5 things you cherish about your man (or woman for Steven)

[wembley]

Last night the FH and I went to meet with the Pastor to take the Prepare Test to use in our pre-marriage stuff. Well he didn’t end up finding the test and we’re going back in a couple of weeks to do that but when we come back we’re suppose to bring with us a list of 5 things we cherish about each other.

It will be interesting because FH and I just had a disagreement the other day and sometimes afterwards I wonder why he puts up with me. I know he loves me but he’s not always the best at putting things into words so me in my self-consciousness wonders why. Now I’ll be able to see at least 5 reasons. We were teasing last night though because I told him my butt could not be one of his reasons. He was slightly disappointed I think.

What are 5 things that you cherish about your better half?

[cru5h]

Great topic, wembley

I cherish...
1) That he is able to learn from the disagreements we have, and is into working on the problem as much as I am.
2) That he respects/ed me as an equal, even when I wasn't working.
3) That he likes my crazy eccentricities.
4) That he wants to help me be a better parent to my sons, while getting closer to them himself. It was hard for him at first because of what a couple of exes did.
5) That we still go on dates every week and have fun together. I think that has been a really important thing between us.

[Jacqueline]

as i was ALWAYS picked on at school this is very easy for me to answer

1) he loves me for who i am
2) he has and is always there to pick the peace up when things go wrong
3) he is not only my lover he is my best friend
4) he is funny, charming (when he needs to be)
5) he is the best dad (other than mine i know)

i can go on but think i will stop i will only make him blush when he reads it lol

[Marge129]

I cherish-
1- That he actually has conversations with me after an argument so we can work through our problems together.
2- What a great father he truly is. I can't wait to see him with our daughter.
3- That he helps me clean the house every weekend.
4- That he has "man jobs" the he won't let me do around the house... taking out the garbage (when he's home), mowing the lawn, etc. It's nice to not have to do the chores I really hate.
5- That he is the most amazing, giving lover I've ever had. (and he loves to muff dive! Oh, come on... you knew it was coming!)

Good topic idea, wembley!

[Jennifer]

Justin is my perfect match!

1. He is completely in love with God first...then me!
2. He meets my needs emotionally, physically and spiritually.
3. He has learned when to talk to me and when to let me be alone.
4. He understands my agressive personality and doesn't get upset at me when I need to vent.
5. He is completely non-traditional like me and doesn't try to fit me into the mold that the other guys around us use for their women.

[Marrying_the_Good_Husband]

1) That with him I discovered who I truly am inside and it was finally safe enough for me to be myself--the self I kept inside for 30 years.

2) That he taught me what a mutually respectful relationship is. That's the first word I used to describe him since our first date--amazed at how "respectful" he is.

3) That he taught me how to communicate my emotions and my feelings--and that communicating is our #1 priority. (# 3 1/2) That he's patient with me. Even if I'm having difficulty expressing myself, he'll be patient and loving and kind, and never stray from providing nothing but loving support and a focus to work through our issues.

4) That he's an amazing step-parent. Completely focused on building his relationship with the kids and providing a loving, supportive, "functional" environment in which they can flourish. (#4 1/2) The joy I see in him and in my kids when they play together every day. (# 4 3/4) The love and emotional bond I see between them, as he's more a loving, emotionally present and involved father than their bio-dad ever will be.

5) That he's so emotionally open. That he so readily shares all of his deepest dreams and hurts and fears and sadnesses--and it's always in such a loving, intimate way. NEVER building up emotions and exploding in a negative way (which I've been known to do). That he can hold me and cry and our intimacy builds. (# 5 1/2) And I love how he gets excited about things. I love it when he gets really into learning about things or planning a goal. (He says I love his "nerdy" side--and I do!) And I love the passion he exudes when he expresses himself with his music. All-around he's just so emotionally deep and open all at once--and I just love that about him. Just everything he does and in every way he expresses himself, I just melt.

[munchkin]

ooh I like this thread!

1)No matter how busy he is, he always makes time to give me a kiss
2)Even after two years together he still cuddles with me when we're asleep. And further more, always knows where I am in the bed so that if I move, he moves to keep cuddling.
3)He lets me scream and yell and cry when I'm upset, even when it's at him.
4)He understands the pressure of deadlines because he's in the same field and is under the same pressures himself.
5)He indulges my serial killer fascination and buys me more and more books, albeit making jokes about how I'm going to kill him in his sleep one day.

[Complicated Woman]

Just five?

1) I love that he knows the little things are important. He's always leaving me sweet notes, he brings an extra bottle of water to the gym for me, he rubs my neck without me asking him to if I've had a bad day...those sorts of things.

2) He lets me spoil him back without being macho about it -- I like that I can buy him dinner without him feeling like less of a man.

3) That he is as committed to our church family as I am and he gets why I let work take up as much of my time as I do. We're really partners, in it together, and I really love that.

4) He is hysterically funny. And he thinks I'm funny, too. I love the time we spend laughing and being goofy.

5) He has great integrity. He will always do what he says he will and he takes seriously commitment and responsibility.

Okay, and I have to add six:

6) We're so very compatible! Our outlook on finances, children, our goals and dreams, even our approach to everyday life work so well together. I love that the person who makes my heart beat fast is also the person who I realistically feel I can make a life with. How blessed am I?

[breezy]

1) He is my partner in all that we do. He respects me and lets me voice my opinions.

2) He trust me with his most precious commodity: His girls. He has learned that sharing that love and bond is a good thing!

3) Alan continues to value our relationship and put effort into maintaining it and keeping it healthy and ALIVE!

4) He pampers me, his girls, my Mom and even my Grandmothers!!!

5) He is a mans man, but has manners, class and is chivalrous!

6) He is always looking out for the best interest of "our family"!!!

[Kim&Bob2004]

1) Bob has a wonderful little grin that he gives me to let me know he loves me. I love it!

2) I cherish the way he cherishes me. He opens doors for me, holds my hand, cradles my head when we cuddle, doesn't complain about my snoring, is considerate of how I feel...

3) That he will do things for my mom. She is my mom not his, but he still will do something for her if she needs it.

4) He is my best friend, I have never felt this love or connection with anyone before. I don't know how I lived before he came into my life.

5) His good heart. he has a heart after God. This makes him kind, gentle and loving but also gives him firm convictions of what is right and wrong, he honestly seeks to do God's will and not for appearances sake but from his convictions.

6) He is a wonderful provider, both financially and emotionally.

A good topic. I have a question to ask though, do you tell your DH's or FH's that you do cherish them? Try to do so every day! Your relationship will grow by leaps and bounds!

[PlanetClaire]

Lovely to read positive things about men on a website instead of bashing!!

1> His sense of fun and play. He will do anything to make a child laugh. Will wear or do just about anything to make people laugh and enjoy themselves- he thoroughly enjoys himself while doing it!He's just a big kid! He has a great sense of humour and he loves mine!

2> He accepts me for who I am and doesn't try to change me. In the paraphrased words of Billy Joel "He loves me just the way I am"

3> His sense of romance; he is actually more romantic than I am or at least more original and demonstrative.

4> I cherish that he has strong morals and values and lives by them everyday. And wonderfully they are morals and values that we share.

5> He is very open and honest and has encouraged me to talk more about things when they bother me or are on my mind. He is very gentle and patient and very good at getting me to open up. I trust him with my life.

There are way more than 5!! But those are what came to mind first.

[555Ann555]

It hard to think of five that make him mean the most to me, and get them in some sort of order!

So in no particular order...

• The way he looks at me... the way he looks at me when he knows I'm being silly just to entertain him, the way he looks at me when I flirt with him, the way he looks at me when I've done something wrong. His emotions are always there to be read in his eyes.

• He can tell when I come home from work if I've had a bad day, he knows my face so well he immediately knows if all is not well, even if I'm trying to hide it! (I often feel invisible at work because most of the staff don't speak English and I only know a tiny bit of Chinese So it's truly wonderful to come home to someone who cares enough to notice me.)

• That he'll hold me in his arms when ever I need it

• He has a great deal of integrity. He lives by his beliefs and doesn't pretend otherwise, he won't pretend he approves of someone's behavior if he doesn't really.

• He loves me for all that I am. In spite of my issues and my past, in spite of my own personal neurosis! In spite of my family. He loves me and isn't afraid of it.