what are YOU giving your bridal party? - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

The future Mrs. · #1 03-04-2008, 03:09 PM

Hi again! I wanted to see what everyone was giving their bridal party as gifts and how much you are spending.

Everyone seems to have an opinion on what they are getting in my bridal party (don't get me silver! i want a flask!) ... which i know is rude, but whatever

i was thinking of just buying everyone the matching sandals for their dresses (its a beach wedding) and a gift certificate for a pedicure. i think it would be about $40 total (a feet theme, lol)

i would like to know what you guys are getting them and if your gift is more "personal" or more like something thats more useful...

Gina

justnmary · #2 03-04-2008, 03:17 PM

I think that would be fine. Do what works for you and what you want them to have.

I did a necklace that they wore for the wedding, B&B shower gel and lotion and a book, nothing fancy just a little something. I think I paid $30 a necklace so I probably spent about $50-$60 for each person.

ladedah · #3 03-04-2008, 03:30 PM

I didn't buy thier dresses, but I paid for their shoes and jewelry and for hair/make-up if they wanted it on the wedding day and took them to lunch before we all got dressed for pictures. But I just counted that as "wedding expenses"...so I got each of them a silver jewelry box with their monogram engraved on top. They were $40 or so...not practical, but more of a keepsake.

I think everyone should do what they feel is appropriate and reasonable.

sparklesweetie · #4 03-04-2008, 03:42 PM

I gave my BP garter belts for fun ($1 each at Target) and made memory boards for them. I wanted them to have something that they could use and remember the day with - so I decided on the boards. I wanted to get them jewelry too, but the budget wouldn't allow it.

If your BP is telling what they do and don't want - I'd be tempted not to give them anything for being so rude. BP gifts are not a requirement.

The future Mrs. · #5 03-04-2008, 03:54 PM

i tend to be a pushover and then it gets me into trouble. like i will say "would you guys like jewelry for your gift or something else" and they will say "i only wear turquoise jewelry" or something like that. so i keep asking them "well, do you like this?" etc. and then i tend to get bullied. its my own fault

sparklesweetie · #6 03-04-2008, 05:52 PM

Lol - ok, then stop asking them what they'd like. Think about what YOU want them to have. Do YOU want them to have matching jewelry for your wedding or do YOU want them to have something different?

I used to be the same way - eventually I just got tired of it.

But I've been there. Planning my wedding actually got me over some of it as well.

Regardless of what you decide, they should be grateful and graciously accept your gift with thanks.

KaileK · #7 03-04-2008, 07:04 PM

I paid for their dresses and shoes and will pay for mani/pedis before the wedding.

The total cost per person is approx. $240

#8 03-09-2008, 06:01 PM

I've been thinking about this a ton since the wedding is very rapidly approaching. I am thinking that I will get each girl a nice robe, a book, and a bottle of wine / cocktail thing (depending on their individual tastes...some like wine, some don't), and some bubble bath. I think it would all go nicely into a bag or basket, and be kinda a "when everything calms down and the wedding-craziness is over, I'm giving you a nice relaxing evening for yourself / yourself and your significant other." My thought is also that everyone will use the items, whether together or separately. Hopefully it goes over well.

The future Mrs. · #9 03-09-2008, 06:59 PM

thanks for the ideas ladies!!!!

Steph · #10 03-09-2008, 08:15 PM

For the weddings I have been in as a bridesmaid/Maid of Honor I either received jewelry to wear with the dress, hair/makeup paid for or some other type of nice keepsake. One bride had little bears made up of the bridal party and the bears were wearing our dresses. It was so cute.

Everything was greatly appreciated.

I think the pedicures/sandals idea is a really cute idea.

Complicated Woman · #11 03-09-2008, 11:18 PM

DH did flasks with funny things engraved on them. I did jewelry (cufflinks for my male friend) and a little jewelry box that came with a scented candle and a sachet for the drawer. It wasn't much, but I told them it also came with my undying love! LOL!

wynelle · #12 03-10-2008, 12:55 AM

For my daughter's wedding, I ordered Land's End totes for each of the girls, with their personal initials on them. We made sachets using antique linen handkerchiefs stuffed with potpourri, and also added a mini-bottle of either champagne or sparkling cidar, and then added "emergency" items like tylenol, sewing kit, clear nail polish, emery boards, etc.

For step-daughter #1, I ordered pashminas from Nepal in a color tht would go well with the bridesmaids' gowns. It was a mid-April wedding and the temperature kept shifting.

I wasn't as involved with step-daughter #2's wedding.

For my wedding, I had the appropriate family tartan woven into sashes, and had smaller pieces wrapped around the roses each one carried.

NovemberGal · #13 03-10-2008, 03:16 AM

I gave my adult attendants pashminas, and for the junior maids I added necklaces and earrings as well as the pashminas.

I bought the dresses for two of my girls, as well.

allisonw1400 · #14 03-11-2008, 03:28 PM

I am giving the flower girl & ring bearer cute rubber duckies that are dressed up like flower girls & ring bearers. I got them both a little something with their fav character...she likes Dora the explorer & he likes Bob the builder.

For my bridesmaids I am giving them each an earring and necklace set. Since we're getting our makeup done at the mall I am letting them pick out a thing of lipstick, and I might get them white vintage purses for the wedding day.

Since FH & I have 4 parents a piece (including step parents) we are making scrapbooks for them after the wedding. I want to present them with something at the ceremony but I'm not sure what exactly.

Good luck...I'm sure anything you get them will be appreciated. I think the pedicure & sandal idea is awesome! I wish I could do something like that but its not within our budget.

lala · #15 03-11-2008, 11:51 PM

I'm giving my ManOH cufflinks and my BM are getting clutches & necklaces. I'm making everything, so the cost won't be very high. I have no idea what FH is getting his GM.

The future Mrs. · #16 03-12-2008, 02:11 PM

how are you making them? i am just curious

RJE080703 · #17 03-12-2008, 05:07 PM

I gave my BM's a big tote with their initials or names monogrammed and filled them with a bottle of wine in a nice wine bag, matching earrings & necklaces, a jewelry roll with their initials monogrammed, and a big white fluffy towel (was going to get them monogrammed but ran out of time) - Total cost about $100 per girl

DH got the guys very nice pocket knives with their initials engraved on the blade. - Total cost about $50 per guy

The future Mrs. · #18 03-12-2008, 05:12 PM

i like that pocket knife idea... very original!
Gina

RJE080703 · #19 03-12-2008, 05:15 PM

We bought the knives from a local company called Sheinberg Tool Company. They are the sames type of knives that my husband has had the same one since high school and he is 27 and uses it ALL the time. Then we took them to Things Remembered and had them engraved. They did the engraving the same day too!!

Not affilitated with either company... just happy with the quality of product and work they did

todaysdestinationwedding · #20 03-14-2008, 12:11 AM

My hubby and I were married in the Smokey Mountains of TN. We waited to by gifts until the day before the wedding and bought souveniers from the mountains to remember our wedding...they all loved them. Since you are doing a beach wedding, maybe you can do the same...the sandal idea is great and goes along with your theme.

lala · #21 03-14-2008, 04:27 AM

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Originally Posted by The future Mrs.

how are you making them? i am just curious

The cuff links? I don't have the exact design in mind yet, but I have blank cuff link backs & I'll probably solder a decorative piece on them. The clutches are easy, as are the necklaces (simple pearl strands).

Wonderland449 · #22 04-16-2008, 04:13 AM

I'm getting one of my bridesmaids "the wild country girl" a flask that has "bridesmaid" engraved on it and comes in a box shaped like a diamond ring.
($19.00)

I am getting my maid of honor "the preppy smart girl" a compact mirror that has "maid of honor" engraved on it and also comes in a box shaped like a diamond ring (with a huge plastic diamond on top).
($17.00)

I thought these were super cute and personalized for each girls personality without being overly done. I am also paying part of their wedding dress cost OR paying for hair/makeup, depending on how much the dresses we choose end up being.

maidofhonor · #23 05-29-2008, 02:25 PM

I really like your idea of giving wedding sandals and pedicures (I mean...who doesn't like a pedicure?).

I know it probably sounds cheesy, but I gave my bridesmaids board games. I figured that they might actually have fun using them (instead of wine glasses or plaques engraved with MY wedding date!).