top table

[555Ann555]

Oh I'm back again with more questions

How did you all work out your top table seating plans?

I've got to fit in 10 people...
Moreno
Me
Bman
Bmaid
2 flower girls (S & F)(1 who's Mo's favourite but I don't want to be unfair to)
MOB
MOG
Monsignor (priest)(who'll sit in as FOG at top table)
Uncle Fred (who'll act as my FOB)


I did have:
Uncle, MOB, Bman,FG (S), Ann, Moreno, FG (F), BMaid, MOG, Priest.

Moreno doesn't think this is right... I'm not sure what tradition would dictate, or what the proper etiquette is but I want something that will work! I was OK with this set up... Any thoughts?

I can't put Mo next to my mum because he couldn't handle it. I'm not sure I could handle sitting next to her either but my Uncle Fred will be fine with it as would FG (F) or BMan or BMaid...

It's too much to ask you all to solve this for me so how about you tell me how you worked yours out and I'll try this again!

[Marge129]

I had me, XH, MOH, BM's, BMan, and GM at my table... that ended up being 8 people. We alternated boy-girl-boy-girl so my sister and her b/f could sit next to each other.

The order from left to right was:
BM, GM, MOH, XH, ME, BMan, BM, GM

For the parents, we had tables NEXT to the head table. It was easiest since I had bio and step-parents as did my XH. I'm not completely sure where my preacher and his wife sat.

[Lizbet]

Is your table rectangular, or circular? If it's rectangular will your group be sitting only on one sie of the table or around the whole thing?

[Marge129]

Oh yeah... my table was rectangular and placed at one end of the dance floor.

[Complicated Woman]

I think we're going to do a sweetheart table so our bridal party can sit with their guests. So it will be Tom & I at a small table and then the bridal party & guests at another table.

[555Ann555]

Originally Posted by Lizbet

Is your table rectangular, or circular? If it's rectangular will your group be sitting only on one sie of the table or around the whole thing?

It's a long rectangle and we'll all be on one side facing into the room...

What is a sweet heart table?

[syringa]

The flower girls don't need to sit at the head table unless someone is willing to supervise/help them. They can sit with their parents. You can also have a separate table for the parents so that only the wedding party sits together. Do whatever you have the space to do.

A sweetheart table is a separate table just for the bride and groom. The wedding party members sit at tables with their spouses/families.

[SuzyBride]

Mine was like this:

BM, BM, BM, MOH, Me, Josh, BM, GM, GM, GM

[Lizbet]

The official seating would have you and Mo in the middle. From there you would either have the men from the bridal party on his side and the women on yours, or alternate the men and women. And each family is often seated at a separate table.

Neither of these scenarios would really work for you, partially because your male/female ratio is lopsided, and partially because you will be including family at the head table. The only thing I may have a problem with in your setup depends on the FG's. They will probably need help with things throughout the meal, and I don't think you and Mo will want to be the ones helping them. Also, the MOH and Bman may not know the FG's well. I would try to seat them next to the mothers, or at the ends of the table, so that they can escape, without distracting everyone. My reccommendation would be from left to right:

FG
Uncle
MOB
Bman
Ann
Moreno
MOH
MOG
Priest
FG

Another possibility if you want to have the FG's near the Moms would be

Uncle
MOB
FG
Bman
Ann
Moreno
MOH
FG
MOG
Priest

Lastly, you could have all you BP on one side and His on the other, like so

Uncle
MOB
FG
MOH
Ann
Moreno
Bman
FG
MOG
Priest

(I don't know what the F and S next to the FG's means in your original post. If they are both on your side of the family, or both on his side of the family, this may change the seating somewhat. Also, would there be anyone you may want to honor by seating them at the head table, instead of the FG's?)

[whiddle]

I would have the FG's sit with their parents.

[555Ann555]

The F & S are just their initials, those were just on there to keep it straight in my head. Didn't even think about it adding to the confusion, sorry!

I didn't really want to be annoyed with the FG's at the table, Francesca lives on the other side of the country so hardly knows most of us and the other I love to pieces but she's a spoiled wee madam who's used to getting all the attention and all her own way. But Moreno wants them up there with us...

I swear this is true: when we go to Mo's mum's house for Christmas dinner Stephanie gets to dictate where we'll all be sitting! We went to a restaurant with the family shortly after Christmas and she had everyone move seats and they did it and didn't even question being moved by a 7yr old! They are both Moreno's nieces (Stephanie is his twin's daughter).

Thank you so much for the advice everyone and
OMG Lizbet thankyou!

I think I'll pinch two of your ideas:
I'll have the girls well away from me but still at the top table
and split each side into my BP & Mo's BP. I hadn't thought of doing that!

Syringa: Over here it's normal for the MOB etc to be at the top table, they would be heart broken if I told them they couldn't! Mo's mum is really looking forward to it You're right about the FGs and I'd probably have them sit with their parents but Moreno really wants them up there with us. I'll remind him it was his choice when he's ready to strangle them

I think I'll put Stephanie next to Monsignor because he adores her and I'll have Francesca next to my uncle because he was always lovely to me when I was little and he'll be kind to a little girl he doesn't know...

So...

Francesca
Uncle
MOB
BM
Ann
Moreno
BMan
MOG
Monsignor
Stephanie.

Thanks again for that!

[Kim&Bob2004]

Wow all the details!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :-)

Everyone was suppose to sit with us, but only the BestM, one GM, MOH and one of the BM ended up doing that. The other GM sat by his wife and the other BM was doing her own thing. She kind of treated our wedding as a real casual affair, she didn't even help me change afterwards. But I wanted her daughter as a FG so to ensure that this BM was asked to be a BM. Anyway, I think Lizbet had some great ideas.

[555Ann555]

I'd have been pissed at that Kim. Makes you wonder sometimes what goes on inside peoples heads!