guest list for shower - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

fallbride · #1 02-14-2006, 07:43 PM

I will be seeing my MOH this weekend. She ask me to bring a guest list, so she can get idea on how many women for the shower. I have no problem doing this for her, but I have a question for you ladies. I guess this is kind of stupid but I have to ask it. Do you invite ALL the women? I have womne on the list that I have not meet yet. It would be some co-workers' wifes of my FH. So do we send them a invitation even though they really don't know me? She knows this list is a work in progess, since I don't have all my families address, nor does the FH have all of his done yet.

roseprincess · #2 02-14-2006, 07:56 PM

I would not invite FH's coworkers' wives, if you don't know them or aren't close to them. That'd be seen as a gift grab, which I'm sure you don't want. The only people you don't know personally yet that you are "obligated" to invite are women who are close relatives of FH who are invited to the wedding. (like in my case, I hadn't met one of my husband's sisters until she came out for the wedding).

Also, make sure that everyone invited to the shower is also invited to the wedding. The two exceptions to this rule are showers thrown by co-workers (yours) and showers thrown by a church group (or other similar organization in which you are a very active member).

ladedah · #3 02-14-2006, 07:58 PM

for the shower my attendants are throwing I just invited my close friends and family (aunts, etc.)...I think showers are supposed to be more of an intimate affair, I really only gave them a list of 20 people. I do have some other people that have asked to throw me a shower where there will be people I don't know (grooms family and friends of grooms parents)..but I didn't pick those guest lists...

Marge129 · #4 02-14-2006, 08:14 PM

You don't have to invite ALL the women that are invited to your wedding. I invited the women that lived locally that I was close to.

555Ann555 · #5 02-14-2006, 09:06 PM

Can I add a wee question to this?
If it was a batchelorette party rather than a shower would it be OK not to invite the mums, just your friends and family that are close to your age?

My MOH has been asking who I want to invite to my hen night but there are only a few people on my list; 6 friends & 4 family members, that doesn't include any aunties or parents etc.

sparklesweetie · #6 02-14-2006, 09:11 PM

Ann, I'm doing my b. party in two parts...first part will be dinner and hanging out with the relatives, part two is going out and getting drunk. Now, I'm not telling the older ones they can't come, but I know they wouldn't want to stay out until 3 or 4 a.m. and watch me dance around on a bar.

So I think that you are fine not inviting the relatives.

feb-bride · #7 02-14-2006, 09:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by 555Ann555

If it was a batchelorette party rather than a shower would it be OK not to invite the mums, just your friends and family that are close to your age?

I didn't invite "older" adults (moms, aunts, etc.) to the bachelorette party. We only invited women in our age group.

wynelle · #8 02-14-2006, 11:48 PM

I know we have read posts of people who had 30-40-50 or more at their showers, but it does start looking like a gift grab.

I think that (a) must be women invited to the wedding (unless it is a work-shower) and (b) should be limited to close family and friends that you would normally be socializing with anyway. The only exceptions, as was previously mentioned- would be a close friend or family menber of fiance's that you just haven't met yet, but who would be quite bent out of shape for not being included.

ljeagle · #9 02-15-2006, 12:19 AM

I wouldn't invite my FH co-workers wifes. Even if they are inviting them to the wedding you don't need to invite them to the shower. There was a few people that was invited to mine that I didn't know but it was my mothers church where i grew up. She just did one invite for the church and some women came that I didn't know.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #10 02-15-2006, 02:12 PM

Ditto on everything Roseprincess said.

fallbride · #11 02-15-2006, 03:48 PM

Thanks Ladies!

SuzyBride · #12 02-15-2006, 07:15 PM

Where I am from, no one brings gifts to the wedding. They all expect to be invited to a shower and they give their gifts there. So, yeah, I invited almost all the ladies on the wedding invitation list. But I also had 2 showers. One huge church shower, then a smaller bridal shower for family and friends.