appropriate??

[treasia]

would it be appropriate for the quests to seat themselves? small, simple ceremony, only close family and friends. also can we skip the throwing of the bridal bouquet and garter removal? only one or two unmarrieds will attend. and how does one go about the first dance? Is it announced? how does that work exactly?

treasia

[feb-bride]

Originally Posted by treasia

would it be appropriate for the quests to seat themselves? small, simple ceremony, only close family and friends.

Yes - The guests can seat themselves. At my wedding (approximately 125 guests), the only guests who were actually "seated" were grandparents and parents. Everyone else seated themselves, and it worked out just fine.

Originally Posted by treasia

also can we skip the throwing of the bridal bouquet and garter removal? only one or two unmarrieds will attend.

Yes - you can skip the bouquet and garter tosses. They are not mandatory.

Originally Posted by treasia

and how does one go about the first dance? Is it announced? how does that work exactly?

If you are having a DJ, they can help you with this. Typically, it takes place after dinner and toasting, and the DJ announces it.

[treasia]

no dj, only playing some songs we recorded ourselves. that is why confused on this issue. also do not know if toasts will even be done. we just would like to have our first dance together afterward. didn't know whether that would be something father might announce or what?

treasia

[feb-bride]

You know, you don't HAVE to announce it at all. When my best friend got married, she and her husband had the reception in a restaurant. There was no "general" dancing, but the restaurant played "their song" and they just got up and danced. Afterward, they sat down and dinner started.

[treasia]

thanks, that would take some of the pressure off both of us. now only have to figure out who is going to take charge of the music for us. we thought possibly someone from the church might do this.

treasia

[Complicated Woman]

I would suggest asking a trusted friend or family member to MC if you are playing songs of your own. That way, someone other than you and your FH are fussing over the sound, etc.

I think all of what you wondered about is perfectly appropriate!

[ljeagle]

We have decided to not have any one seat people. The only person that will be escorted is my mother and my 6 yr old nephew is doing that. As far as the garter toss I'm not sure we will even do this just because there will only be a few that is not married so that is still up in the air. I have been to a few weddings that just gave the bouquet to a special guest.

[breezy]

I just gotta say, even if it weren't acceptable to not have a garter toss, seat guest ect. It is perfectly acceptable to be unacceptable . We are tossing alot of the traditions out the window. We aren't terribbly traditional people.

I am having my bouquet done as 4 small bouquets and then tied together into one. 2 of the small bouquets will have a small picture frame of my deseased grandfathers (Mom's Dad and Dad's Dad) I will give those to their wives and the other 2 are going to Mom's Mom (her parents are divorced) and Alan's adoptive Mother. We're using silk flowers so they will be a momento they can keep forever, or throw away, whichever they choose.

[Marrying_the_Good_Husband]

Yeah, I agree people can seat themselves without issue. I didn't do the garter/bouquet toss, either (the first wedding)--just not really my cup of tea. We did our first dance right after we were announced into the reception. Now, wait. Maybe we came in for cocktail hour--and then went back out to be announced and have the song?!? Nevermind. That was too long ago, I don't think I remember how it went! :laugh: But either suggestion is a good idea--whether you have your father annouce it or just do it.