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sparklesweetie · #1 03-29-2006, 01:03 AM

K, I know that you are not supposed to invite someone to a shower unless they are invited to the wedding also. But, in *this* case, with the ceremony and reception having two different lists, is it appropriate to invite those only invited to the reception to the shower?
My mom was wanting addresses from me and it got me to thinking. (Dangerous, I know!) And I know my mom won't care, and will get her panties up in a bunch if I tell her not to invite the reception people. So, this way I can edit the list before I give it to her.

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What do you think?

swtdl11552 · #2 03-29-2006, 01:05 AM

Thats touchy...as I've said before, and I'm not afraid to repeat again...I'm not at all the etiquette person - I'm sure Jen or Vic or Syringa have some advice for you there.

ljeagle · #3 03-29-2006, 01:09 AM

I don't see no problem in it. But I'm also one not to give right advice on etiquette.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #4 03-29-2006, 01:10 AM

I'm not good at etiquette, either!

But I'd say that's fine. They're coming to the reception, which is "good enough" in that you care about them and wanting them there for the wedding day, etc., just the ceremony facilities are limited. I'd give you a

there.

sparklesweetie · #5 03-29-2006, 01:27 AM

Good deal!

whiddle · #6 03-29-2006, 05:09 AM

As long as they are invited to something (ceremony and reception or reception only), I don't see a problem with it.

555Ann555 · #7 03-29-2006, 01:17 PM

Well, the ettiquite is always slightly different over here because (as I'm sure you know by now) our weddings are always split into two; those invited to the ceremony & meal afterwards, and those just invited to the evenings entertainment...

I'd say it was fine to invite whoever you want from both lists. Having said that, I am only inviting those who made it to the 'all day' list, but that is because I'd like a more intimate night out.

michaelsbride · #8 03-29-2006, 02:50 PM

well i guess i dont have much etiquette because i'm having a shower here in orlando before i move. Most of the people coming to the shower are invited to the wedding but thats olny because they are my really close friends who i KNOW wont be able to go to the wedding. I guess you could look at it as a mini girls reception before i get married so they can participate since i know they cant afford to fly to san diego for the actual wedding. Thats probably a huge social faux pas but im so glad to get to share the this special day with so many close friends who would wish they could go to cali with me!