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ldwright54 · #1 03-25-2006, 02:20 AM

My daughter and FSIL are getting married this Oct. They've lived together a couple years and have everything they need for their home. About the only thing they want is to register for a honeymoon at a local travel agency. They don't really care if they have showers/parties. Is it me or them? I'm not getting this logic. What do you all think?

Kim&Bob2004 · #2 03-25-2006, 02:23 AM

A couple that doesn't care about gifts??? Is that it? Maybe I am confused about your question?

michaelsbride · #3 03-25-2006, 02:30 AM

Im confused too!

ldwright54 · #4 03-25-2006, 02:33 AM

That's my understanding of their discussions. I think it's odd that all they want is the honeymoon registry. Should someone plan one anyway?

michaelsbride · #5 03-25-2006, 02:38 AM

I would say no if they dont WANT one... but thats just me. but you wanna know something funny... for some reason no matter how many times i read your question, rather than reading future son in law, i was reading future sister in law... so what i was getting was your daughter and your future sister in law both dont want showers! lol

been a LONG day... sorry.

Kim&Bob2004 · #6 03-25-2006, 03:20 AM

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Originally Posted by ldwright54

That's my understanding of their discussions. I think it's odd that all they want is the honeymoon registry. Should someone plan one anyway?

I never heard of a honeymoon registry before. Wow. Anyway, if they really don't want a shower or anything then don't. However if you would still like to throw a little get together and theme it around the honeymoon you could. Maybe do it for the couple not just bride, it would give them a chance to maybe meet with family and friends. And if people wanted to bring something they could, but not needed. Lets say they wanted a Hawaii honeymoon. well, you could theme it around that and if people wanted they could bring gifts just for that trip or something. But if they would get really put out by you doing this, then I say DON'T!

kenzies_mama · #7 03-25-2006, 03:32 AM

I like Kim's idea. If you gonna let them all know the couple is register for their honeymoon they could bring cards with what part of the honeymoon they bought. I know at least at the honeymoon registries I've looked at the guests buy parts, like a romantic dinner, or scuba diving or a portion of the airfare etc.

cru5h · #8 03-25-2006, 03:39 AM

As far as ettiquette goes, this request - even though it says "no party", is still a gift/cash grab. They are actually specifying that they want this gift (basically money), but no party. I know the couple doesn't see it that way. I'm sure they're in no way trying to come off like that, but many people will take it that way.

There isn't a nice way to put it to the guests. It should be spread by word-of-mouth that this honeymoon registry is what they want. I wouldn't spread the part about there being no party. They'll figure that out later. I'd get permission from the bride and groom to throw a get-together before doing so. If they specifically requested no parties, even a well-intentioned "get together" is still a party.

swtdl11552 · #9 03-25-2006, 02:15 PM

Well - they said they don't care about a party either way... so since my family cans the etiquette EVERY SINGLE TIME there is something going on.... if it were us... my family would have the shower for us and do 2 things..they'd put a registry card in there (the honeymoon registries have them, just like a regular store) and also include a wishing well. Understand...a registry does NOT equal "only give us gifts from this place"... so if you put the honeymoon registry in there - and some people opt out, that is ok too. If NO ONE opts out, well the wishing well will be there for little gadgets/gifts. Or even that canned goods one someone told us about on here.
Thats just my opinion - but again as far as etiquette is concerned...that is not at all my forte.