missed, etc.

feb-bride · #6 05-11-2006, 03:43 PM

According to traditional wedding etiquette, you should send the gift to the bride's home prior to the wedding. Most of my guests brought the gifts to the wedding. I wasn't upset or anything, but we almost couldn't fit everything into my sister's car. It would have been easier if people had sent the gifts directly to my house.

As for the rehearsal dinner - Where is it being held? The venue should give you a hint regarding how to dress. If you're still uncertain, ask the hosts or the bride/groom.

Heather · #7 05-11-2006, 04:12 PM

It was a pain for us to bring the gifts home after the wedding too. If you can, definitely send them to the bride's home before the wedding.

labeadel · #8 05-11-2006, 07:30 PM

I did read somewhere in wedding ettiquette that you should send the gift to the B&G's home.

As for the RD, where is it being held? We're invited to a rehearsal dinner for a wedding that same weekend, but it's at someone's home and they told us to bring our swimsuit, so we know it'll be very casual. If it's at a restaurant, then I would dress a little nice, but not too much. Kinda like how you would dress for work in a casual office (assuming you don't work in a strict/dressy environment).

Sabrina · #9 05-11-2006, 11:05 PM

Thank you all for your help. I just found out that its going to be held at a casual restaurant called Callender's in LA. So which means Im going dressy/casual.

Mrs.Levitt · #10 05-12-2006, 02:00 PM

Around here everyone brings gifts to the recpetion. I almost never hear of people sending them prior but we will find out in August

I would dress appropriately for the dinner. Where ever the rehearsal dinner is held i would think would set the tone for formality. We are doing a BBQ and pool party, so we are going ultra casual.

Emily · #11 05-12-2006, 04:25 PM

I would send the gift - the Bride and Groom dont want to have to be worrying about how they will get their gifts home!

I went to a wedding once when they asked people to bring the gifts and they opened them all at the receotion which I thought was weird!!!

ljeagle · #12 05-12-2006, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Emily

I would send the gift - the Bride and Groom dont want to have to be worrying about how they will get their gifts home!

I went to a wedding once when they asked people to bring the gifts and they opened them all at the receotion which I thought was weird!!!

I have been to a few wedding that did this. I think some people do it to show off what they get. My sister just loaded every thing up in her car and delivered it to our house.

labeadel · #13 05-12-2006, 08:05 PM

Regardless of if the restaurant is casual or not, I would still dress a little nice. Maybe just some nice Khaki's or black pants and a cute top. I always say it's better to be overdressed than underdressed! Remember, people will be taking pictures at the rehearsal dinner. You will want to look nice for those.