Ideas for East Coast Ceremony - party of 2? - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

Canuk · #1 04-03-2008, 04:22 AM

Hi! I'm new to this forum - it looks great! Both my DH and I are have been married before - so this time 'round it's going to be a small affair. REALLY SMALL. Just him and I. Reason being, we've just moved to New Brunswick from British Columbia - all my family and friends live there - and all of my DH's family are in England. So everyone's scattered all over the place. We've decided the easiest way to go about it is for us to just have a ceremony and say our vows, and NEXT year (summer of 2009) we'll have a big celebration party in our yard. This gives everyone time to plan and save for the trip and both our families give us the thumbs up for this idea. Because it's going to be such a quiet, low key wedding though we're trying to come up with ideas to make it feel more of a special occassion. My grandparents were married in Nova Scotia 62 years ago so we're debating getting married in the same church. But we don't know where to go to celebrate afterwards - be it a nice dinner somewhere, a nice hotel, ??? Totally stumped. Also, we were hoping to get married THIS month - April 23rd (because it's Saint George's Day in the UK). we figured it wouldn't be an issue since it'll just be the two of us, getting married in the middle of the week. Not much planning needs to be done. It kinda bums me out a bit. But with our family and friends so far apart, there's not much we can do about it. ANY ideas would be appreciated. I think I'll just start looking for a nice dress that I can wear again for special occassions. Pick some nice flowers at a florists. We're going to make wedding annoucements (I'm a stamper and already got the stamps and materials) - and we'll mail them out afterwards, with a photo.
We're also planning on having a Saint George's Day party on April 26th with our friends and neighbors - and we'll announce that we were married 3 days before and were really inviting everyone over to announce it and have abit of a party....

Tina

NovemberGal · #2 04-03-2008, 04:39 AM

Welcome to Pash!

Out of curiosity, why do have to get married this year if it is "bumming you out" that your family and friends won't be there? Can you just wait until you can afford the wedding you want? It's wonderful to have a small, intimate wedding if that's what you truly want, but it doesn't quite sound like it IS what you want.

Also, do you need to have any witnesses? I don't know the legal requirements in Canada.

I don't have any very good suggestions of how to celebrate. I'd suggest looking for something that is fun and romantic--a cozy dinner, fancy or not as you two like best. Some kind of carriage or boat ride, just the two of you and with a guide to do the work? Splurge on a fancy hotel with room service and a jacuzzi tub in the room?

Canuk · #3 04-03-2008, 01:04 PM

We'd wait to have a bit more of a 'proper' wedding - but no matter when we'd have it, we still not be able to have key family members here at the same time. Even if we waited until next July, my Mom won't be able to attend (she's coming at Christmas to visit though), and certain family from England are coming this summer instead of next summer...etce etc . No matter what we planned - we wouldn't be able to keep everyone happy by having it when THEY want/can come. And we don't want to keep 'holding out' for everyone's travel plans. Furthermore, we wouldn't have enough room to house everyone if they all came at once (and my parents are divorced - so being in the same house would be ackward). So with everyone coming to visit at different times of the year, we can spend more one-one time with them - and whomever can show up for our big party next year is a bonus.

sparklesweetie · #4 04-03-2008, 02:14 PM

Welcome to Pash!

I understand that not everyone will be able to come, regardless of the date. That's just part of it. But if you're going to have a majority of these people have a big celebration with you next July - well, still not everyone can make it, right?

Why not go ahead and have the wedding that you want? Invite everyone - those who can make it, great, those who can't, can't. It's just part of it - you are not going to please everyone and there will be some who can't/don't come. So I don't see why you seem to be throwing out what you really want b/c certain people won't be able to attend.

"So with everyone coming to visit at different times of the year, we can spend more one-one time with them - and whomever can show up for our big party next year is a bonus." You need to just take this attitude and put it towards the ceremony you really want.

Heather · #5 04-03-2008, 03:29 PM

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Originally Posted by sparklesweetie

"So with everyone coming to visit at different times of the year, we can spend more one-one time with them - and whomever can show up for our big party next year is a bonus." You need to just take this attitude and put it towards the ceremony you really want.

I agree! Regardless of where people are or when you do it, some won't make it. I had people from 2 hours away not show up for one reason or another, lol. It's just part of it.

But, if that's really not what you're interested in, then I would just hop online and do some research about nice restaurants, things to do or see, etc.

Good idea about the dress, too. Get something you're comfortable in and can wear again.

ringem1 · #6 04-03-2008, 03:33 PM

Congrats and Welcome to Pash

You do what you want to do! Not because someone might not be able to show up. There is always going to be someone who cant make it no matter when you do it.