Questions?? (being an airhead tonight) - The PASH Wedding Forums and Message Boards

deputysgurl · #1 01-20-2006, 01:11 AM

I was just wondering if the RSVP goes in the little envelope when you send it or do you just put both envelope and RSVP in the big envelope. I guess what I am wondering is what is the correct order to put the invite together.

Should I put my Address on the RSVP envelope?

Is it OK to put an address label on the RSVP envelope if i was to address to them.

Kim&Bob2004 · #2 01-20-2006, 01:35 AM

We used RSVP cards and didn't have envelopes.

As for the address on them, Yes I would put your address on them. Or whomever is hosting the wedding. Didn't you say you and FH were both doing your own wedding, meaning folks weren't paying for it? Oh, I also used address labels on the RSVP's.

This is just my thoughts, anyone else??

deputysgurl · #3 01-20-2006, 01:51 AM

Kim,
FH and I are paying for the majority of the wedding, since my parents aren't helping. FH's family is helping a little. But we are using our address as our return address. So I guess I would put our on the RSVP.

deputysgurl · #4 01-20-2006, 02:00 AM

Do I put Matt McCormick & Stephanie McCarty for the return address. Or do I just put myself.

ljeagle · #5 01-20-2006, 02:02 AM

I am not sure if u go ahead and put them in the small envelopes. I do know that u should go ahead and address them and put a stamp on them. a lot of people will not RSVP if they have to pay for the stamp...

ljeagle · #6 01-20-2006, 02:04 AM

I am only putting my name on it. If u live with him then I would put both of your names...

bebe · #7 01-20-2006, 03:15 AM

My invitations had little pockets for all of the enclosures, so I can't help you on that part. But I had the RSVP envelopes addressed to me only at our shared address.

Heather · #8 01-20-2006, 03:29 AM

Our RSVPs were addressed to both of us at our shared address.

We folded the flap of the envelope over the RSVP, but didn't put the card in the envelope. I did not put the RSVP or the envelope into the bigger invitation envelope. I also used white labels for our address on the RSVP envelopes - and I had stamps that said LOVE on them. If you wanted something like that, just tell the post office and they'll hook you up.

Speaking of which - your package didn't go out until today. I had been assured I could ship it from work, but our Admin was out and I couldn't figure out the FedEx online system for our company. So - I hit the old post office and sent it Priority Mail. You should have it in 2 to 3 days. If you don't get it by Monday or Tuesday, let me know. I have a recp't but I didn't get insurance.

deputysgurl · #9 01-20-2006, 03:47 AM

Heather, thats cool. I wasn't expecting it till monday anyways. Our post office here is slow.
How did you do you RSVP? did you mail them seperatly? Just wondering. I still need to print the invitations, but im waiting for FMIL (English Professor) to look over the ruff draft.

Marge129 · #10 01-20-2006, 03:56 AM

I tucked the RSVP card under the flap of the RSVP envelope. You can put whatever address you want on the RSVP envelope. Mine were my address, but my Mom's name (I lived with her at the time). I did it that way since she was hosting the wedding.

I think a label on the RSVP envelope would be fine. Mine came pre-printed.

deputysgurl · #11 01-20-2006, 03:59 AM

Margie, I wish mine came preprinted. But since I am printing my own invitations I don't have that luxury. I just talked to FH and he told me to just put mine. So That is decided.

Heather · #12 01-20-2006, 03:59 AM

We didn't mail them separately. We had an outer envelope so when someone opened the main envelope, there was another envelope inside with the invitation. Also contained in the "main" envelope was the RSVP card and directions/maps tucked under the RSVP envelope flap.

I can't tell you if that is "proper" or not. My issue was that I had screwed up the envelopes so bad on my printer that I had to go to Office Max and buy what I thought was a similiar size and start again. By the time I stuffed them I was ready to get them out the damn door and didn't care whether they were proper or not, lol.

I honestly don't think people pay attention to that anyway. I know I don't. I had no idea about half the stuff I learned on here.

Heather · #13 01-20-2006, 04:03 AM

One more thing - you're not being an airhead. If you could have seen some of the conversations that Margie and I had when we did ours, you would have laughed... I think we were both ready to say screw it at one point.

deputysgurl · #14 01-20-2006, 04:07 AM

I wish i had help but all of my bms are at least an hour away, fh is in the city, and fmil lives 20 miles away and my car is broke down. So im stuck at home doing what I can tonight.

I was have some major airhead moments earlier, don't worry about that one.

When FH called I told him we were just going to vegas when he gets back, but then he talked me down. He wants me to have my dream wedding no matter what. I love him!

breezy · #15 01-20-2006, 05:52 AM

I am no help

We are going to use postcards... the postage is cheaper and it solves the problem and added expense of what/when/where to do with another envelope

Chillchacha · #16 01-20-2006, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by bebe

My invitations had little pockets for all of the enclosures, so I can't help you on that part. But I had the RSVP envelopes addressed to me only at our shared address.

Oh Bebe I have seen those invites and I so wanted them but I think I may make the invites myself to save money. My FH has access to all the fonts, designs and excellent printing equipment at work and one of his producers said he could use it which is totally cool but I still want the invites with the little pockets. (run on sentence

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If you live together I would put both names but if you don’t I would just put your name. Hmmm I wonder if I should use the name I ship things under? I.P. Freely

Solar_Flare · #17 01-20-2006, 06:56 AM

Typically (mostly for businesses I imagine), you can add your phone number right next to RSVP without being tacky. That way also, they have a more direct way to reach you if something comes up and they can't make it at the last minute or if they don't want to do the snail mail thing.

With the address, whether you're just sending a card or having it in an envelope, make sure to have your return address written on it. Everytime I get mail from someone and I send something back, I always look for the return address there. Its more convienent since I'm not having to search for their address or find out I don't have it.

I love Heather's idea with the package idea. Especially the directions if you're having people come in from out of town/state.

Lizbet · #18 01-20-2006, 10:06 PM

Officially, the RSVP card is tucked under the flap of the return envelope and placed inside the inner envelope with the invitation. If you have a folded invite with writing on the inside, the RSVP card, response envelope, and any enclosures (like a map or separate reception card) go inside the invite. If your invite is a single sheet or if it is folded, but all the writing is on the outside, the "extra" info goes in front of the invite in the inner envelope.

The front of the invite faces the back flap of the inner envelope, which is addressed with names only of the invited guests. This envelope is not sealed.

The front of the inner envelope faces the back flap of the outer envelope, which is fully addressed with the name and address of the guest(s), and is sealed for mailing.

I know this isn't the easiest thing to explain without seeing it, so if you have any questions, just ask. And, like I said, this is the official way it is done. But, not many people will notice no matter how you decide to do it.

555Ann555 · #19 01-21-2006, 12:21 AM

I totally understood that Lizbet!

I must have been reading up on wedding stuff for far too long

deputysgurl · #20 01-21-2006, 12:36 AM

Yeah i finally have the correct way to do it.

Now to finish printing the invitations.

Y did i decide to do them myself, someone remind me.

deputysgurl · #21 01-21-2006, 12:42 AM

Does this look ok to everyone.

Together with their parents
Stephanie Ann
and
Matthew David
invite you to share with them
the beginning of their new life together
The ceremony will be
at two o'clock in the afternoon
on Saturday, the twenty-fifth of March
Two thousand and six

Heather · #22 01-21-2006, 01:04 AM

Looks great!

deputysgurl · #23 01-21-2006, 01:05 AM

Is everything that you know of spelt correctly?

Lizbet · #24 01-21-2006, 02:48 AM

Looks good to me! I hope the printing goes well for you.

OT,
I think it's so weird that when officially writing the year you use
two thousand and six
while the "proper" writing of the number would be
two thousand six

Heather · #25 01-21-2006, 04:15 AM

LOL yes, you SPELLED everything correctly for the invite.