Ideas for nephew during ceremony

[ldwright54]

My daughter would like to include her 9 year old nephew into the ceremony, but can't think of how to do it. Kari has been instrumental in helping raise Brandon and the FH and Brandon are very close. My daughter already has 7 groomsmen, plus couple of ushers and a ring bearer, so it's already quite large. Brandon has some mental/physical disabilities, that can be challenging. Her thought is to have him walk in front of her & her dad, then have him bring the Groom to them. I'm thinking this idea sounds more like joining a blended family. What do you all think? Other ideas would be helpful. Thanks.

[breezy]

Perhaps helping to pass out rice, seed or bubble packets to everyone?

He could also perhaps man the guest book and encourage everyone to write their blessings along with a signature.

She could also give him a camera and ask him to take pictures.

I'll keep thinking on this, but off that top of my head ^ is what you get

[PlanetClaire]

I don't mean to pry and you certainly don't have to elaborate but it may be helpful to know what Brandon's challenges are in order to provide you with some suggestions.

[CupieJen]

If he could handle it, given he has some disabilities, perhaps he could be a second ring bearer? It's not uncommon to have more than one.

[Complicated Woman]

I agree with Cupie that he could walk with as a second ringbearer.

He could also escort the flowergirl if you have one.

[fallbride]

Have him walk the bride's mother (guess that would be you) to her seat. Or he could pass out the programs.

[Chillchacha]

My FSIL is 22 and she has cerebral palsy with mental retardation. She is going to be my flower girl. When we give her gifts in gift bags she loves to throw the paper every where and she makes the loudest happy noises. So, I thought she may love to throw flower petals everywhere too. I think a second ring bearer would be good or if you don’t think he can or can develop the ability in time for the wedding than find out what he is capable of and enjoys doing and incorporate it in the wedding. It is super important to be flexible because he may not want to participate. For instance, if he has something like autism that many people could be too overwhelming. We going to see how she is in our rehearsal and if she doesn’t want to be around that many people then that’s fine by us she will still be our flower girl although she doesn’t actively participate.

[ldwright54]

I am actually the step mother. My husband had custody of his three daughters when we got married 15 years ago, so I have been a big part of their lives. The FB has asked me to help her plan the wedding. Brandon disabilities are actually minor, compared to some. He gets figgity when he's quiet, he kind of does a bob & weave, while fiddling with his fingers and he paces. Even though the ceremony isn't going to take very long, she's concerned about him. I'll pass the idea of walking the mother(s) down the aisle.

[syringa]

I really like the idea of having him walk the mothers. That would make him feel very important. Then he can be seated in the front row with the moms and exit with them.

[ljeagle]

I work with a disabled child that is MR and does a few things that u have said. At first I was having him be a RB but we got to talking and I know what he would do. He would have to be center of attention and make a lot of sounds. he would be yelling ra ra (me) don't ask me where he got the name from and nene (Kenny) the whole time. We are having him walk my mother up. Well mom will walk him up along with my other nephew that we don't have a place for.

[Jacqueline]

if i had another newphuew that what i would have him do but as i have the one he is our ring carryer but love the walking the mum up the ailes idea