Seeing a new side..

[FutureMrs9-20-09]

Well let me start by saying Hello to everyone. I'm pretty new at this, and so far I enjoy coming on here and ready what everyone has to say, it eases my mind about alot of things! FH and I are getting married on Sept. 20th, we've been together for 4 years and have a newborn (3 months old)....We have the relationship that "everyone wants" Supposidly..
Anyways, so, FH and I always talked about our problems before they got to big, have ALWAYS been open with each other, well, last night, out of the middle of no where, I just decided to ask him about his past...We've talked about our past with families and friends and we know each other pretty well. But I just wanted to ask the more "detailed" questions. "Who did you lose your virginity to? Where was it?" Etc....I allowed him to ask me the same questions....Well when it came time for him to answer the questions, he got really offensive.. He says we shouldn't bring up the past and that it doesn't matter what went on in our lives before we met, all that matters is us, our family, and our lives in the future together.
I tried to explain to him that no matter what his answers were, it wouldn't change anything, but since we're going to get married and spend the rest of our lives together, I wanted to know EVERYTHING about him...Not just the good, I want to know the good, the bad, and the ugly! You're suppose to know EVERYTHING about your spouse, correct?
He said the conversation was making him feel "uncomfortable". But shouldn't you be comfortable talking to your spouse about ANYTHING?

So I guess I'm just asking for ya'lls opinions...Was it wrong of me to ask him these questions? Why would he have a reason to get so uncomfortable and offensive? I answered his questions to me with no problem.
What is yalls opinions on the situation?

[lisabrookeskift]

There is nothing wrong with wanting to know about each other's pasts. In fact, it's quite natural to be curious and want to have a more complete picture of your partner to be.

This being said, I don't happen to believe we absolutely have to share every last detail. We have the right to keep things private in some cases.

You clearly were more comfortable with sharing some of the intimate details than your fiance - for whatever reason. Perhaps he doesn't want to take a chance on hurting your feelings or just doesn't see the need to share it. Although, he clearly asked you questions which seems a little unfair but not something to lose too much sleep over.

The bottom line is that you both love each other and plan to be married, regardless of what's happened before. Perhaps he's just more sensitive to it than you are.