Best Man "Duties"??

[ringem1]

Ok I was unsure where to put this but I thought it would work in this one. So my fiance Jason is the best man in his best friend's wedding in September. He asked me what his "duties" as a BM include. I have no idea except the bachelor party. I told him what a MOH would include so now he is wondering what besides the bachelor party, does he need to do??

[Julz518]

As far as I know, usually the best man throws the Bach party, and gives a toast at the wedding.

Other duties would be at the grooms discretion, but could include helping to pick out the tuxes (or other attire), helping to decorate for the ceremony or reception, accompanying the groom to the bridal shower (if that's a tradition in your area), and anything else the bride/groom may need his help with.

The best man is also usually held responsible for making sure the groom and other GM's show up for the wedding/pictures on time, and calming any last minute jitters the groom may have.

[feb-bride]

Sometimes, the best man also helps with paying any vendors whose last payments are due at the wedding. I don't mean that he spends his own money; I mean that he would be given the envelopes for each vendor who needs to receive final payment at the wedding.

[ringem1]

Ok thanks ladies he is just freakin out that there is something he is suppose to do and will forget. He just doesnt want to screw up and then ruin their whole day! Thanks again!

[Dr. Nic]

Here are the duties of the Best Man, as outlined by the Garnet and Gold, published in 2006:

• Assisting the groom as advisor, messenger, valet and secretary in the wedding preparations;
• Accompanying the groom to be fitted for his wedding attire;
• Conferring with the bride on flowers for the male members of the wedding party, for which the groom pays but the bride usually orders;
• Confirming accommodations for nonresident members of the wedding party;
• Coordinating the rehearsal of the wedding ceremony to ensure that it begins on schedule;
• Assisting the groom on the wedding day to prepare for the ceremony;
• Driving the groom to the ceremony;
• Arranging transportation for the bride and groom from the ceremony to the reception;
• Confirming that the marriage license is in the groom's inside pocket and that he has the bride's wedding band;
• Delivering the minister's fee when the best man acts as witness to the ceremony;
• Getting the ushers to the ceremony one hour in advance of the ceremony;
• Getting the groom to the ceremony at least 30 minutes in advance of the ceremony;
• Escorting the maid or matron of honor during and after the ceremony;
• Offering the first toast to the newly-married couple;
• Reading any messages, which customarily come from invitees who could not attend, during the toasting section of the reception;
• Assisting the wedding couple in their departure from the reception;
• Supervising the couple's luggage for the honeymoon and ensuring it is ready for the honeymoon trip;
• Making honeymoon reservations in some cases; and
• Arranging to have wine or flowers waiting in the room when the couple arrives.

This is all pretty traditional stuff. I know not everyone does everything this way. But there is a list of stuff to consider. I also have the responsibilities of the groom, and of the ushers, also from the same book; I can post these too, if you'd like.

[jasonjuicer]

Originally Posted by Julz518

As far as I know, usually the best man throws the Bach party, and gives a toast at the wedding.

Other duties would be at the grooms discretion, but could include helping to pick out the tuxes (or other attire), helping to decorate for the ceremony or reception, accompanying the groom to the bridal shower (if that's a tradition in your area), and anything else the bride/groom may need his help with.

The best man is also usually held responsible for making sure the groom and other GM's show up for the wedding/pictures on time, and calming any last minute jitters the groom may have.

That covers about all of it.