All the King's men

[Clarity]

Saturday while discussing the wedding, FH mentioned having one or two of the boys stand up with him. He then said ALL 4 of the boys could stand up with him. Great except I dont have but one or two people with me. (All my close friends are in this box ) What is a good way to have they guys participate (BTW my oldest faints in large crouds) be apart of the ceremony without having full court press up there? I orginally just wanted a my cousin with me and his best man. KISS!!

Any suggestions?

[NovemberGal]

The sides don't have to be equal, so he could have four and you could have two with no problem. But be sure the boys want to do this - the oldest, for example, might rather have an out-of-the-spotlight role.

Who is giving you away? My friend's second wedding included a lovely touch - her mother walked her down the aisle (her father has passed away), and when the priest asked who gives this woman...yadda yadda, her daughter and son stood as well and her mother answered "Her children and I do". The kids did not want to be in the wedding party but enjoyed having that small role and a "say" in mom's wedding.

[Brandonsgirl]

Someone could read a verse, a poem, or a letter...one could usher...one could give you away (maybe the oldest since he faints)...they could hand out programs...have guests sign the guestbook...

There are tons of little tasks you could give them if they don't want to stand up front...

[Clarity]

I like that. This is my first wedding and my dad has given ALL my cousins away and even a few of my friends so I definately want him to get a chance to give his only daughter away. (He just said if he gives me away I can't come back ) My oldest will do it he said if we really want him to but he really has issues with large groups of people. My youngest just wants to wear a bow tie, my middle one is comfortable at EVERYTHING. His son well thanks to his mom he is not very confident so I really worry about putting any additional pressure on him. Although, he did say he wanted to be his best man. I wonder if we had his son stand up with him and my middle one stand up with me? Is that a no no? Then what to do with my youngest one? I thought about doing a "Family" unity candle but not quite sure how to do it. Has anyone done or seen something like this? He has a stepdaughter who we've always included in everything because he raised her but because their mom is the way she is she just turned 18 and moved in with her biological dad and we don't see her anymore just email and the occasional phone call so I don't know whether to include her or not. Arg! This was easier just listen to everyone else plan their weddings.

ETA: BTW the boys are 18 (my fainter), 13 & 13, and 10