Question wear it or not - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

deputysgurl · #1 11-29-2005, 07:48 PM

As most of you know I am wear my FMIL dress. But now I have another question. Do I wear my moms veil, which has to be totally reworked, or wear my FMIL, which was made to match the dress?

Any advice.

Lizbet · #2 11-29-2005, 07:56 PM

I can't vote yet, because to me it really depends on how your mother would feel. Would it be possible to wear your FMIL's veil and use something else of your mother's? Perhaps jewelry? I'm just thinking about my Mom and what she might think if I borrowed only items from my FMIL and not from her, when it was available.

Marge129 · #3 11-29-2005, 08:14 PM

I agree with Lizbet... I can't vote yet, either. I forget... how does your Mom feel about you wearing FMIL's dress? Would she be absolutely crushed if you went ahead and wore FMIL's matching veil or would she be OK with it?

My first reaction to your poll was "Duh... wear the veil that matches." But, I don't know your Mom or how she'd really feel if you didn't wear something of hers, too. KWIM?

deputysgurl · #4 11-29-2005, 10:24 PM

My mom finally told me that she is happy that i am wearing my fmil dress. with the dress I can't wear any jewelry (it wont look right). So it is either my moms veil or nothing of my moms. Ill post a pick of the dress soon, im waiting for the pics to come in. im just confused about what to do.

Lizbet · #5 11-29-2005, 10:45 PM

Can you post a pic of your Mom's veil, too? What adjustments would have to be made to make it usable? And, does your Mom know how much you'd have to change it to make it work?

I'm glad your Mom is happy about you wearing FMIL's dress.

One idea, more of a symbolic thing, that I did is that my Mom gave me my Grandma's (her Mom's) wedding ring to wear on a pin inside the hem of my gown during the ceremony. I'm not saying you should steal your Mom's wedding band for the day. It's just an example of something else you could do to make your Mom feel "special" too.

Complicated Woman · #6 11-29-2005, 11:04 PM

Oh, Lizbet, that's so sweet (the pinning the ring in your dress)! I think that would be a really nice thing for you to try doing with your mom's ring, deputysgirl!

whiddle · #7 11-30-2005, 01:04 AM

I pinned my late grandmother's e-ring on the inside of my dress.

I saw wear your FMIL's veil since it matches the dress. Perhaps, you could wear some of your Mom's earrings or something.

cru5h · #8 11-30-2005, 01:24 PM

Why not ask your mom? Maybe she wouldn't want her old veil totally reworked. Ask her what you should do. It sounds like you don't want to wear her veil and would rather go with the one that already matches the dress. Maybe you can get her to see how the other veil fits better with the dress.

TheaterDiva1 · #9 11-30-2005, 04:26 PM

If you wear FMIL's veil and you can't wear any jewelry with this dress, can your mother at least give you a hankerchief or something you can carry for your wedding? I got the idea from GMIL, who gave me an heirloom hanky as a shower gift.

Meanwhile, it would help if you post a pisture of the dress and both veils. You may be able to use your mom's with minimal adjustment, but I'd have to see before I can judge.