Does the Maid of Honor do a Toast??? - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

toothfairy1649 · #1 05-03-2006, 08:40 AM

Does the maid/matron of honor have to do a toast?? If so, does anyone have any ideas of what I should say??? This is the thing I am most freaked out about concerning my MOH duties! Lynnie

Steph · #2 05-03-2006, 12:40 PM

I would speak to the bride and groom about that. When I was a MOH I didn't do a speech but I have been to weddings where the MOH did do a speech. I would say it is the preference of the bridge and groom.

555Ann555 · #3 05-03-2006, 01:54 PM

What Steph said

But... There is a bit about it online. I found it to print out for my MOH just to wind her up

I think I just googled bridesmaid speech, something like that anyway...

Sh@ks18 · #4 05-03-2006, 04:50 PM

oo i have the same concern.

My brother ofcourse doesnt care and FSIL said its up to me if i want to or not. If you leave it up to me, i wouldnt do it (just to stay in my comfort zone and not talk in front of a group) but then again its my brothers wedding so i woulnt really mind it.

Marge129 · #5 05-03-2006, 05:12 PM

My MOH didn't do a speech, but I have been to weddings where the MOH did.

Ask the B and G.

Heather · #6 05-03-2006, 05:30 PM

I'm a MOH too, in September. Thanks for reminding me that I need to ask the bride about this. There are lots of resources on this site and others that will get you started.

Mrs.Levitt · #7 05-05-2006, 01:43 PM

We aren't doing any speeches at our wedding, we want to keep things light and moving. I think toasts/speeches usually end up akward unless the person is a beautiful public speaker, which most people aren't. Plus I dont want anyone all nervous and freaking out, I know they are already nervous about falling, Its like graduation, a long walk with all eyes on you, ya dont wanna trip

DragonYoga · #8 05-16-2006, 02:21 AM

I was a MoH at my best friend's wedding, I didn't do a speech - thank God, the day was stressful enough already! lol. Not only did I fly out of state to be in her wedding, but a huge reception at a hotel? With people that I either had not met or haven't talked to since high school? No Way. I'm sooo happy I wasn't expected to do a speech!!!!

Heather · #9 05-16-2006, 03:51 AM

I found out I don't have to give a toast either! YAY!

MarthaA562 · #10 10-22-2006, 06:18 AM

The only person really required to do a toast is the BM, although now adays anyone can do one... I would get a list and make sure that they write it out first... especially after a few drinks... they may end up saying the wrong thing or freezing. I am concerned because my Mom is my maitron of honor... and she tends to say things that would probably embarrass me. So, we may have to sit down together to talk about what is appropriate and whats not, if she chooses to do one at all. She also likes drinking, so I will make sure she does it before she is tipsy. This is just how my Mom is, I doubt you have the same situation (she is bipolar, but I love her anyways!!!!). A lot of times the groom gives a toast to brides or both of you give a toast to thank everyone for coming and to the people that have helped you out a lot (think parents, bridal party, etc.).

munchkin · #11 10-22-2006, 06:29 AM

Naw, you don't have to. As the others said, ask the bride and groom. I haven't decided yet whether my maid of honour or my man of honour will make the speech, but one of them will as they're both good public speakers.

AngelRoseFyre · #12 10-22-2006, 06:47 PM

Just out of curiousity, is there a differnce between a toast and a speech, or are they just 2 ways of saying the same thing?

Sh@ks18 · #13 10-22-2006, 08:36 PM

I think a toast is just a couple of words or a quick quote. A speech is a little longer, like a paragraph or something. I did a speech and a toast at my brothers wedding.

I started off with my relationship w/my bro when we were growing up to now and how now his wife is included etc then I ended it with "i love you guys, cheers"

let me know if you want me to post my actual speech