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Pamela B · #1 02-28-2006, 04:40 PM

My fiance (Lee) and I have been engaged for 5 years. Due to technical difficulties, we have just now set the date for April 22nd. We want something simple yet meaningful, with close friends and family. I have been married once, and he has been married twice before.

We are planning a religious ceremony (neither of us will settle for anything less). His daughters are my attendants and his dad is his best man. We are asking our guests to not purchase gifts as we have consolidated two full households into one.

This is what I want to do, and I would like to know if others find it in good taste..

At the reception - Instead of a guest book, I was planning to set out cards and colorful inkpens. I intend to have questions printed on both sides of the cards (about the size of the postcard). Of course, I will ask for their name, and their relation to the bride and/or groom. Then I plan to ask the guests to share their memories of us. I also plan to ask them for their advice to build a strong marriage.

I would greatly appreciate any feedback and/or suggestions on this.

Many thanks to all of you for your help.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #2 02-28-2006, 04:48 PM

I think that's a wonderful idea! Girls, it was Bebe who had a similar idea, right? However, she used these pre-printed blank pages that she was able to consolidate into a memory book. Anyone remember the link to it? It was really beautiful and sentimental. Oh, and welcome to Pash, Pamela! I'm looking forward to getting to know more about you.

fallbride · #3 02-28-2006, 04:51 PM

That is a great idea!

Steph · #4 02-28-2006, 05:00 PM

I like the idea of cards for advice/memory book.

wembley · #5 02-28-2006, 05:38 PM

That's kind of like what we're going to be doing. I didn't want just a guest book with their name on the line so we're making cards (I haven't decided if I'm going to print on the card or make little instruction cards for the tables) and there will be one at each spot. Afterwards we're going to put them into a book (you can just get a pretty photo album that will fit the size of your cards or a three ring binder and page protectors) and then you have a really special guest book to look through.

Heather · #6 02-28-2006, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Pamela B

We are planning a religious ceremony (neither of us will settle for anything less).

I think the idea of having guests write on pages is great. You'll cherish something like that for a long time.

As for the gifts, I wouldn't comment either way to anyone except for your family and wedding party. I simply wouldn't register anywhere, but you are probably going to receive gifts anyway.

Complicated Woman · #7 02-28-2006, 06:30 PM

This is a link that breezy posted a while ago: http://guestbookstore.com/

I like their stuff a lot.

H, I am guessing by "religious ceremony" she meant more that they didn't want to just do the very informal, low-key courthouse in jeans with a few witnesses thing. I think that tends to be more what people mean.

Heather · #8 02-28-2006, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Complicated Woman

I think that tends to be more what people mean.

I'm not taking any chances so I'm keeping it zipped, lol.

Lizbet · #9 02-28-2006, 06:51 PM

Welcome Pamela.

I think the personalized cards are a great idea. For my wedding we had the guest book attendant take a polaroid pic of each guest to have them sign. I worked out great for us. I love having something to look at other than just names in a list.

ljeagle · #10 02-28-2006, 07:20 PM

welcome to PASH!!! Your ideals sounds great.

555Ann555 · #11 02-28-2006, 07:27 PM

Hello

I think it's a lovely idea! Ladeadel & Bebe used the same guest book where there was a whole range of questions for the guests... it's the link that CW posted...

I think it's a great idea to have more than just the guests name on a line. On the gift topic; I think that people will want to give you something even if you aren't particularly needing anything...

Would you go to a wedding empty handed, even if they asked?

cru5h · #12 02-28-2006, 08:10 PM

great idea

I like things that are off the beaten path like that, and I think it would make your guests feel like they are really a part of something special.

Chillchacha · #13 02-28-2006, 08:58 PM

Pamela,

I think that is a great idea. My Fh and I are going to do something similar with our guest book. The questions will really help people like me who never know what to write and end up writing something completely lame.

Lizbet · #14 02-28-2006, 09:34 PM

BTW, I forgot to post in my last entry that my Mom had my shower guests do something similar. Instead of signing the guest book, they each wrote "Words of Wisdom" to the future wife (me).

My favorite was from my MOH's step-mom. She wrote, "When you fight, fight fair." David and I really don't fight, but I'm sure that at some point during our marriage it will happen. (You can't live with someone for years and years with out having at least one major disagreement unless one of you simply has no mind of their own. -- Please no arguments, this is just my opinion.) And, I plan to keep this phrase in mind.

feb-bride · #15 02-28-2006, 10:24 PM

I did something similar at my wedding. Instead of a guest book, I had decoratively-cut scrapbook paper and scrapbook pens on each table at the reception. The guests wrote us well-wishes, advice, or whatever they wanted. I taped the papers into our wedding album.

whiddle · #16 02-28-2006, 11:26 PM

I think it is wonderful idea....I wish I had thought of that.

michaelsbride · #17 03-04-2006, 07:19 PM

[quote=Complicated Woman]This is a link that breezy posted a while ago: http://guestbookstore.com/

I'm copying from the guestbook i created at the guestbookstore.... bought my album for it today and it was like $5 as opposed to the 15.00 one on there. All together i'm making the same album but for about half the cost!! Now if only i could get my caterer, florist, photographer, etc to take joann's 40% off coupons!