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555Ann555 · #1 04-08-2006, 10:10 PM

I'm putting this in here because I'm trying to avoid tricky situations with my table plans...

I'm trying to sort out the table plan just now, I just wanted to check about ettiquette for the top table; is there a particular way to sit?

You know how the invites etc. always list the bride first, well, should the tables have the brides family first?

If you are looking at the top table from the room should the bride+ family be towards the left or the right?

Like:

MOB FOB MOH B G BM MOG FOG

or

FOG MOG BM G B MOH FOB MOB

I have it the first way at the moment, but for the seating chart I was going to list the names in a column rather than a row, so it looks like Mo's mum will be last on the list. I was just wondering if that would be offensive

Am I over thinking this?

ETA:
Question 2:

Would you sit the bride or the grooms family at table 2?

Question 3: Did you sit everyone who knows each other together or did you try to mix everything up?

SuzyBride · #2 04-08-2006, 10:47 PM

LOL don't you hate trying to figure all that out?! Honestly, I don't think it matters. Don't stress yourself out over it!

sparklesweetie · #3 04-08-2006, 11:54 PM

I'm no help here either. I'm going to let people sit where they want to. I do have place cards (came with my invitation kit) but I may just use those for favor tags or something. I was thinking it might be fun to name the tables anyway, but we'll see how bored I get in the week before the wedding.

I say do it how you want.

swtdl11552 · #4 04-09-2006, 01:39 AM

Ohhh Ann my darling!! Just put people in seats and tell them "If you don't like that seat, no big deal...you WILL be up and dancing the whole night anyway"

Then they can shut their hairy faces up about it. haha just kidding.

Where you sit, at your seat its just you & your FH right??? Cause if so...then the side he sits on is the side where his family should sit..and likewise on yoru side. Or is it not set up like that??

Heather · #5 04-09-2006, 02:04 AM

Oh boy - the seating chart was the most difficult thing, but I'm sure I made it that way, lol.

Our head table was kind of in the middle of everyone, with Mike and I at the "top" of the room. Here's a pic of how it was set up:
http://www.franklinplaza.com/ The first pic that shows up is how we were set up. (This is the actual location of our ceremony & reception.)

I set the members of the bridal party at the head table by who I wanted to be near. I had my family at the two tables to the left, and Mike's family at the two tables to the left.

Not sure if this helps!!

ETA: I sat the other tables by who knew each other or who would get along (age, etc.).

ljeagle · #6 04-09-2006, 02:56 AM

This is what I have seen done b-4 but I think you should do what u want.
date BM date BM date moh b g BM date gm date gm date (when I say date I mean there gf or bf or wifes or dh.) the first table on the bride side would be for her family and the first table on the grooms side would be for the groom. Unless you wanted the parents at the same table then I would do it at the closes table. As far as the other tables you would want to put people with other people they know or the same age.

syringa · #7 04-09-2006, 08:56 PM

There is no right or wrong way to do it; so do what seems to make the most sense to you.

555Ann555 · #8 04-09-2006, 09:36 PM

Thanks everyone

I've just been scrambling my brain!

Why do we let ourselves get so worked up about this nonsense?!

Thanks for the hint about putting the grooms family table near his side of the table, that makes more sense!

It'll kind of be like this

Top Table
(Uncle - MOB - WP. - Bride+Groom - WP. - MOG - Priest)
(table of 10)

#1 B's siblings(table of 6) _______ #2 G's siblings(table of 6)

#3 G's Family (table of 6)

#4 Family Friends(table of 8) _____________ #5 B&G's Friends(table of 8)

I have just two replies to get for the day reception, but still loads to get back for the evening! To be fair, we haven't even handed out half of the evening imvites, but they're mostly friends from the bar I work in, and Mo's friends from the football... We're getting there...

ljeagle · #9 04-10-2006, 02:25 AM

It's sounds like you are getting every thing together. Don't you just hate it how every one waits till the last min for RSVP.

555Ann555 · #10 04-10-2006, 12:15 PM

You having problems with your replies LJ? How long a dead-line did you give them? I gave 3 weeks for the all day invites & 4 weeks for the evening invites...

I can't really blame the people who haven't repied to the day invites... I didn't have the address for one, so she got her's after the deadline for replies! The other had a death in her family, so I didn't feel right giving her an invite just yet, she's a friend of the family (& the soloist at the church) so she should know she's coming...

I think I am starting to get organised