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roseprincess · #1 02-13-2006, 11:05 PM

if you get invited to a wedding "reception" that takes place on a different day than the ceremony (like MTGH is having a month or two after), is there a gift "obligation"?

I know, a gift is a gift is a gift. This question was asked on another board I participate in and the answers surprised me b/c I thought I remembered y'all answering differently.

Heather · #2 02-13-2006, 11:06 PM

I'm 99% sure the gift "obligation" is for the ceremony only.

whiddle · #3 02-13-2006, 11:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Heather

I'm 99% sure the gift "obligation" is for the ceremony only.

Ditto.

Marge129 · #4 02-13-2006, 11:14 PM

I'm 100% sure the gift obligation is the ceremony... not the reception.

But... knowing myself.... I'd take something anyway.

ljeagle · #5 02-13-2006, 11:40 PM

I'm not sure what I would do. I think I would take it to the reception. Do u think they would have a gift table in the ceremony?

munchkin · #6 02-14-2006, 12:01 AM

yep, a gift is only obligatory when you are invited to the ceremony. The reception doesn't carry that obligation.

Complicated Woman · #7 02-14-2006, 02:47 AM

I would bring a gift. I guess officially, they aren't required, but IMHO, the reception is what costs the

so I'd want to pay for my plate.

Jacqueline · #8 02-14-2006, 10:29 AM

i would have to aggree with most people i would take something any way cos thats just me i think it is just a case of maners

feb-bride · #9 02-14-2006, 03:18 PM

Gifts are NOT required if you're only invited to the reception.

Would I take something? It depends on a few things:

Reason for not being invited to the ceremony (e.g., extremely intimate guest list)
My relationship with the bride and/or groom (sibling or parent vs. acquaintance at work)
Whether or not they've been previously married (if so, whether or not I gave a gift the first time around)

For example, if my sister were to elope, I would give a gift regardless because she's my sister. But if an acquaintance-type friend got married and I was only invited to the reception, or if it was their third wedding and I'd given gifts the first couple of go-rounds, I'd probably just take a card.

Cirig · #10 02-14-2006, 03:21 PM

Gifts aren't required. But I'd still bring one

ladedah · #11 02-14-2006, 05:21 PM

I thought gifts weren't obligitory either way...but in this instance...I would depend on the circumstances...for example a friend of ours married a girl from another state...and the ceremony was in that state...we were invited to the ceremony..but didn't want to travel...they had a reception where we live we went to that and took a gift. Or I would probably take a gift if they had a destination wedding and then a reception at home...

Now, if they had a ceremony and reception away and we weren't invited but then had an open house back home and we were invited I would probably take a gift but it would be smaller than something I would normally have gotten.