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Marge129 · #1 01-16-2006, 10:00 PM

This is two-fold...

On the baby forum I use someone posted a question about her baby shower games. She said her SIL is throwing her baby shower this Saturday and that one of the games is to take the baby's name and make as many baby-related words from it as possible. The SIL told the Mom-to-be to start thinking of words so she could win the game and get the prize (a $25 gift certificate) for herself.

I told her she shouldn't be playing the games at her own shower since they're all related to her and she knows the answers. (she actually agreed with this)

However, someone else said it didn't matter if she won or not because the person who wins should GIVE her the prize. I've NEVER heard of that! I think the person who wins the game should get to keep the prize. After all, the Mom-to-be (or B2B as the case may be) is already being "showered" with gifts. Why should a guest at the shower have to give up their rightfully earned prize?

munchkin · #2 01-16-2006, 10:02 PM

I've heard of that, but only from people who I personally consider to be etiquette ignorant boors.
The guests should be able to keep their rightfully won prize.

Marge129 · #3 01-16-2006, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by munchkin

I've heard of that, but only from people who I personally consider to be etiquette ignorant boors.
The guests should be able to keep their rightfully won prize.

ljeagle · #4 01-16-2006, 10:04 PM

I have never heard of someone giving up the gift they won to the guest of honor. I guess it is all on what different families do...

cru5h · #5 01-16-2006, 10:12 PM

I've never heard of that. It sounds really childish too :/

Heather · #6 01-16-2006, 10:36 PM

Ditto to crush. Too lazy to quote.

whiddle · #7 01-16-2006, 11:20 PM

I have never heard of that. I didn't play the games at my BS and I didn't expect people to give me their prizes either.

roseprincess · #8 01-16-2006, 11:34 PM

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Originally Posted by munchkin

I've heard of that, but only from people who I personally consider to be etiquette ignorant boors.
The guests should be able to keep their rightfully won prize.

Can I just say that I don't like shower games and am VERY glad none were played at my bridal or baby showers?

SuzyBride · #9 01-17-2006, 12:59 AM

Around here no one does shower games of any kind. I think most people around here would think it's stupid..
I think whoever wins the game should get to keep the prize.

wynelle · #10 01-17-2006, 01:07 AM

Heard something similar on another board-- when you play the "football pool" game for guessing the date, time, weight,sex of a baby... I've always played that you put in XXX dollars and the winner gets it all. Someone posted that the winner was supposed to give the money to the expectant couple. Excuse me?? Why play for money?

Marrying_the_Good_Husband · #11 01-17-2006, 02:14 AM

Ok, then, so that means for our wedding favors, make sure you get something YOU really want, and then spread the word the guests are supposed to give them back to you! WTF?!?!

syringa · #12 01-17-2006, 02:28 AM

I heard about this many, many years ago when I attended a shower and one of the older women asked if the winners of the games weren't going to give their gifts to the bride. I think it may be something that occured in "Grandma's day," but not today. What is the point in giving a prize if it will go to the guest of honor? And a prize from a baby store yet - if the winner doesn't have small children or isn't expecting, then she would have no use for it. It seems manipulative in some ways.

fallbride · #13 01-17-2006, 03:03 AM

I have never heard of this, but I know for my shower the girls that threw the shower did not play along for the prizes.

feb-bride · #14 01-17-2006, 03:54 AM

That sounds ridiculous to me. The guest-of-honor is already getting a bunch of presents; does she really also need to receive the shower game prizes, too?

breezy · #15 01-17-2006, 06:40 PM

Nope, can't say I ever heard that.
I have always played where the guest/winner gets to keep the prize. Usually the B2B/M2B and the host are the judges.

ladedah · #16 01-17-2006, 07:02 PM

Because we always give the prizes to the person of honor...usually the prizes will relate to the "theme"...for example last year I had a friend that got married and we threw a shower for her with a "wine theme" the "prizes" were a book about wines, a set of wine goblets, and a set of glass trinkets. Whoever wins, gives thier prize to the bride...same as with a baby shower...usually the prizes are things like diapers, wipes, etc....

After all the shower is about the person of honor, you don't necessarily go to them so than you can take home the prize....

Complicated Woman · #17 01-17-2006, 07:04 PM

We don't play that way around here. The presents and the gathering are for the person being showered, prizes are for fun.

Marge129 · #18 01-17-2006, 07:09 PM

WOO-HOO

I asked my Mom if they're planning games for my shower this weekend. She said NO!

Thank God!

CupieJen · #19 01-17-2006, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by ladedah

Because we always give the prizes to the person of honor...usually the prizes will relate to the "theme"...for example last year I had a friend that got married and we threw a shower for her with a "wine theme" the "prizes" were a book about wines, a set of wine goblets, and a set of glass trinkets. Whoever wins, gives thier prize to the bride...same as with a baby shower...usually the prizes are things like diapers, wipes, etc....

After all the shower is about the person of honor, you don't necessarily go to them so than you can take home the prize....

I'm in the midwest and I've never heard of such a thing. Showers i've gone to do normally have prizes for people that win games, but since they WON the game, they get to KEEP the prize. I dunno, it just doesn't make any sense to me.

feb-bride · #20 01-17-2006, 09:25 PM

What's the point of having shower games/prizes if you're just giving everything to the guest of honor? Not criticizing - just honestly curious.

Marge129 · #21 01-17-2006, 10:37 PM

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Originally Posted by feb-bride

What's the point of having shower games/prizes if you're just giving everything to the guest of honor? Not criticizing - just honestly curious.

Ditto. I just don't get the point of even playing the games. Why not just give the stuff to the guest of honor and skip the games. Or don't declare a winner for the games.

Heather · #22 01-17-2006, 11:16 PM

Yeah, that seems very strange to me too. My MOH did some pretty cool games at my bridal shower. They weren't your "typical" shower games. They had prizes and they let me choose the winner. I certainly would NOT have expected the guest to give me the prize they won. In fact I probably would have been horrified if they offered thinking I may have wanted them to give it to me. (Sorry for that awful grammar, it's been a long work day, lol)

555Ann555 · #23 01-17-2006, 11:31 PM

Spill Heather! What games did they play???

Heather · #24 01-18-2006, 12:19 AM

These are games that I had never played at a shower before, maybe some of you have, but they were untypical for me.

My MOH broke the shower up into groups of 4 or 5 people, gave them a roll of toilet paper and told them to dress one woman in a bridal outfit. (It was hysterical.) The toilet papered women had to come into the room one at a time as if they were walking down the aisle, and I got to pick the winner.

She got a list of questions about my husband and had him provide the answers. Then they quizzed me on it in front of everyone. The woman had to mark Yes or No on their sheets as to whether I answered the question correctly. For example - what was the name of Mike's favorite pet? It was a trick question b/c he never had a pet.

She also passed around a journal, handing it to my Mom first, and had everyone write well-wishes or stories about me and them. I cried when I was able to read through it the next day.

I think that was it... If I remember something else I'll post it.

CupieJen · #25 01-18-2006, 12:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Heather

My MOH broke the shower up into groups of 4 or 5 people, gave them a roll of toilet paper and told them to dress one woman in a bridal outfit. (It was hysterical.) The toilet papered women had to come into the room one at a time as if they were walking down the aisle, and I got to pick the winner.

She also passed around a journal, handing it to my Mom first, and had everyone write well-wishes or stories about me and them. I cried when I was able to read through it the next day.

We actually did both of these 2 at my sister's shower. The toilet paper one was great! Even the people that thought "shower games" were lame loved it. The book is anotoher good idea; a nice thing to hold onto & look back on. What a good MOH you had