Another Etiquette Question - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

ladedah · #1 03-03-2006, 03:21 PM

We got our first gift in the mail yesterday, we didn't open the box....so I'm wondering if we should hold all of the gifts until we open the other wedding gifts, are we supposed to open them now and send thank you cards now? The other part of the question is...if we are supposed to send thank you cards now, the thank you's we ordered for our wedding gifts have my new last name on it and I thought you weren't supposed to use it until after you got married....

if anyone could tell me what they did or what is supposed to be done, I'd appreciate it...I just don't know if people expect a thank you right away so that they know we received it or what...

Thanks, ladies.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #2 03-03-2006, 03:26 PM

You're supposed to send the thank you now--so the person knows you received the gift. But, no, you would have to still use your maiden name, so you wouldn't be able to use your thank you cards.

Unless you can cutely add in "almost" or "future" before the name.

feb-bride · #3 03-03-2006, 03:28 PM

If you want to wait until after the wedding to open your gifts, that's fine. You should at least send an acknowledgment note to the early gift-givers. That way, they know you received the gift.

Marge129 · #4 03-03-2006, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by feb-bride

If you want to wait until after the wedding to open your gifts, that's fine. You should at least send an acknowledgment note to the early gift-givers. That way, they know you received the gift.

Yep. I sent all thank-you's after the wedding.... but let people know that I had received the gift and was waiting to open it.

ladedah · #5 03-03-2006, 03:56 PM

Margie....why are you still here? you're supposed to have a baby today

Heather · #6 03-03-2006, 03:59 PM

I opened gifts as we received them and sent thank you notes immediately. I bought a simple pack of them (and stamps) and had them on hand so I could get it out asap.

ETA - If they attended the wedding, I sent them another thank you note for attending.

feb-bride · #7 03-03-2006, 04:17 PM

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Originally Posted by ladedah

Margie....why are you still here? you're supposed to have a baby today

Not until March 26th, remember???

syringa · #8 03-03-2006, 04:30 PM

You can also open the gifts as you receive them, which makes much less work later. Then, send the person a quick e-mail or a phone call to say that the gift arrived. You don't need to mention what it is. Then, mail the thank you after the wedding. You can write the thank you note when you open the gift and hold on to it to mail shortly after the wedding. The main thing is to let the sender know that the gift arrived safely.

TheaterDiva1 · #9 03-03-2006, 04:38 PM

I would open the gift right away and send the TY so the person who sent it will know you got it safely. After the wedding, you can send out a second TY thanking them for attanding.

ladedah · #10 03-03-2006, 05:39 PM

they're not attending, which is why I think we got the gift so early...

Anyways, I e-mailed them that we received the package and were waiting to open gifts until after our honeymoon. and I also mentioned that we were sorry to hear they were unable to make it but we would stop by to see them next time we were home.

ljeagle · #11 03-04-2006, 02:45 AM

I think what you did sounds good! How are you not going to open it? It would be killing me to figure out what is in the box.

fallbride · #12 03-04-2006, 12:23 PM

I do not mean to hijack your thread. I have 2 big boxes from my mother (who passed away almost 15 years ago) that are not to be opened till my wedding. I have not opened them yet. I think I know what one is. My mother knew she would not make it to see me get married someday, so she made sure that she got me something for it. That is the one present that will mean the most to me.

michaelsbride · #13 03-04-2006, 01:34 PM

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Originally Posted by fallbride

I do not mean to hijack your thread. I have 2 big boxes from my mother (who passed away almost 15 years ago) that are not to be opened till my wedding. I have not opened them yet. I think I know what one is. My mother knew she would not make it to see me get married someday, so she made sure that she got me something for it. That is the one present that will mean the most to me.

Have the tissues near by!! For me, I would probably open it the day before the wedding because i KNOW i would be crying for hours no matter what it is. its going to be hard enough doing our special moment for my grandmother that has passed... i just cant even imagine....

what a beautiful for moment for you though.

Complicated Woman · #14 03-04-2006, 01:45 PM

Fallbride, how wonderful that your mother thought of and planned for your wedding day. What a beautiful gift in and of itself.

cru5h · #15 03-04-2006, 02:06 PM

Fallbride your story is really beautiful story.

ljeagle · #16 03-04-2006, 03:51 PM

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Originally Posted by fallbride

I do not mean to hijack your thread. I have 2 big boxes from my mother (who passed away almost 15 years ago) that are not to be opened till my wedding. I have not opened them yet. I think I know what one is. My mother knew she would not make it to see me get married someday, so she made sure that she got me something for it. That is the one present that will mean the most to me.

I think I would have to wait till after the wedding to do this in private. What do you think the one is? Don't forget the box of tissues. Make sure you let us know what it is. You tell us this and we have to wait so long to find out what it is.

breezy · #17 03-04-2006, 04:55 PM

Fallbride, what a special and tender thing for a mother to do. It gives me chills just sitting here reading it.

ladedah · #18 03-06-2006, 05:07 PM

wow fallbride, that is so very special!!!!

Cirig · #19 03-06-2006, 05:13 PM

OMG- I have tears in my eyes just thinking about that Fallbride. How sweet.

Lizbet · #20 03-06-2006, 08:31 PM

That is so sweet! I agree that I would have to do it either the day before or the day after the ceremony.

cheechi · #21 03-18-2006, 03:09 AM

fallbride - I am touched by that lovely gesture from your mother. It just wonderful for people, such as you, to know that even though people aren't with us in life, they'll always be with us in spirit. When you open the presents and those tears are pouring down your face, don't forget to look at the sky and thank your mother... because she'll be watching you.. like any other proud mother would be to their own daughter

swtdl11552 · #22 03-18-2006, 03:19 PM

Fall - I think your Mother must've been an amazing woman. Its so special how it resonates through - I think you should get a webcam, and open the boxes while ALL OF US are watching

- cause I can't wait to find out what was in them.

Of course I don't really mean that. That really will be a special, private moment. Its very exciting though. Congratulations on having such a great woman in your life. I'm so glad she found a way to "be there" on your wedding day. She'll probably be more present than half of your guests I am sure!!