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My parents have been serving the same church for 19 years (we moved there when I was 5). Now I'm getting married at that church. My fiance and I can't afford to host all 600 church members (most of whom think of me as a part of their family) at our reception. What can we do so we don't offend anybody?
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I don't know if Ellie will make it over to this site, but I wanted to offer my advice.
I'm a youth pastor at the church where I'm getting married, so FH and I are in a similar predicament.
The only thing we can think to do is have an open invitation to the ceremony and then set up our fellowship hall with coffee and desserts (NOT wedding cake, too much $$) where we will linger for about an hour with church friends. Afterward, invited guests (our families and very close friends) will attend an off site reception with dinner, dancing, etc.
We're being VERY selective about the friends we invite to cut cost and avoid hurt feelings. It really is essentially the bridal party and families, with just a few very dear friends.
Also, we're planning our wedding for a Friday in the late afternoon, which will limit the people that want to attend and also makes clean-up easier for my friends and co workers at church...I want them to enjoy my reception, not rush back to clean for Sunday worship!
Our pastors son got married a few years ago and he actually had the reception at the church, under a big tent, and had a potluck where guests brought a dish. It went over well in our area and with the families involved (both he and the bride were pastor's kids).
Hope this helps if you're around.
re: parents are pastors, Ellie, are you here?
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