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doodlebug1981 · #1 04-05-2006, 02:36 AM

I read that you are supposed to give the host(s) of your shower a gift. Is it true, have ya'll? What'd you give her? I was clueless to this until I read it on another site. I had a shower last weekend at church. Was hosted by a Sunday school class, about 7 ladies. What could I get each of them that would be appreciated and would not leave me broke?

Steph · #2 04-05-2006, 02:37 AM

So what do people do that don't know about the shower and it is a surprise. Does the bride to be's mother get gifts for the hostesses?

Kim&Bob2004 · #3 04-05-2006, 02:45 AM

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Originally Posted by doodlebug1981

I read that you are supposed to give the host(s) of your shower a gift. Is it true, have ya'll? What'd you give her? I was clueless to this until I read it on another site. I had a shower last weekend at church. Was hosted by a Sunday school class, about 7 ladies. What could I get each of them that would be appreciated and would not leave me broke?

I had never heard of this until someone here mentioned it. So I am at a loss.....

doodlebug1981 · #4 04-05-2006, 02:46 AM

Good question, Mine wasn't a surprise but I suppose it wouldn't matter. I don't think you bring the gift for the host to the shower, it's given afterwards. I dunno, anyone heard of this.

SuzyBride · #5 04-05-2006, 03:03 AM

Around here sometimes people do and sometimes they don't give hostess gifts. I did for my church shower, but not my smaller bridal shower because it was thrown by my bridesmaids and I had gotten them something already that I gave to them at the RD. I honestly don't think it matters!

Heather · #6 04-05-2006, 03:06 AM

The gift is given after the shower. I had 8 hosts, at least that is how it was presented to me. I didn't give them all gifts but I did take my MOH to New York City for a night of dinner and just good ol' hanging out time. I paid for the hotel but she insisted on buying dinner.

swtdl11552 · #7 04-05-2006, 03:07 AM

If I'm not mistaken, usually its your maid of honor & mother of the bride who throw the shower... and at that, don't you get them gifts for partaking in the wedding in general anyway? I don't think its necessary. Maybe just send her a bouquet of flowers a day or two afterwards to thank her for making it so special for you.

doodlebug1981 · #8 04-05-2006, 03:16 AM

Well, as far as etiquete goes, I don't think the MOB should ever throw a shower. In my situation, the a Sunday school class at my church threw it. So the conclusion seems to be that it'd be a good thought... but what would be a good gift to give/ I don't want to go broke since 7 or so ladies threw it for me.

SuzyBride · #9 04-05-2006, 03:25 AM

What about something like small crosses, or candles, soemthing nice that won't break the bank.. if you even want to get them anything..

Kim&Bob2004 · #10 04-05-2006, 03:26 AM

My MOH and one of my BM threw my shower and I gave all the attendants gifts.

ljeagle · #11 04-05-2006, 03:43 AM

Since it was that Lady's class at the church why not get a picture to hang on the wall of the class room. Maybe of The Lords Prayer you could even print it out your self and put it in a nice frame. I'm just trying to think of what you could get and it just be one gift.

ladedah · #12 04-05-2006, 03:03 PM

I didn't know about this for sure either...I had posted the question on here about a month ago before I had my showers because I didn't want to look like a idiot and show up empty handed if it was proper to give a gift. The answer that I got was that it wasn't required but a nice gesture. I had three showers, my attendants threw me one for my friends and immediate family members (aunts, etc...) My FSIL hosted one for my FH side of the family, since there were a few I had not met and they wanted me to before the wedding....then two of my FMIL best friends hosted a shower for her friends and co-workers, many of who had known FH since he was a child..and I think it's customary for thier circle to do so.

For my attendants, I didn't get them anything since I purchased thank you gifts for the wedding that I feel encompasses all of the things they did. For the other three I found silver plated key rings that I had thier initials engraved on...they cost me $6 each. I gave them the gift after the shower was over with a handwritten note. All of them are still raving to my FMIL about what a nice and unnecessary thought it was...mega brownie points.

whiddle · #13 04-05-2006, 04:03 PM

I gave candles.

feb-bride · #14 04-05-2006, 08:56 PM

Gifts for your shower hostesses are nice gestures but not required. I gave each shower hostess a gift. I gave them their gift baskets after the shower was over. None of them expected anything.