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09-09-2009, 11:42 PM
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Your opinion please!!!!
Im getting married this december 12th. My fiance and I are both paying for the wedding. Without getting into exact figures, we will be spending between 3 and 5K. This is my second his first. I have a 13year old daughter and 10 year old son. They have one set of grandparents still living who always buy them xmas gifts and I reciprocate. My children also get gifts from a few aunts in addition to my fiance's family and we reciprocate. I do not want to worry about spending money for xmas gifts this year due to the financing of this wedding. I want to tell people that just for this year, no gift giving. I'll have enough to worry about with last minute wedding details to even think about xmas shopping, not to mention additional spending. Comments and/or suggestions please!!!!
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09-10-2009, 12:01 AM
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Hello. Welcome to Pash!
Depending on how close you are to your family I think it would be easy for them to understand if you tell them you'd like to skip gift giving this year. I'm not sure about your family but I know that everyone in mine has been inpacted by the economy. My husband and I are hardly doing Christmas at all this year, we've already discussed it and put a very low limit on gifts. (We got married in June and paid for everything ourselves)
I suggest you just tell them straight out and the sooner the better and revisit the subject in November so that no one feels out of place come Christmas time. I would imagine they would still get a gift for your kids but I don't think people expect to get gifts from kids
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09-10-2009, 02:27 AM
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Welcome to Pash! I agree with Sarah; just have a talk with them and let them know while you've enjoyed exchanging gifts in previous years, you have a different focus this year. Presumably these people are also likely giving you wedding gifts and/or traveling to your wedding just before Christmas, so they may appreciate a break as well.
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10-14-2009, 08:15 PM
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Totally agree. Everyone will understand...couldn't imagine planning a wedding and xmas at the same time. I'm sure folks will understand.
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10-15-2009, 05:26 AM
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I'm sure it will be fine. You will more than likely still get gifts for the children, so if you're uncomfortable not reciprocating you could always have your children bake cookies or something simple and inexpensive to hand out this year.
ETA: Sorry, didn't realize this was a month old...but that's still what I think, so there! LOL!
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