Best Girl?

[Future Mrs. Robertson]

My fiance's best friend is a girl, whom I totally love, and he really wants her to be his best man, or best girl (or whatever you want to name it), which I have no problem with. The thing that we're debating with eachother about is that he wants her to stand with the guys during the ceremony. I'm an extremely traditional person, so I think that all the girls go on one side and guys on the other, no matter how fickle I may sound, lol. This seems to be important to him. I told him that I don't care if she sits on the guys side during the reception and has a special title in the program and even helps the guys get ready before hand, but I think for traditions sake, I would like her on the bridesmaids side. I told him that he won't even notice, anyways, because we'll be so focused on each other at that time. :-) Am I being rediculous, or should I just give in?
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[Heather]

Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Robertson

This seems to be important to him.

That should answer your question right there... the point of her being the "best woman" is that she stands with him, and if that's important to him, then she should be on his side. Men typically don't put in a lot of feedback through planning, so when they do, you should listen.

[justnmary]

Originally Posted by Future Mrs. Robertson

I told him that he won't even notice, anyways, because we'll be so focused on each other at that time.

This should also pertain to you. I think he should be able to have her on his side if he so wishes. It's his wedding also and like you said, 'he won't even notice because you'll be so focused on each other'. I don't think you would notice either.

I agree with H and justnmary. I have a man of honour, and he's definitely standing on my side. If it's important to him to have her stand up with him then that's where she will stand. More and more couples are having people of the opposite gender stand on their sides, so your guests won't even blink an eye.
So yes, you're being ridiculous

[FutureMrsAdams]

I think Heather hit this one on the head!!

[Complicated Woman]

I agree with the other girls. I had a male friend stand with me and he was on my side. It looked fine! I would definitely give in on this one.

[NovemberGal]

Yep, also going with the other ladies. We've had several brides on here who have had men on their side or women on their hubby's side. If she is on your side, then she's a bridesmaid and is standing up for you. If you had some issue with their relationship, you could argue his choice that she be in the wedding party, but you seem to have no problem with her as his best friend or even with his choice of her as his best whatever, so you need to let her stand on his side.