Thank you cards - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

555Ann555 · #1 02-19-2006, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Heather

Two weeks ago I got the thank you note. Inside was a pic of the bride and groom and A TYPED, GENERAL THANK YOU. What it said was: "Thank you for attending our wedding, for your gift and for sharing our special day."

That's it. I was so horrified I threw the whole thing away. I know if the Groom had is way it would have been done properly but this chick is now wearing the pants in the family.

I was curious about the etiquette of thank you cards after reading Heathers post in the favors thread...

Do you think it is in poor taste (hastily avoiding that 'tacky' work just in case ) to send out general thank you cards?

I mean ones that have been printed with something along the lines of: Thanks for coming, we loved having you there and thank you for your gift?

Is there any circumstances where that would be acceptable?

Would you think it was fine if you received this with a hand written message inside with more of a personal reference? ie: we really loved the ___ and are using it for____ with love etc.

If you have recieved a printed thank you with a message/ without a message what did you think of them?

Would you rather get a thankyou card that was completely handwritten and referred specifically to your gift & your presence at the wedding?

Solar_Flare · #2 02-19-2006, 07:17 PM

I'm handwriting all the thank you cards. I think it shows genuine gratitude towards that guest for being there and it would make them feel more appreciated for showing up and for their gift. If I spent alot of money on a gift and got a pre-printed card, it would make me feel like they didn't look to see which gift came from which person and all they wanted was a free *whatever-I-would-get*.

SuzyBride · #3 02-19-2006, 07:23 PM

I hand wrote all my TY's and named the specific gift. To me its just more of a common courtesy thing than an etiquette thing. I have received many generic TY's and I am not offended by them though. I do think they need to have some sort of personal message.

cru5h · #4 02-19-2006, 08:49 PM

I chose the first choice, the third is good enough, as long as the note is personal. I know it's tedious and just an all-around pain to write out a hundred personal thank-you's but wedding gifts tend to be fairly large in nature, or really heartfelt, and deserve a little more something-something than anything else. And how many times in your life will you ever have to do that again? When I say "note" I mean, a good "thank you for the [insert exactly what they gave you - and if it was money mention some way you'll spend it or put it toward]. We are so happy you were able to attend." Or change it to "We are sorry you were unable to attend." I don't mean a whole letter.

Heather · #5 02-20-2006, 12:04 AM

You know how I feel.

I think they should always be handwritten and personalized. The one I received was not handwritten. They ordered a bunch of them with the same thing on it and sent it to everyone. I'm curious as to what they did if someone didn't bring a gift. Did they order some that just said thank you for attending, or did they not send them to those people at all?

Marge129 · #6 02-20-2006, 12:08 AM

I went with the always handwritten/personalized option. I've never received a "pre-made" TY, so I don't know what that's like. But I can imagine that I would find it terribly rude! Those people took the time to give you something and come to your wedding... you can take 2 minutes and write them a TY card.

TheaterDiva1 · #7 02-20-2006, 12:16 AM

For our TY's, ours had a picture and a pre-printed message, but everything was above the fold (horizontal-fold card), and the bottom half was blank. That way, I could write my own message and personalize it. For most people, there were things I wanted to say that the generic message just didn't have.

syringa · #8 02-20-2006, 02:27 AM

I have received the generic pre-printed thank yous and I don't care for them. To me, it says that the person really doesn't know or remember what guests gave to them. They are just fulfilling an obligation to say thanks.

sparklesweetie · #9 02-20-2006, 02:43 AM

By handwritten, do you mean the whole thing, or buying a card that says Thank You on the front but is all blank inside?

Heather · #10 02-20-2006, 02:54 AM

By handwritten I mean a personal handwritten note inside of a Thank You car. Mine had pre-printed "Thank You" in fancy script on the front, but the inside was totally blank.

sparklesweetie · #11 02-20-2006, 03:20 AM

Ok, that's what I thought, but wanted to clarify.

Kim&Bob2004 · #12 02-20-2006, 03:31 AM

Ours also had a pre printed fancy script that said thank you on the out side and inside was blank. I think that is what should be done. I guess a personal note printed and mailed via snail mail would be ok....... but I would never e-mail a thank you either. I think it is best though to hand write your thank yous..... if the person cared enough to put thought and time and money into a gift for you then the least you can do is take the time to write a handwritten thank you!

ljeagle · #13 02-20-2006, 05:28 PM

I am doing post cards for my ty with are picture on the front with the THANK YOU! on the front under the picture. On the back I will hand write a note to each guest.