Shower or no Shower

[Suzzeequ]

My mom and dad were married for 30 years. They now have been divorced for 6 years. My mom lives with me and my dad in his own house. They are now going to remarry. They are planning on renewing their vows and getting married at the courthouse.
Is it proper to have a traditional bridal shower for my mom?

[cru5h]

I'd say no, IF no one is invited to their wedding. If people are coming, then yes. Invite those people to the shower. I'm not a professional when it comes to these things, so wait for a few more responses before you make your decision.

[Lizbet]

I, personally, would not have a traditional shower. I would go with more of a bridal tea. Make it a get-together for her, her family, and her friends without the implied gift obligation.

However, I am not one of the ettiquette gurus on this site, so this is just an opinion.

BTW, welcome to Pash!

[wembley]

I like the idea of a tea or a lucheon gathering. Instead of a gift, you could have people bring a salad to share or something like that and make it more of a good excuse to get together rather than a gift giving party. She probably doesn't need a whole lot of things you would typically get at a shower anyway.

[wembley]

Oh, and welcome to PASH! It's nice to have you.

[ladedah]

Originally Posted by Lizbet

I, personally, would not have a traditional shower. I would go with more of a bridal tea. Make it a get-together for her, her family, and her friends without the implied gift obligation.

However, I am not one of the ettiquette gurus on this site, so this is just an opinion.

BTW, welcome to Pash!

I like this idea as well, and Welcome, too.

[syringa]

I also agree with Lizbet's idea. A tea or luncheon with close family and friends would be a great way to celebrate without the expectation of gifts. It's wonderful that your parents have been able to work out their differences and remarry. I'm sure you are pleased.

[ljeagle]

If they are not inviting people to the wedding then it's not right to have a shower for them to bring a gift to. I like the ideal of a nice luncheon or tea party. to your parents!

[SuzyBride]

Aww, yea! I love when people work things out and get back together.. I am a happy ending kind of person! I think a traditional shower isn't really appropriate, unless your mom wants one, then I say go for it! I also agree with Liz though, I think a nice brunch, luncheon, or a tea would be more meaningful and intimate with only family and close friends. And welcome to Pash by the way!

[Steph]

Did she have a shower the first time around? If so, I wouldn't have a shower. Just my opinion though. A brunch or BBQ sounds fun. Maybe a spa day with a few of her friends?

Welcome to the group!