a favor poll - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

cru5h · #1 02-16-2006, 08:31 PM

Do/would you like to receive a photo of the couple whose wedding you're attending as a favor?

feb-bride · #2 02-16-2006, 08:32 PM

In a word - NO.

Why don't you add a poll to this one?

Marge129 · #3 02-16-2006, 08:32 PM

Negative.

cru5h · #4 02-16-2006, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by feb-bride

In a word - NO.

Why don't you add a poll to this one?

LOL I did. The forum posts the thread first, while you're making the poll.

feb-bride · #5 02-16-2006, 08:34 PM

I guess I was just too darned quick for you!

Complicated Woman · #6 02-16-2006, 08:34 PM

I don't really care. I wouldn't give one of Tom and I away as a gift, though. I think a lot of people would find it presumptuous.

Cirig · #7 02-16-2006, 08:34 PM

Not interested. Besides- most people send them in their thank you cards anyways

Marge129 · #8 02-16-2006, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Cirig

Not interested. Besides- most people send them in their thank you cards anyways

Never gotten one in a thank-you card, either.

cru5h · #9 02-16-2006, 08:35 PM

I was thinking back to this girl's question on Livejournal once. She was asking about how she should give the photo. All I could think of was, who on Earth, besides your absolute closest relatives would even display it? But I bit my tongue, 'cause I'm nice. She was also thinking of giving her guests the CD of music they played at their wedding [destination that none of these people were invited to]. WTH? LOL

feb-bride · #10 02-16-2006, 08:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Complicated Woman

I don't really care. I wouldn't give one of Tom and I away as a gift, though. I think a lot of people would find it presumptuous.

I find the practice a bit self-centered/pompous. Not everyone is dying to have a picture of you to put on display in their home.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #11 02-16-2006, 08:37 PM

It depends. I was at one time thinking of doing this magnetic frame:

http://www.blissweddingsmarket.com/store/000260.htm

with a wedding picture since no one will be at my wedding. But now I'm not going to do it.

However, we have wedding pictures up of Dave's best friends, his cousin, my sister... So I like getting pictures--though those were included in the thank you notes.

But I think it's nice if the picture is incorporated into a frame or something (that they could choose to use for something else). Maybe not if it's just a picture.

Marge129 · #12 02-16-2006, 08:37 PM

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Originally Posted by feb-bride

Not everyone is dying to have a picture of you to put on display in their home.

THEY'RE NOT?!?!?!

Well damn.

cru5h · #13 02-16-2006, 08:38 PM

I'm a real b*tch about people's photos. That's why I had to ask. I thought...maybe it's just me. (not "just me" being a b*tch, "just me" not wanting the pictures) Apparently not

munchkin · #14 02-16-2006, 08:57 PM

no, I would only do it if it was only close family members who would receive one. Otherwise definetely not.

555Ann555 · #15 02-16-2006, 09:10 PM

Nope...

I'm thinking about most of the weddings I've been to... no thanks

I'll get photos framed for both our mums but those are the only people I can think of who'll want them. Even my siblings wouldn't want a copy!

My friends will want to see my wedding photos but they won't want one to keep.

Steph · #16 02-16-2006, 09:13 PM

I think it is a Northeast US thing to send the wedding pictures with the Thank you card. When I lived in Michigan I didn't see that happening with the weddings I attended.

roseprincess · #17 02-16-2006, 09:36 PM

I voted no.

I did a picture of us *on* the thank you cards, I got the idea from another couple whose wedding we attended. I thought that was a little more personal and it gave people the option of having a picture of us if they wanted it.

The people who didn't get to attend the wedding but sent us presents really liked that. A friend of mine made a point of making sure she or her DH (or both) got a picture taken with each guest and then gave/mailed the people a framed copy of the picture with the thank you cards. I thought that was sweet and not presumptuous. It also depends on whether you have a small intimate wedding or a big wedding with guests who aren't necessarily super-close to you.

Ok, this thread kinda gives me an opportunity to ask about this: what would you think if you got a Christmas picture card that had a full-body shot of the bride & groom leaving the church, and the wedding took place back in April? And it was the standard "Season's Greetings" wording on the card, not "Our first Christmas as Mr. & Mrs." or something like that... would you think that was odd?

555Ann555 · #18 02-16-2006, 09:41 PM

Yes I think I would find that odd.

If it said our first Christmas it'd be just about OK but even then I'd still find it a bit strange... So where did that question come from?!

feb-bride · #19 02-16-2006, 09:48 PM

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Originally Posted by roseprincess

Ok, this thread kinda gives me an opportunity to ask about this: what would you think if you got a Christmas picture card that had a full-body shot of the bride & groom leaving the church, and the wedding took place back in April? And it was the standard "Season's Greetings" wording on the card, not "Our first Christmas as Mr. & Mrs." or something like that... would you think that was odd?

My cousin and her husband did this in their Christmas cards the first Christmas after their wedding. They included a professional picture of themselves from the wedding; the picture was all you saw on the front of the card (no seasons greetings, Merry Christmas, etc.). On the inside, she wrote "Have a Merry Christmas" or something like that. There was no mention of it being their first Christmas as Mr. and Mrs. or anything. The wedding took place the previous summer. I thought it was sort of like trying to get the spotlight back on their wedding that had taken place MONTHS earlier.

555Ann555 · #20 02-16-2006, 09:50 PM

You do hear about the occasional bride that can't handle their wedding being over!

One friend keeps warning me about this deep depression I'm in for after the wedding. lol.

Marge129 · #21 02-16-2006, 11:10 PM

I just got an email that made me think of this thread. I have a friend... well acquaintance. I've known her forever, but we don't really keep in touch. She lives in TX. I'm actually better friends with her husband. Anyway... back to the point. At least 2-3 times a week this girl emails me pictures of her kids. Half the time I see it's from her and I just delete the picture. I really don't want to see EVERY little thing her kids accomplish. Granted, they're cute as can be... but it's not like I'm related to them or something. KWIM?

roseprincess · #22 02-16-2006, 11:29 PM

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I thought it was sort of like trying to get the spotlight back on their wedding that had taken place MONTHS earlier.

that's what I thought too...

When MIL told me that BIL & his wife had shown her a picture of their wedding they were using for their Christmas cards, I didn't know what to say, other than "Oh!"

; she was so excited and thought it was cute. (

she thinks everything they do is cute) Then I thought that it might be cute to have a closeup of them kissing or a picture of them toasting, on a card that referred to this being a first for them, KWIM? When we got the card, DH pronounced it as ridiculous and tossed it, disgusted. I wasn't really sure what to say. They didn't even sign it, just sent it as they got it from the printer...

Margie, I used to send emails w/ pics to family and friends every couple of months. But several times a week? That's a bit much!

Marge129 · #23 02-16-2006, 11:32 PM

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Originally Posted by roseprincess

Margie, I used to send emails w/ pics to family and friends every couple of months. But several times a week? That's a bit much!

Yeah... every few months is good. I'll probably do it about that often. Don't want to overload people!

feb-bride · #24 02-16-2006, 11:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Marge129

I just got an email that made me think of this thread. I have a friend... well acquaintance. I've known her forever, but we don't really keep in touch. She lives in TX. I'm actually better friends with her husband. Anyway... back to the point. At least 2-3 times a week this girl emails me pictures of her kids. Half the time I see it's from her and I just delete the picture. I really don't want to see EVERY little thing her kids accomplish. Granted, they're cute as can be... but it's not like I'm related to them or something. KWIM?

THANK YOU for voicing this!!!

My best friend does this. Granted, she doesn't bulk up my e-mail account with a bunch of pictures. But, she sends links to on-line photo albums AT LEAST once a week (if not more). I didn't see her kids that much when she lived 30 minutes away. I see more of them now that they live half-way across the country! I thought I was mean for not checking out each and every photo album link. So glad to hear that I'm not the only one who feels this way!

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #25 02-16-2006, 11:49 PM

I also have a friend who doesn't WRITE or CALL EVER, but I get every picture ever taken of her kid!! I respond back every so often and how are you? etc. And she doesn't even respond. I probably haven't exchanged words in a year. In her Christmas card she apologized for not emailing me back. Ok, if you don't want to correspond, then take me off your damn kodak photo album thing. I don't need 185 pictures every month!! I don't even open them now.