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ljeagle · #1 03-17-2006, 02:07 AM

As most of you seen my soon to me DIL just found out she's pregnant I think it was the 8th that she found out. Well she just got back for the hospital she had a miscarriage. Well she wasn't to far along in this pregnancy they said she didn't need a DNC. She seems to be doing ok with it I just had a few question.

When she found out she was pregnant with Connor they found cervical cancer. (I didn't know about this till we talked tonight) Ok I have had the first stages of cervix caner and as soon as they found it they froze my cervix with in days. They found mine due to a miscarriage back in 98. Well when they found her cancer they wanted to end that pregnancy and remove the cancer. Well she didn't want to do that since she was 3 months along so they waited. They told her they couldn't do any thing till 6 months after she had the baby. Does any one know why they had to wait so long after she had the baby? It don't make since to be this cancer is dangerous. They also want her to sign papers when they do the surgery that if they can't remove the cancer that they can preform a hysterectomy. Don't think I spelled that right! I don't know what they was thinking about her getting pregnant again knowing that she had to take care of the cancer in a few months.

Kim&Bob2004 · #2 03-17-2006, 03:43 AM

Maybe they had to wait for healing after having the baby. Anyway, she needs to get it taken care of. Also she CAN refuse to sign the paper telling them that she and her husband will decide together if she wants a hysterectomy (sp), and a few hours or a few days won't make that big of a difference most likely. They may not want her to refuse but she can. She needs to be in on it becuase if they did it with just consulting her hubby it could end up with her being upset with hubby and doctors. imho, of course.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #3 03-17-2006, 01:33 PM

Oh, that must be so scary for her. Maybe that's why they did rush to have another baby again--thinking what if we can't in the future. Of course it's short-sighted not to think about her own life and well-being, but different people handle scary news in different ways. I can't answer any of your questions, but I hope she'll be ok.

wynelle · #4 03-17-2006, 11:47 PM

Is this the same FDIL who became violent during a fight with your step-son? I hadn't heard any of the follow-up on that.

This is a really unusual situation, and I wonder if she accurately understood what the doctors said. Usually, if it is the first trimester and it is detected, the physicians encourge early termination. If the mom refuses to do that, or if *the physicians think a six month delay is acceptable, the doctors usually do a c-section as soon as the baby is viable outside the womb, and then immediately start treatment.

If she had been diagnosed with actual cervical cancer, the physicians would have "staged" it (or determined the level of involvement/spread to other organs). The very earliest actual cancer would be stage1A. They might delay treatment until after delivery for that, but they would have delivered her early and immediately treated her. Or at least that is the most common route.

If she has "precancerous" cells or "abnormal cells", the physicians might delay treatment until after delivery, and a repeat, post-pregnancy pap is done to confirm the cells. That's when the cryo and cone biopsy, etc can be done.

In terms of the consent, she *can* refuse to have the hysterectomy. But if it has progressed to that level, she would be getting chemo and radiation and surgery just to keep her alive. Since one of the biggest risks of surgery is the anesthesia, it makes sense to only have to undergo anesthesia once.

Does she have a follow-up appointment in the immediate future for treatment? Now is *not* the time to delay and try to get pregnant again. Not if she wants to have a life with her baby.

ljeagle · #5 03-17-2006, 11:58 PM

I only have one fdil and yea she is the one who got violent with John. She said she has a appointment on Tues. I think that is what she said. It just don't make since to me why they have to wait 6 months after she had the baby. I would of thought they would of did it right then. They wouldn't even take the baby early they let her go into labor. She said she was not trying to get pregnant she said she was taking birth control at the same time every day and useing condoms every time. I know it all sounds funny to me too. The way she talked it was past the stag that they could just freeze her cervix's. So if all this is true then it is good in a way that she had a miscarriage. Its sad yes I know I have been there but with her health she don't need any more problems.