Attendant's Gifts - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

sparklesweetie · #1 01-29-2006, 12:30 AM

Ok, so here I was thinking again. I know that I'm making memo boards for each girl, so that's covered. And before, I thought that I'd get them each a monogramed tote bag, because you can never have too many tote bags, lol. However, I've seen different items here and there that would match each girl's personality to a T. Plus I found an awesome site that has plenty of stuff to choose from and isn't expensive.
My question is, do they all have to receive the same thing or is it ok to get them each something different? I'd spend the same amount on each one, regardless.

allison · #2 01-29-2006, 12:38 AM

I've always seen it where the gifts were similar, but I don't think there's any "rule" behind the gift-giving. If you have found different gifts for each girl that will suit their personalities, and you're going to be spending around the same amount on each, I say go for it. I would rather have a gift that was chosen for my personality than one that was chosen because it was uniform.

That's my

anyway.

TheaterDiva1 · #3 01-29-2006, 02:54 AM

My original plan involved getting everyone something similar, yet altered for each person, like a birthstone necklace. Another option would be bath/body supplies, if you know each person's favorite scents.

Marge129 · #4 01-29-2006, 03:11 AM

I think you can get the girls whatever you want. If it's the same, fine... if it's different, just make sure they're about the same in price. Not everyone likes the same stuff... I think it's nice to get a more personalized gift for each attendant.

Jacqueline · #5 01-29-2006, 03:01 PM

well our BM and MOH are having diffrent gift the the FG, BM and RB.

the FG and BM are having the same but our RB is diffrent but the same in price so i think it is better to have the personail but as ours are family we picked the same

Complicated Woman · #6 01-29-2006, 08:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by allison

I've always seen it where the gifts were similar, but I don't think there's any "rule" behind the gift-giving. If you have found different gifts for each girl that will suit their personalities, and you're going to be spending around the same amount on each, I say go for it. I would rather have a gift that was chosen for my personality than one that was chosen because it was uniform.

That's my

anyway.

What she said.

fallbride · #7 01-29-2006, 11:11 PM

I agree with them.

555Ann555 · #8 01-29-2006, 11:48 PM

I agree too!

Doesn't have to be the same if you think it won't suit them or they won't use it.

Our two ushers are getting different gifts. Although I can't decide on one of them! The other is getting cuff links because he'll actually use them more than once but I've not decided what to get the other... I know that's really the groom's job but he'll never get round to it because he hates shopping!

My BM's gift was the first I bought, I picked out a necklace with five little love hearts and a fine silver chain. Well I recently found you can get them with three little love hearts so I've ordered 2 of those for my flower girls.

It says they're from Tiffany's but I wouldn't bet on it!

They come with cute little gift bags though so the girls should be quite happy.

Sorry rambling about me again! Lol.

I think your idea to get them something individual to match their personalities is a lovely idea

wembley · #9 01-30-2006, 02:40 AM

When my brother got married, my SIL got all of us girls a tote bag and then filled them with somethings that were the same and then some things that were personalized. She got us all pink flip flops to match our dresses to wear at the reception and gave us jewlery to wear. Then she picked something personal for each girl. I think that was fun because we were all excited about our gifts then.

Jennifer · #10 01-30-2006, 10:18 PM

I got all of my girls something different. I didn't even get wedding related gifts. I knew the MOH was looking for a certain type of candle, so I bought that. One girl collects purses so I got her one. One girl needs jewelry so I got her a necklace. I also bought wall decorations, books and journals, panties (lol, it was a request) and clothes. Every girl got a gift suited to her personality.

Chillchacha · #11 01-30-2006, 10:47 PM

I think it is super cool if you get them something different it shows that you thought about each one of them. But then again I’m a non-traditionalist so I’m not sure if there is any etiquette or procedure attached to this.

sparklesweetie · #12 01-30-2006, 10:55 PM

I'm pretty sure I'm going to get them all something different now. However, I'm curious as to how much you all spent on yours? I wasn't planning on spending much over $20-30 for each girl.

555Ann555 · #13 01-31-2006, 01:30 AM

That seems ok...

I'm trying to remember. I think my Bm's was around £20 and the girsl were only £10 but there was shipping on all of those coz they came from the US.

gymrat · #14 01-31-2006, 01:37 AM

I think it would be fine to get different gifts. I would think that they would appreciate you for getting something just for them.

Kim&Bob2004 · #15 02-01-2006, 07:38 PM

I paid for all the skirts and sash's and dresses for the girls (MOH, BM's and FG's) and the kilt for the Sir of honor including the socks

and also bought gifts for each. For the adults I bought a picture frame and two pillar candle holders that were shaped in a Celtic knot or had a Celtic knot design and then for the FG's I bought a bag of goodies (coloring books, crayons, small doll, little girl make up sets, jewelry etc...) and also a large porcelin doll for when they are older (matching their personalities).

I let Bob take care of the men gifts. :-)