Head Table Issues
This is a thread that was started in our old BlissWeddings.com forums by SkyeCPHT on 06/02/2004.
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posted by SkyeCPHT
Hello guys and gals I need some ideas. My fiance and I each have 3 attendants. Two of my attendants are single, one is attached. Two of my fiance's attendants are married, one is single. I'm having trouble figuring out the head table seating arrangements. Background: Our reception is in a private room at a restaurant, the "head table" won't be facing a dance floor or anything, it will be one long table with seating on both sides of the table.
I know that traditionally, the head table should only consist of the bride and groom and the attendants. However, since half of our total attendants are attached or married, I don't want to split those people up from their spouses/significant others. So I thought, I'll have them all sit at the head table with us. That comes to 9 people, plus us, so 11 people. So I thought okay that's cool. But two of those attached/married couples have kids that they're bringing. One has one child; one has 2 children. So I thought okay, they can sit with us too! But now I'm thinking, isn't that a lot of people for the head table?
So then I thought, well me and my fiance will have our own table, a "sweetheart" table, and our attendants and their spouses/significant others/kids can sit with everyone else, together, however they want. But my mom really hates that idea. And I kind of thought it might be lonely. So THEN I thought, well I'll just have the married people and people with kids sit together, since they all have the kids that are coming, and the single attendants can sit with us at the head table. But wouldn't that make our single attendants feel ... well ... singled out?
Does anyone have any ideas? I'm not having problems anywhere else in my table seating arrangements -- go figure.
cristin
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posted by serialkitten
Hello,
My situation is a little different, but here is my plan.
I don't have any attendants, but I have 4 (yes four) flower girls - two neices and my own two daughters.
My grrom and I will share the head table with his parents, my parents, and our two children. That's it. Our siblings have been combined into one "family" table. Everyone else (whether they are in some part of the wedding or not (mostly not) are sitting with spouses, kids, friend.
Hope this helps. Good luck!
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posted by SkyeCPHT
Ah! Now there's an arrangement I haven't thought of yet... lol... I thought I had thought of them all! I will take it into consideration. Thank you!
cristin
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posted by TheaterDiva1
My fiance and I are using a dias (like a head table, but just for us two). The rest of the BP will be at honor tables (with the parents) with their SO's/families.
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posted by gymrat
When I was MOH for the last wedding I was in the B & G had the me (MOH)and the Best Man sit on either side of them with their parents sitting on the opposite side of the table. The other BP members sat at the other tables with the other guests who they knew. They sat next to their friends who were the other guests so no one had a problem. There were only 17 people total (B & G-2, BP-6, and guests-9).
When I take part on my brother's wedding I will sit at the head table with the other BP and my hubby (and baby) will sit with my parents. I think most people probably understand that if they are in the BP that they may not sit with there family so whatever you decide should be fine. Best of Luck.
Smiles,
Lisa Marie
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posted by catina
My opinion, bridal party with bride and groom, spouses and kids at another table. Or the way serialkitten suggested is a good option as well.
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posted by feb-bride
When I got married, we had the BP and their spouses/SOs at the head table with us. We had the kids at another table with an attendant to watch over them.
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posted by SkyeCPHT
Hm. We thought about having a kids table -- and we still might -- but I know my nephew is quite clingy, so he will be all over my sister, and my niece will only be like 9 months old, so she will have to be held by mommy I'm sure. Personally I don't think a 9-month old needs to be at a wedding, but my sister has been very pushy about her being there -- she even wanted me to make her a flower girl, and put her in a wagon or something and have my nephew drag her down the aisle!
Thanks for the suggestions feb-bride, and everyone else! I will be meeting with the gal who will be managing my reception in a couple of weeks, and will go over all these ideas with her as far as tables and arrangements. Thanks!
cristin
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posted by Sarah76
Just chipping in my tuppence: in the UK the top table consists of the B&G, their parents, the best man and the MOH. That's what we're having at our wedding. Any other bridesmaids or attendants, sit at another table (near the top table). Any SOs or kids of the attendants, sit at other tables. I would feel quite strange having our best man's girlfriend and son; and my MOH's boyfriend all sitting at the top table too. I guess because they're not the people who are important to me...even if they happen to be important to my attendants! (If my MOH's boyfriend- who she is having a lot of problems with anyway- was sitting at the table, I would think, then why not my grandma?!) Also, I agree that most members of a wedding party don't (and shouldn't) expect to be sitting with their SOs and kids. After all, the meal only lasts a couple of hours...
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posted by SkyeCPHT
Ah Sarah! You bring up some great points. I didn't even think of things like that. You're right, my attendants' SOs are not the ones who are important to me. I've been thinking maybe we should just do a traditional head table -- the SOs know other people that will be there, so it's not like they'll be lonely -- because it would save a lot of hassle. Maybe that's what we'll be doing. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I didn't think of things that way.
cristin
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