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Indigo · #1 03-05-2006, 04:16 PM

No pun intended.

We went to meet with the preist on Saturday. The first quetion he asked was "Have either of you ever been married?" Well, I was married when I was 20 for 5 months (big mistake)!! Anyway, he said that in the Catholic church I have to go through an anulment that takes 1 year!! I guess becasue I am not Catholic. We have our wedding date set for July 29th - in 4 months. This means we cannot get married in the church we were planning on. Our preist wondered why the other preist had not asked me that question (since we are getting married out of state and I have only chatted with him via phone).

Well, niether of us saw this coming. We have to find out if the Presbytarian church across the street is open that day

Our reception is set for that day and it's the only day the whole summer that the place is available. There is only one other church in that city so I hope we can get it.

FH is a little disapointed that we cannot get married Catholic (his religion).

ljeagle · #2 03-05-2006, 04:39 PM

Oh man that sucks I don't know any thing about the Catholic Religion. I had never even heard that one b-4. Since your wedding is in the summer can u have it out side near the reception hall. Or is it 2 hot there is the summer?

555Ann555 · #3 03-05-2006, 05:50 PM

I'm sorry you can't have it where you wanted, your FH's parish priest would probably bless the marriage for him after you have been married elsewhere if that is what is bothering him...

As far as the Catholic church is concerned if you were married in any Christian ceremony before then you are still married now (whether or not you have been divorced) the strange thing is that it doesn't always apply to people who were married previously in a civil ceremony. They figure the promise wasn't made to God that way.

They're not as strict as they used to be... but they still won't back down on divorce or not wanting to have children.

Marge129 · #4 03-05-2006, 05:55 PM

My Dad and Step-Mom went through the same thing. They got married in an Episcopalian (sp?) church because she was divorced and Catholic. It sucks.

I hope everything works out and you can find another church in time.

Complicated Woman · #5 03-05-2006, 07:55 PM

I am surprised that the other priest never asked you, since it is a big sticking point. It's also very hard to get an annulment, because many parishes still stick to the whole "the marriage was never consumated" thing. But, on the plus side, there are plenty of Evangelical churches that will marry you guys. If you still want a high church ceremony, Episcopalian marriage ceremonies are often similar to the ones that the Catholic church offers. Good luck!

syringa · #6 03-05-2006, 08:33 PM

If you are not able to find another church to have the wedding, you might have it at the same place as the reception or at another non-religious facility. You should be able to find a judge or a non-denominational minister who will preform the ceremony, then you can have the marriage blessed by the Catholic church after you obtain an annullment, assuming that you want to do that.

fallbride · #7 03-05-2006, 10:23 PM

Did you guys ever think about getting married outside?

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #8 03-06-2006, 12:59 AM

How frustrating! I hope everything works out with the other church!

michaelsbride · #9 03-06-2006, 01:24 AM

Sorry to hear that... the episcipalian (wow i butchered that one) church has been referred to as catholic without the guilt (i'm catholic by the way) so that might be an option.

whiddle · #10 03-06-2006, 02:42 AM

at the title of the original post!!!!

feb-bride · #11 03-06-2006, 03:47 PM

I would probably use an Episcopalian church. It's considered "Catholic Lite" to a lot of people.

Indigo · #12 03-06-2006, 03:59 PM

The town we are getting married in only has one other church - presbytarian. We would have to drive 45 minutes on a curvy dangerous road to get to the nearest town to go to a different church

. Not too big of a deal if we really had to, but kind of an inconvenience. Especially to the out of town guests that are not familiar with the area. We would have a whole convoy of cars driving into the town and then back again an hour later. I am just hoping the church is available. If not then I could look into an outside wedding. The weather is very unpredictable in Upper Michigan though. Oh well I am sure we will work something out.

Complicated Woman · #13 03-06-2006, 04:00 PM

Does your reception site have an option to hold the ceremony there as well? Maybe you could talk to them.

syringa · #14 03-06-2006, 04:55 PM

If the reception site has an outdoor option, you could rent a canopy in case of bad weather. The cost of the canopy could be similar to, or less, than the cost of renting another facility for the ceremony.