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samanthaandmike4ever · #1 12-27-2007, 04:57 AM

Hey everyone!
My name is samantha, im 19 years old and i am engaged to my boyfriend of 4 wonderful years. We got engaged on September 12 of this year, which is also my birthday! we are now starting the planning of the wedding and i have NO IDEA where to start. We have set a date as October 25th, 2008. If someone can lead me in the right direction of where to start, it would be a huge help to us.
Thanks!
Samantha

Marksbride · #2 12-27-2007, 12:59 PM

Hello and Welcome to Pash.

I think a good place to start is making a list! It'll help you stay as organized as possible. Since you already have a date set do you have a hall or church booked? You should probably begin looking for a venue for the reception as well. Then start with dress, food, drinks, entertainment, wedding party.
GOOD LUCK.
Let us know more details.

Heather · #3 12-27-2007, 02:36 PM

Hi Samantha, welcome!

Definitely start with a list, especially of guests. Once you have an idea of the number of people you plan to invite, you can get the big things out of the way, like ceremony and reception location.

A couple of us have also posted our "lists" here:
http://www.pashweddings.com/weddingf...ead.php?t=7394

Good luck and we're here to help!

todaysdestinationwedding · #4 12-27-2007, 03:08 PM

Congratulations on your engagement! You have the when figured out....now you need the where(location of wedding & reception) what(type of wedding) and whom(attendants and guests) you want to include.

Now you can begin a list addressing each area of your wedding. Enjoy your self while planning your wedding.....try not to let stress take over.

NovemberGal · #5 12-27-2007, 03:12 PM

Heather's right, the first thing is to get at least a ballpark list of guests. You can't determine locations or budgets without that; the number of people probably has the single largest impact on your budget. You don't have to have it cemented in stone, but if you know you want an intimate wedding of 30 people or a bash of 200...that's a big difference in what you can do with food, entertainment, location, etc.

Congrats and welcome to Pash!

Sh@ks18 · #6 12-27-2007, 04:01 PM

Welcome to pash

samanthaandmike4ever · #7 12-27-2007, 05:17 PM

well we figured out this morning that we both have big families and together thats going to be at least 200 people. Then our friends from work and outside of work. The pastor of the church called us back today and we have the church set for the ceremony and the reception is at a banquet hall about 10 minutes from the church. ........seriously, i never realized planning a wedding is so much work, its like a 2nd full time job!

amandamani · #8 12-28-2007, 12:54 AM

Its great that you got a good headstart...a year of preparation I think is necessary to have a well-planned wedding...preparing a wedding is indeed a lot of work not to mention numerous misunderstandings and sometimes petty quarrels with your future husband most especially when you don't agree on certain aspects of the wedding. my wedding is on july 2008 and i tell my you my fh and i have been through many ups and downs plus quarrels even halfway through the wedding preparation....

samanthaandmike4ever · #9 12-28-2007, 04:25 AM

It is necessary to plan a year ahead i do agree! Me and Mike also have a 3 month old little girl together, so hopefully shes up and walking around by the wedding next year haha! His mother and father are paying for a bulk of the wedding, they have been such a huge help with the baby and offering to pay for pretty much all of the wedding! I cant ask god to be anymore blessed.

Soon2BMrs.Whitaker · #10 01-24-2008, 03:33 AM

Hey... One thing you really want to nail down first is a rough budget idea! Then guest list and then location... there are some really great books out there... and even awesome planners for around 20-30 bucks that help you to stay organized and give you a bunch of checklists and lists! Let me know if I can help at all! Congrats and good luck! Kristie

Brandonsgirl · #11 01-24-2008, 06:54 PM

Congrats on your engagement!!! Just like the other girls...I would start with a list of all the things you want...and then decide on the budget that you want to spend on the wedding...and decide how much you want to spend on each thing in the list...and another big thing is how big your wedding is going to be...

THen move onto the cermony/reception site!

KaileK · #12 02-14-2008, 10:13 PM

Congrats!!! I am also thrilled about having our son involved! I would start with a rought guest list, then move onto a venue, sounds like your ceremony is already lined out, then I'd start looking for a dress, get attendants in order, etc.

I have used a task manager at theknot.com and its been really helpful, it gives everything you need to do and a timeline by which to do it and you check things off when theyre done