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treasia · #1 03-22-2006, 12:26 PM

how many times can i change the date of my wedding without going crazy. it seems each time we pick a date and ok with pastor someone in my family is not able to attend that date. now we are aiming for a third date. getting really tired of this. first was vacation schedule for sister out of whack (she is also taking my daughter with her) and second time falls after car insurance is due (on my dads' and have to change that) and now as said shooting for third. if this date doesn't work i am about ready to throw my hands up and yell!!!!!!

now the expected date will be may 20th. at least we hope so. i guess what i was looking for hear is somewhere to just bitch (hope i can use this word) about it. also what with moving, wedding and all the above i forgot to call and even tell my brother. i knew he would hear through the grapevine anyway but now feel bad about it. he got his feelings hurt as well. so must call him and apoligize for it. we are 15 years apart and quite honestly i don't know him as well as sis. he was 3 when i left home. but none the less i do feel bad about it. now watch that date will not be agreeable to him. starting to feel overwhelmed as each date we pick only brings it closer than originally planned and i haven't even unpacked the house yet.

well thanks for listening to me fuss about things. is there a site on here to fuss? haha.

treasia

Steven Galvez · #2 03-22-2006, 12:48 PM

Treasia,

I'm sorry to hear about the problems you are having selecting your date. I hope your third date works out for you.

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is there a site on here to fuss? haha.

There actually is such a place here at Pash. We have a Venting forum which is an optional forum that you can join. Go to your USER CP, look under Miscellaneous, and click on Group Memberships. You will see a list of optional forums, one of which is called Vent! (otherwise known as &*($@^! ). Hope this helps...

555Ann555 · #3 03-22-2006, 01:33 PM

I doubt you'll be able to find a day that suits everyone... I think, as much as it might feel akward, you're going to have to find a date & stick to it. If your family wants to be there badly enough they will alter their plans.

Not that this is any of my business, but I'd say moving it because you daughter was going on holiday with your sis is fair enough, but changing it because your dad's car insurance is due??? What was that all about?!

You need to stand your ground. Doesn't your FH have anything to say about the shift in dates? I know it'd bother mine...

cru5h · #4 03-22-2006, 01:36 PM

Sorry, hun. It sounds completely frustrating. I hope this one works out for you. And always feel free to fuss and complain here. There's a lot of stress in wedding planning.

wynelle · #5 03-22-2006, 01:47 PM

Honey, you can't please everyone with a pleasing machine. I would have thought that your wedding would be the vacation plans for your sister and niece. And I have no idea what bearing yor father's car insurance has on a wedding.

Feel free to select a date and stick to it. If it works for you and your fiance and the pastor, then go for it. If others want to attend, they will arrange their schedules around it.

Complicated Woman · #6 03-22-2006, 01:54 PM

That sounds really trying.

I agree with the others, you'll need to just pick a date and tell your family to plan around it.

The only person's absence who could make me consider moving the wedding is my own or my fiance's.

Ok, and maybe my dad, since he's paying for just about everything.

ljeagle · #7 03-22-2006, 04:52 PM

Pick your date and go with it. They will work around it if it mean any thing to them. We played with dates for a month finally i just said I don't care this is the date and if you can't come I'm sorry.

whiddle · #8 03-22-2006, 05:14 PM

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Originally Posted by wynelle

Feel free to select a date and stick to it. If it works for you and your fiance and the pastor, then go for it. If others want to attend, they will arrange their schedules around it.

Exactly. You won't be able to please everyone. Keep your sanity and do what is best for you and your FH. There will always be one person that has a complaint with your date, ultimately, they have to make the decision to attend or not.

Welcome to Pash!

swtdl11552 · #9 03-22-2006, 05:29 PM

The girls are right hun...you have to pick a date that is good for you and your FH, the pastor, and the place. Everyone else will either
A. Make that day good for them
OR
B. Won't come....

In any event...I constantly say this....
"THOSE WHO MIND DON'T MATTER....
THOSE WHO MATTER DON'T MIND!!!"

Learn it, Love it, Live it....it means a lot!!

Steph · #10 03-22-2006, 05:33 PM

If this new date doesn't work out for another person stick to your guns and keep this new date.

As the ladies have stated above you can't please everyone.

TheaterDiva1 · #11 03-22-2006, 05:51 PM

I'm sorry you're going through this. And honestly, I agree with everyone here - you won't be able to please everyone so you have to do what works for you and FH.

And I'm curious - what does your dad's car insurance have to do with our wedding?

treasia · #12 03-24-2006, 12:50 PM

thanks to everyone for listening. we have finally chosen a date and our sticking to it. come heck or high water. may 21st at 5 pm. it is on a sunday afternoon, but the church does not have sunday night services. so worked out well. the pastor was going on vacation and not going to be back till this day. so fh said "putting my foot down and not changing it again". first time he has put his foot down. haha. and did it over phone no less. as to what my dads car insurance had to do with it? i am on my fathers car insurance policy. he finally retired this year from farming and money is tight. he pays it yearly and then i would pay him monthly. he found out that once he paid it for the year he could not be reimbursed for the remainder of the difference when i got added to fh's policy. and though my family has never had financial problems, since retiring they will. i did not want my father to loose this money, when they will need it. so hope this explains that issue.

glad to know there is a section to vent some frustration as well. gotta have somewhere to vent sometimes. other than to family.

thanks again,
treasia

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #13 03-24-2006, 01:59 PM

That's great about the date! Whoo-hoo! Ok, that make sense for the car insurance. I suppose you could have just gotten your own policy without being married, but if you feel it's easier for you to do being married, that's understandable.

ljeagle · #14 03-24-2006, 04:47 PM

Ok you have less then 2 months to plan your wedding. Do you already have a lot done?

treasia · #15 03-24-2006, 05:45 PM

no, sad to say not a lot done. to busy at the moment trying to get new home livable, cleaned and unpacked. and also getting ready for our planned vacation in two weeks time. all i have managed to do so far is plan the date.

and some of the invitation list as well. have picked out the invitations thus far. checked with some flower shops to get ideas on costs of flowers. we are not planning on anything fancy, just simplicity with a touch of elegance. is that possible? haha. i know there is much to do from this point on, but i gotta get this house done first. haven't even begun to look for dress. but only want a nice ivory semi-formal (something i can wear to church afterwards) dress. i do not want to have something that hangs in the closet unused. i just gotta take this one day at a time for now. overwhelmed to say the least. i have got pleny of crystal and silver from mother to use. and as said nothing to fancy. as details progress i will let everyone know.

once more thanks

ljeagle · #16 03-24-2006, 05:53 PM

Sounds like you know what you want. That a good start! If I can help with any thing let me know.