This Is What Love Is All About! - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

breezy · #1 04-13-2006, 05:23 PM

this was just posted on one of my other groups. It is the kind of love I want to give.
For me it's a road I travel on daily. Some days I am better at giving of myself than others.

THIS IS WHAT LOVE IS ALL ABOUT!

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 a.m., when an elderly gentleman in his 80's, arrived to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am.

I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him. I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound.

On exam, it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had another doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer's disease. As we talked, I asked if she would be upset if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him, "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"

He smiled as he patted my hand and said, "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."

I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."

True love is neither physical, nor romantic. True love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be and will not be.

With all the jokes and fun that are in e-mails, sometimes there are some that come along that have an important message, and this is one of those kind. Just had to share it with you all.

Oh, by the way, peace is seeing a sunset and knowing who to thank.

The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have. (Amen to that!)

Lizbet · #2 04-13-2006, 06:04 PM

That was a nice story. Thanks for sharing.

whiddle · #3 04-13-2006, 06:46 PM

What a tearjerker. It reminds me of The Notebook.

fallbride · #4 04-13-2006, 07:51 PM

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Originally Posted by whiddle

It reminds me of The Notebook.

That is what I thought while I am sitting here with tears in my eyes. I just seen the Notebook for the second time and still cried at the end.

Heather · #5 04-13-2006, 08:43 PM

I could have written that about my grandparents. My grandfather had Alzheimers and my grandmother had to put him in a home two blocks away for three years. She went to see him everyday and he had no idea who she was.

Thank you for sharing.

ljeagle · #6 04-13-2006, 10:52 PM

This didn't just bring tears to my eyes it has made me cry. I just went and seen my grandmother today she is in private home care. Last time I went and seen her was about 2 month ago and she could remember who I was then and she remembered I was getting married. Today she didn't know who I was or any thing about me getting married. After I left there I ask my self why do I put my self though this it kills me to see her like this. Now I know she might not know who I am or even remember I was there but I do know who she is. Thanks Breezy!

breezy · #7 04-13-2006, 11:06 PM

LG, that gave me chills.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #8 04-14-2006, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by breezy

LG, that gave me chills.

Me, too!

swtdl11552 · #9 04-14-2006, 02:37 PM

I think I know that man

I work in a skilled nursing facility...one floor is a nursing home. I am the Director of Admissions. We have one man who literally sounds like he could've written that. He is so sweet...and once in awhile his wife recognizes something he does...like, he kissed her on the cheek while just chatting with me in the hallway the other day and she said "now that was such a nice gesture darling." And it fulfills him...those fleeting moments. Its absolutely the greatest thing!!

breezy · #10 07-19-2006, 03:44 PM

just a bump, I simply love it and think it's an important reminder!!

fergie · #11 11-23-2006, 10:07 AM

Nice one

janeandreawong · #12 12-07-2006, 01:34 PM

I've watched a movie entitled "The Notebook" it's about an old man reading their love story to his wife everyday in the hopes that she'll remember him. It's very moving..

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