Writing vows... - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

AngelRoseFyre · #1 01-29-2009, 06:33 PM

Hey ladies, we have decided to write our own vows. The problem is I have no clue how to write a vow....

Does anyone have any hints or a website with ideas, etc.???

There is also another option to repeat the traditional vows and read our own, do you think that would be ok, or too much?

#2 01-29-2009, 06:54 PM

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Originally Posted by AngelRoseFyre

There is also another option to repeat the traditional vows and read our own, do you think that would be ok, or too much?

It depends on how long you want the ceremony to be. Personally two sets of vows is too long for me and Richard, but if you're okay with having a longer ceremony then go for it.

We're writing our own vows as well. I know Richard is including a verse from a Metallica song in his, but I haven't decided on mine yet. I would recommend looking for some poems and songs you love, and go from there. You can also type wedding vows into a search engine and a bunch of sites with ideas will come up.

sarah+tim060609 · #3 02-04-2009, 09:30 PM

We are writing our own vows too. When I asked Tim about it he started quoting WWE wrestlers, now I'm a fan but I immediately put a stop to that. So after that I sat down and tried to write mine. HA! this is going to be hard. But I'm just going to write 5 or 6 sentences about how I feel about him, being with him and where I see us going together. Only thing is I was wondering is, should I bring up the past? I mean I was going to start with something like this-
"The paths we have taken have been long and bumpy... and then go into how great we are together and how I love being with him etc etc."
but I'm not sure if talking about that would be appropriate. Everything is great now and things have worked out and the things that havent' we are working on still. But we did go through some crap.

Heather · #4 02-04-2009, 09:34 PM

The beautiful thing about vows is that they can be anything you want. That's why you write your own, to make them special to you... They don't have mean anything to ANYONE else. I didn't even want anyone else to hear mine, so I had our officiant keep the microphone pointed toward him when we did ours.

#5 02-04-2009, 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by sarah+tim060609

Only thing is I was wondering is, should I bring up the past? I mean I was going to start with something like this-
"The paths we have taken have been long and bumpy... and then go into how great we are together and how I love being with him etc etc."
but I'm not sure if talking about that would be appropriate. Everything is great now and things have worked out and the things that havent' we are working on still. But we did go through some crap.

Honestly? That would make me uncomfortable. Guests don't need to hear about the past and the troubles you went through. If you want to say something about it in private, go ahead, but I would keep that out of the vows.

#6 02-05-2009, 10:03 PM

DH and I wrote our entire ceremony - it was pretty long, including vows and a ring exchange. We went with something kinda traditional in terms of vows - ie we each made each other the same promise and didn't write vows individually (that was too personal for me to want to do in front of all those people). What we did was google wedding vows and ceremonies and take what we liked from various sources and then patched it all together. It was a very long process. I also picked out a few quotes that we liked and wove those in - from the Bible, a Peanuts book I had as a kid, and a Madeleine L'Engle quote. In the end, we ended up with something that was uniquely us but not so personal as to make me uncomfortable.

So...a good place to start might be to google wedding ceremonies or wedding vows and see what is available for free on the internet - which is a TON!