Marriage or Let Her Be?

[james02]

I am a 28 year old man. I am dating a girl that I've been seeing for 4 years. We've been doing the long distance thing.

I love her dearly. I love being with her. But our sex life has faded. We're more best friends.

She is what I want in a wife -- as far as a friend. But as a lover, things have faded.

I want to maybe let her be for some time and explore things by myself. What do you think of this?

What should I do?

[lisabrookeskift]

It can be very challenging for any couple to navigate through sex issues. You and your girlfriend have been together a fair amount of time though I bet it's been challenging doing a long distance relationship. The thing that concerns me is that sex is usually the least of the issues for long distance couples in that the time apart keeps it fresh and exciting. The fact that you're still feeling this way - and being apart so much, is worrisome.

My feeling is that you should talk to your girlfriend about what's going on. Have you shared your feelings? Have you put effort into improving your intimacy? If not, I would suggest you do that - and then make a decision about what you want to do with the relationship - prior to going out an exploring other avenues.

I imagine you have more respect fo you her than that?

I'm hearing from you that other aspects of this woman are great and that she has the qualities that are important to you in a wife. This isn't something something to be minimized and I would hate for you to throw it out prematurely.

Yes, you may find other woman out there who "rock your world." But are they kind, compassionate, loyal, good woman who you can respect and want to call your wife? Perhaps - or perhaps not. Move with caution and respect.

Good luck.