Scared

[Aprilee]

I have always been up and down about marriage and how big of a commitment it was blah blah! months before i met scott i didnt wanna get married that was my decsion. but we got engaged and now in 3 months i will be tied to a commitment i been afraid of all my life. so its typical to feel nervous right! i love scott and I wanna marry him but i dunno! i been sick to my stomach ever since i started planning this wedding, i know for a fact now its nerves before it thought i had the stomach flu, but its not like a "oh no i shouldnt marry him" feeling its a " I cant believe this is happening to me " feeling, im not afraid necessarily of what is happening but of what may not happen! i am afraid of about to get married and the minister dont show up or one of my bridesmaids ends up sick, or scott dont show up! normal i guess, wedding jitters, Scott tells me to chill but i tell him "can you please talk to Joe on saturday to make sure he is at this wedding to marry us, and can you please just make sure nothing goes wrong" thats all i can say to him.

and then im afraid no one will show up and he tells me they will! god how can i stop stressing myself over this wedding??
and then im afraid of getting involved with all the marriage things, these days isnt it like 50 percent of marriages end in divorce? i mean my finace was married prior to me! and isnt divorce like very expensive? its like a break up that cost alot of money and time, i wanna get married once and thats it. i just hope hes the one, im going crazy, sorry for ranting

[AshyBekka]

BREATHE!

Look at this way-something will inevitably go wrong on your wedding day. You simply can't have that many people in one place at one time and not have something go a little off kilter. Most likely it will be something minor you'll never even notice. But here's the kicker-at the end of your wedding day, even if your whole bridal party is sick, if only two people of however many who RSVP'ed show up, if your annoying uncle Dick pukes at the reception...you know what? you're still married to the guy who you love more than anything else in this world, and who actually made you want to take this leap in the first place. Isn't that really all that matters?

And yup-divorce happens and divorce is expensive and it's out there, but so what? Doesn't mean you're going to be the statistic. Focus on the here and now-there's no need to set your marriage up for disaster before you've even walked down the aisle.

Take some me time this weekend with NO wedding planning and just unwind. Wedding planning can get crazy, but just remember what the real goal to all of this is: being MARRIED not just having a WEDDING. Good luck!