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Soon 2 B Mrs.Medina · #1 01-31-2006, 07:18 PM

Has anyone done this. I found it on the internet and thought it was cute. If you've done it what was the reaction you got from Guests.

In the Rose Ceremony, the Bride and Groom give each other a Rose. Two roses are all that is necessary. If you have children coming into the ceremony, you may have a rose for each of them too - see " Ways to Involve Children" Section. The Rose Ceremony is placed at the end of the ceremony just before being pronounced husband and wife.

<>In more elegant days, flowers were used as a means of communication. Each Flower had a special meaning. In the old language of flowers, a single red rose always meant "I love you". The Rose ceremony gives recognition to the new and most honorable title of "Husband and Wife".
This ceremony originates in a classic rose ceremony from a lost and elegant age. Though the words of the classic Rose ceremony long ago lost, this ceremony was rewritten by the Hon. Mark Ovard explaining the true meaning of the ceremony - and in ways that can endure through your married life together - this is a unique and meaningful addition to any marriage ceremony - that also inspires your guests too.

Words of the Rose Ceremony:
"Your gift to each other for your wedding today has been your wedding rings - which shall always be an outward demonstration of your vows of love and respect; and a public showing of your commitment to each other.
You now have what remains the most honorable title which may exist between a man and a woman - the title of "husband" and "wife." For your first gift as husband and wife, that gift will be a single rose.
In the past, the rose was considered a symbol of love and a single rose always meant only one thing - it meant the words "I love you." So it is appropriate that for your first gift - as husband and wife - that gift would be a single rose.
Please exchange your first gift as husband and wife.
(Sometimes a couple will play a special song at this point).
In some ways it seems like you have not done anything at all. Just a moment ago you were holding one small rose - and now you are holding one small rose. In some ways, a marriage ceremony is like this. In some ways, tomorrow is going to seem no different than yesterday. But in fact today, just now, you both have given and received one of the most valuable and precious gifts of life - one I hope you always remember - the gift of true and abiding love within the devotion of marriage.
_________ and _____________, I would ask that where ever you make your home in the future - whether it be a large and elegant home - or a small and graceful one - that you both pick one very special location for roses; so that on each anniversary of this truly wonderful occasion you both may take a rose to that spot both as a recommitment to your marriage - and a recommitment that THIS will be a marriage based upon love.
In every marriage there are times where it is difficult to find the right words.
It is easiest to hurt who we most love. It is easiest to be most hurt by who we most love.
It might be difficult some time to words to say "I am sorry" or "I forgive you"; "I need you" or "I am hurting". If this should happen, if you simply can not find these words, leave a rose at that spot which both of you have selected - for that rose than says what matters most of all and should overpower all other things and all other words.
That rose says the words: "I still love you."
The other should accept this rose for the words which can not be found, and remember the love and hope that you both share today.
__________ and ________, if there is anything you remember of this marriage ceremony, it is that it was love that brought you here today, it is only love which can make it a glorious union, and it is by love which your marriage shall endure."

Complicated Woman · #2 01-31-2006, 07:37 PM

Oh gosh!

That's really beautiful.

Soon 2 B Mrs.Medina · #3 01-31-2006, 07:39 PM

isn't it. I just don't want guests thinking it's corny. I think it's sweet.

Soon 2 B Mrs.Medina · #4 01-31-2006, 07:43 PM

ADDING CHILDREN TO THE ROSE CEREMONY:

(This is added to the Rose Ceremony - the Rose Ceremonyis a beautiful addition)
" Not only are __________ and ____________ creating a marriage today, but they also are forming a family with (Child or Children's names). Just as it is appropriate for _______________ and _______________ to begin their marriage by affirming their love fore each other by exchanging Roses, they also wish to show their love for (Child/Children’s names) with a gift of a Rose."
The Bride and Groom then hand the child or each of the children a rose, give a hug and whisper "I love you".

ROSE CEREMONY - Roses for the mothers:
If adding the Rose ceremony to the marriage ceremony, couples will often stop on their exit and hand the mother of the bride and the mother of the groom each their Rose, whispering "I love you" before proceeding with their exit.

fallbride · #5 01-31-2006, 07:46 PM

My brother did that at his wedding. The guest liked it. I think it is very sweet.

breezy · #6 01-31-2006, 09:17 PM

I really like the White Rose Ceremony (below) We are playing around with the idea of using it

White Rose Ceremony (May be used as exchange of vows)
Groom (as he hands his bride a long-stemmed white rose): "_____, take this rose as a symbol of my love. It began as a tiny bud and blossomed, just as my love has grown and blossomed for you"
Bride (as she places the rose into a bud vase filled with water): "I take this rose, as a symbol of your love, and I place it into water, a symbol of life. For, just as this rose cannot survive without water, I cannot survive without you."
Groom: "In remembrance of this day, I will give you a white rose each year on our anniversary, as a reaffirmation of my love and the vows spoken here today"
Bride: " And I will refill this vase with water each year, ready to receive your gift, in reaffirmation of the new life you have given me and the vows spoken here today."
Groom (as he and his bride join hands around the rose-filled vase): "And so, this rose will be a symbolic memory of my commitment to you this hour; I vow to be a faithful husband to you, to comfort you, honor you, and respect you and cherish you all the days of my life. "
Bride (as they continue to hold the vase together): "And I commit myself to you, to be a faithful wife, to comfort you, honor you, respect you, and cherish you all the days of my life."

ladedah · #7 01-31-2006, 09:19 PM

Wow, that is a really neat idea...I've never seen that before...made me a bit teary.

Soon 2 B Mrs.Medina · #8 01-31-2006, 09:24 PM

aww i like that one too. I don't know which one to do.

breezy · #9 01-31-2006, 09:50 PM

The decision making is the hardest!

Chillchacha · #10 01-31-2006, 10:23 PM

My cousin did this for her wedding it was really sweet. Trust me he has had to leave her plenty of roses

, lol. I really like it because it doesn’t just talk about marriage as a day or give misconceptions about love. It is honest and depicts love and marriage in a realistic yet romantic light. I probably would have chosen this for my wedding too if my cousin hadn’t done it already. Instead I’m musing up a few different ceremonies to make a slightly spiritual hand tying ceremony.

deputysgurl · #11 02-01-2006, 12:20 AM

I really like the idea. but fh wants a traditional ceremony with nothing thrown in. So I hope i can get a friend to use it.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #12 02-01-2006, 12:26 AM

Oh, both of those are so beautiful! Though it does make me think 1-800-flowers is behind it--setting it up to buy a lot of roses, lest you forget one year:What you don't love me?!?!

ljeagle · #13 02-01-2006, 12:27 AM

Kenny and I are not doing this and I have only seen it done once and it was really nice. FH and I talked about it but I really didn't want to do this. Just because my X-FH and me was doing this at are wedding. We was doing this right b-4 they presented us to every one.

Kim&Bob2004 · #14 02-01-2006, 12:28 AM

What a lovely idea!

Soon 2 B Mrs.Medina · #15 02-01-2006, 12:41 AM

here's another one for the parents

The Rose Gift is usually placed near the beginning of the ceremony, just after the officiant's welcoming statements and introduction to the ceremony. Officiant: This wedding is also a celebration of family. It is the blending of two families, separate up to this moment, but united from this day forward -- blending their different traditions, strengthening the family tree. Parents plant so that their children may harvest. Mothers cry when their children hurt, and welcome pain and burden to give their sons and daughters the gift of life.
(Bride) and (Groom) wish to honor this blending of the families by presenting a rose to their mothers -- to thank their parents for the many selfless sacrifices they have made and for their unconditional love so freely given to their children.
Bride & Groom exchange hugs with her parents and present a rose to her mother.
Bride & Groom exchange hugs with his parents and present a rose to his mother.

silkbutterflies1978 · #16 03-24-2006, 02:00 PM

My daughter and her husband did a rose ceremony at their wedding. Us 2 mom's held the roses and then presented them to the B & G right before the rose ceremony was to begin, we also as we handed the roses to our children gave them a kiss on the cheek then went back and sat down. It was so special that almost everyone at the wedding started crying and the groom started it all!
Good luck and best wishes!

flabreyed2bee · #17 10-19-2006, 03:58 AM

I love that idea. Will have to ask FH about it. It will fit beautifully into our civil war/victorian theme.

ohiobride · #18 10-19-2006, 03:49 PM

Wow! I had just read about this rose ceremony, and I think it's lovely.

janeandreawong · #19 11-23-2006, 01:46 PM

This is the first time I've read/heard about it. I would like to do that in my wedding. I think it's very sweet and romantic. Thank you for the info. I'll let my fiance know about it, I am sure he'll going to like it. He is very sweet..

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AshNJam07 · #20 11-24-2006, 07:33 PM

Wow that's a really cute and romantic thing to do !! maybe we will give it a go, since our flowers for our wedding are roses also.

weddrev · #21 11-25-2006, 06:10 PM

If there is a rose ceremony at the beginning of the wedding the roses are presented to the mothers as an expression of acceptance into each other's family.

If the rose is to be exchanged between bride & groom as their first gift as husband & wife, it is done right before the pronouncement, so as not to upset the flow of that very special moment.

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http://www.weddingvowsandpromises.com

m_t_rose · #22 12-10-2006, 12:23 AM

Ohh I was looking for something like this to do in the ceremony. That is beautiful made me cry a bit

Juelle · #23 12-11-2006, 06:59 PM

Wow that is really a beautiful idea.Made me tear up!!

vanessabg · #24 01-01-2007, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Soon 2 B Mrs.Medina

isn't it. I just don't want guests thinking it's corny. I think it's sweet.

I am agree to Medina here.

anna32182 · #25 01-01-2007, 09:00 PM

you guys keep giving me ideas like this, and FH is going to ban my internet access! Every day, i'm like... well can we do this? can we do that? He asked me the other night if we should get tents for the guests, since everything I've asked him would add up to a three day ceremony!:

I love this idea.

Thanks!