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sparklesweetie · #1 01-21-2006, 01:35 AM

Are the MOB and MOG not supposed to wear wedding colors? I ask b/c my mom found a navy-ish outfit from DB that she just fell in love with and is determined to get.

deputysgurl · #2 01-21-2006, 01:41 AM

Im letting both moms wear purple. The only color i told them no on is white.

roseprincess · #3 01-21-2006, 02:00 AM

the consensus is always that they should stay away from the bride's color (white or ivory, whichever is being worn) but then different people have differing opinions on how much the mothers and their outfits should complement the wedding colors.

*IMO* it looks best when the MOB & MOG complement the wedding party. I was relieved that my mother picked a pewter-blue dress to wear to my wedding (my color palette: periwinkle, indigo and yellow) and MIL chose a champagne-colored dress (she had talked about getting something in green, and I HATE green). For BIL's wedding, the SMOB (step-mother) wore a similar sage green to the BMs, the MOB wore ivory and MIL wore a teal blue dress that was beautiful on her (but I thought didn't go with everyone else's colors).

gymrat · #4 01-21-2006, 02:30 AM

It is your wedding and if you are fine with it then go for it.

sparklesweetie · #5 01-21-2006, 02:41 AM

It doesn't bother me, I was just curious if there was another "etiquette" rule I was breaking.

hehe I actually want my mom to get the outfit she tried on, it made her look so young and it was very slimming on her. I want her to feel pretty too, she doesn't get "made up" often. Or at all. I don't think I've ever seen my mom wear makeup. I did talk her into getting her hair done with all of us that day though, so that'll be a treat for both of us!

ljeagle · #6 01-21-2006, 02:48 AM

I haven't never heard of the MOB and MOG not wear the colors. My mother purchased a silver dress right after the holidays and thats what she will wear. It's funny u bring it up cause MOG just ask tonight what color should she wear...

cru5h · #7 01-21-2006, 01:34 PM

I think they should wear whatever they like. If coordinating MOB/G to everyone else is desired, I don't think it's a terrible thing to ask either.

Complicated Woman · #8 01-21-2006, 01:43 PM

I personally don't care what color our mothers wear to the wedding, but that's just me. Even if they wear my white/ivory, as long as they manage to stay out of a ballgown and veil, I think I will be distinguishable. But, like cru5h, I think that if someone wants them to be coordinated, that is a fine thing to ask and should be taken into account.

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #9 01-21-2006, 03:41 PM

I posted in the other thread just not the wedding colors and white/ivory, as that's the "rule" I've been told. But, I was just TOLD that--I don't know if it's an actual "rule." But on further consideration, I DO think it would look nicer if they coordinated. So, we can throw that one right out the window!

bebe · #10 01-21-2006, 08:03 PM

When I was contemplating my mom's dress on the old board, I was told by a lot of people that she should not match the color of the bridesmaids. I always thought that was kind of a silly rule! The most important thing to me was that my mom looked fab and felt great in what she was wearing. My BM's were in black, and my mom ended up with a (different) black dress as well and I thought it looked great.

syringa · #11 01-21-2006, 09:20 PM

The issue with not matching the bridesmaids' dresses refers to style, not color. There are a few moms out there that would try to wear a dress that is very similar in style and color to what the bridesmaids wear. As long as the moms wear colors that coordinate with the wedding colors and that reflect their age and position, they are fine with whatever they choose.

It is usually better to let them choose their own dresses rather than assigning a color. Finding attractive dresses for moms is just plain hard. I have had to do it three times and it took more time than finding the wedding gown. If your mom found a dress that she looks great in, then go for it.

TheaterDiva1 · #12 01-21-2006, 10:17 PM

MIL wore the same color as the BM's, and it didn't occur to me to care.

That said, when out moms asked what color, I simply reminded then of our wedding theme (beach) and the color palette that it would involve (muted pastels) and asked that they stick with those colors.

wedbyjean · #13 01-23-2006, 10:50 PM

There's a "rule" that says the MOB & MOG aren't supposed to wear white/ivory (reserved for the bride), nor black (too funeral-ish).

They should coordinate with the bridal party instead of trying to match the BP, (which means they don't have to wear the same colors at the BP, but choose colors that looks good next to the colors of the BP's attire). This way they look pretty together in the photos (and no one glaringly stands out), yet the moms don't end up looking like they're trying to be one of the younger gals.

As with just about everything else, it's really up to what you and your FH want. Give it a little thought, then give both moms some gentle guidance.

There's also a rule that the MOB is supposed to pick out her attire first, then she is to contact the MOG to coordinate. These days, that rarely happens.

CupieJen · #14 01-24-2006, 12:09 AM

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There's also a rule that the MOB is supposed to pick out her attire first, then she is to contact the MOG to coordinate. These days, that rarely happens.

I was going to say the same thing. For my sister's wedding (year before mine) MOG got her dress before my mom got hers. It kinda ticked her off because MOG is very fancy. MOB had gotten a dress that was really good (not as fancy) but had to return it cus MOG would be way more dressed up.

For my wedding, my mom & MIL & I all went shopping together. They both found something at Macy's that complemented the rest of the wedding & the "matched" nicely.

If you don't have a prob. with it, go for it, but check with your FMIL to see what she's planning on wearing.

555Ann555 · #15 01-24-2006, 12:25 AM

I'd vote for the one she's found that she loves and you love her in. Sounds like a win/win situation to me!

My mum has changed her mind and now wants to wear black (which the whole bridal party will be wearing). I'm fine with it, I love black and would be quite happy if all the guests turned up in black too!

FMIL has told me she is *not* wearing black

but looks lovely in lilac/purple/blue those are her favorites so I'm fine with any of those.

The only colours I've vetoed for any of the bridal party/mog/mob is ivory or white (because I want that reserved for me). And anything too bright like scarlet or emerald or Barbie pink. This is because I've seen pictures of weddings where that has been done and you don't look at the bride. It draws all of your attention away to whoever is wearing the bright colour...

I'm a bit embarrassed about having a mildly bridezilla-ish moment but when I look at the photos I want to see me. When I show them to other people I want their eyes to be drawn to me.

Luckily none of the people in my wedding are likely to try to steal the limelight

allison · #16 01-24-2006, 12:44 AM

I've always known the MOB and MOG to actually try to complement the bridal party colors.

ladedah · #17 01-25-2006, 07:01 PM

I had always heard "not the same color as BP but complimentary"....however, I say whatever. I asked MOB & MOG to wear black...they agreed until MOG was like...I'm thinking of a sash to add color...or a belt or whatever...I kind of ignored her until her and her friend were shopping for jewelry and the friend suggested a red or turquoise jewelry set and I finally said "what do people not get about a black and white wedding?"...needless to say...no mention of color since....

anyways, back to subject...I say go with the dress your mom loves!!!

555Ann555 · #18 01-25-2006, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by ladedah

I had always heard "not the same color as BP but complimentary"....however, I say whatever. I asked MOB & MOG to wear black...they agreed until MOG was like...I'm thinking of a sash to add color...or a belt or whatever...I kind of ignored her until her and her friend were shopping for jewelry and the friend suggested a red or turquoise jewelry set and I finally said "what do people not get about a black and white wedding?"...needless to say...no mention of color since....

anyways, back to subject...I say go with the dress your mom loves!!!

You seriously wouldn't let her wear coloured accessories??? Seems a bit extreme to me, even with a black and white wedding... What would you do if they did anyway? If I got an invite to a B&W wedding I'd assume it meant the main colour of my outfit not that I couldn't accessories however I chose to... just my

Jennifer · #19 01-25-2006, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by wedbyjean

There's a "rule" that says the MOB & MOG aren't supposed to wear white/ivory (reserved for the bride), nor black (too funeral-ish).

My wedding party was all in black and the MOB and MOG were too. It looked great with all of the black and me in white! However, I had been told the mom's shouldn't wear black...

ladedah · #20 01-25-2006, 08:24 PM

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Originally Posted by 555Ann555

You seriously wouldn't let her wear coloured accessories??? Seems a bit extreme to me, even with a black and white wedding... What would you do if they did anyway? If I got an invite to a B&W wedding I'd assume it meant the main colour of my outfit not that I couldn't accessories however I chose to... just my

they weren't small and eloquent accessories. I just want everyone to blend in and not have one person that stuck out...and she isn't just an invited guest...she's the MOG. (MOG's friend was suggesting the MOG wear rather large colorful jewelry to wear with her cocktail dress)...I don't really care what the guests wear.