Shower Invites - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

Heather · #1 03-01-2006, 10:42 PM

I was reading through the post about the shower invites and have one of my own. This was kind of touched on but not specifically.

What's the etiquette on the registry cards from the store at which the bride & groom are registered? Is it "okay" to include them in the shower invite?

(ETA: I just realized that Sharon Naylor had answered this question for me too but I would still love a general concensus...)

Marge129 · #2 03-01-2006, 10:56 PM

I say they're OK. I've always included them... and they've been included in every shower invitation I've ever received.

(You may want to make this a poll to tally the votes easier)

Complicated Woman · #3 03-01-2006, 11:00 PM

I really appreciate getting the registry cards with the wedding invite. It helps me know that I'm going to the right place and getting something that the bride and groom will want.

For a bridal shower though, I would think (and I could be wrong) that those are more intimate and that the bride would want her friends to be able to choose gifts that are a little bit more personal than an item off the registry. I wouldn't be offended by it's presence, but I don't think a bride should expect that they be used.

Heather · #4 03-02-2006, 12:07 AM

I don't know how to create a poll after I've already posted. It's okay though, I'm just looking for some feedback.

cru5h · #5 03-02-2006, 01:59 AM

I don't mind getting cards in the shower invite. I find them helpful.

munchkin · #6 03-02-2006, 02:08 AM

I think it depends on where you live. Here it's tacky and I wouldn't do it, but obviously it's not tacky in other parts. I prefer to ask the MOH or MOB what the bride wants rather than getting a card telling me where to go.

feb-bride · #7 03-02-2006, 03:44 PM

I know that in my neck of the woods, people get upset if you do NOT include them.

Jennifer · #8 03-02-2006, 03:48 PM

Same here...it's expected to get the cards in the invites. And everyone shops off of the registry. We all view the shower as a time to celebrate with the bride and "shower" her with the gifts she will need for her home.

When I registered at Bed, Bath and Beyond they gave me over 400 of those stupid cards. We used some for the shower invites and threw the rest away.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #9 03-02-2006, 03:58 PM

From what I heard, you're NOT supposed to put them in the wedding invite, but you ARE supposed to include it in the shower. It's the way everyone I know does it.

Heather · #10 03-02-2006, 04:07 PM

Thanks everyone. I definitely wouldn't put them in the wedding invites (I guess I should say advise her not to). If she wants them in the shower invites I'll go ahead and do that. I don't think there will be a large guest list anyway, probably less than 20 I'm guessing.

Thank you!

syringa · #11 03-02-2006, 06:21 PM

One way to make registry locations known is to provide the information in a shower invitation. In my area, guests often shop for both the shower and the wedding at the same time from the registry info that they received in the shower invitation. But that isn't the norm everywhere.