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whiddle · #1 12-01-2005, 08:35 PM

Hi! Im Kelly. I am 22 and my husband is 21. Yes, I am older than him- you'll just have to get over it. (I swear if I had a dollar for evertime someone shockingly asks me "you're older than him?- I'd be a millionaire.

Anyways, I got married on May 31, 2005 and had a beautiful ceremony/reception on August 6, 2005 (the reason for my previous user name.)

I have 3 sisters (18,15,14) and one brother (16). My "oldest" sister is pregnant so I will be having my first nephew sometime in January (EDD-Jan 11). I grew up with my Mom and Step-dad, my brother, and one sister. My other two sisters (including the preggo one), my step-mom, and my dad live about 35 minutes from me. I was blessed with 2 great step-parents.

I met my husband on October 02, 2002. We had both taken dead end jobs at a local telemarketing place for some spending money. It was my sophomore year of college. (LOL- Im STILL a junior). I was not ready to be in a relationship because I had broken up with my high school sweetheart just months prior and we were still involved off and on. Also, my grandmother had just lost her battle with cancer and passed away in July 2002.

I knew that I really liked Stephen (my husband) but wasn't ready to commit. We hung out like we were attached at the hip but I kept saying "We are only friends." I dated a couple of other people but none of them were right for me. In August of 2004, Stephen and I quit talking because he couldn't stand watching me date these losers anymore. I was upset but still not ready to admit that I loved him.

Finally, in February of 05, I called him up and had him come over. I told him how I really felt and we got together right then. We got engaged on March 1, 2005. We got married in May and then again in August 2005. We took our honeymoon to Las Vegas, NV- where we had a blast.

Married life has been the same as single life but with more support. I feel like we have actually gotten even closer since the wedding. It is sometimes hard to deal with changing relationships with other family members, and the usual where to spend the holidays. Another thing that is hard is that his mother has moved in with us (last month) and June is not coming fast enough. Don't get me wrong- I love my MIL- just not living with her.

We have some issues that have come up since the wedding but we start counseling tonight. We are both determined to overcome our issues.

About me, I am a junior at the University of South Florida and an Interdisciplinary Social Science major. I graduate 12/2006 and it is not coming soon enough either. I work for a state agency part time.

Complicated Woman · #2 12-02-2005, 02:53 AM

Kelly, my mom is 14 years older than my stepdad! One year is NOTHING!!!!

555Ann555 · #3 12-07-2005, 06:52 AM

I sorry to hear it's not been as smooth a ride as you could have hoped, but I think it's great that you're both facing up to it early & trying to work throught the issues. Hope it all goes well for you both.

PlanetClaire · #4 12-07-2005, 06:54 AM

And I'm 13 years older than my FH. People are freaking out over 1 year? LOL

Well done on the seeking counsel! Better to tackle your issues than let them fester! Best of luck!

SuzyBride · #5 12-07-2005, 05:48 PM

I think its great that you are facing your issues head first and not hiding from them. So many people think that if you ignore it it will go away. Best of luck with counseling! Keep usposted!