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01-11-2006, 03:07 AM
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My daughter has asked her aunt who is a Lutheran minister to perform the ceremony. The aunt will be traveling almost 800 miles. She probably would have come to the wedding, without being asked to do the ceremony. All the legalities have been taken care of so theres no problem there. I'm just wondering if should we help pay her the air fare? Any other suggestion would be appreciated.
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01-11-2006, 04:03 AM
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I don't think I would let someone pay for my air fair with it being family. It would be nice to at-least offer to pay. I think it is your responsibility but it's up to u...
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01-11-2006, 04:09 AM
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Was the Aunt planning on coming to the wedding anyway?
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01-11-2006, 04:09 AM
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I think it's a nice gesture, but if the Aunt would be attending regardless, she may decline. I'm not sure there is standard etiquette for this situation meaning I don't believe you or your daughter/future son in law (FSIL) are obligated to pay for her travel.
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01-11-2006, 04:21 AM
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I agree with what the girls have said, it would be a nice gesture but I don't think you're obliged in any way.
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01-11-2006, 06:13 AM
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I don't think you are obligated, but if you can afford it, it would be a very nice gift! For my officiant (my mom's boyfriend, a Unitarian minister) we purchased a new robe and stole for him. He wouldn't accept a monetary gift, but he really loved the items we got for him.
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01-11-2006, 01:53 PM
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That brings up a good point. Any other official you would need to pay a few hundred dollars for. Maybe you could ask her what he normal fee is for the service and offer to pay that--and she'll probably decline and say it's her gift to the couple.
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01-11-2006, 08:12 PM
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I would definately offer. Maybe you can pay half or something. She might refuse, but she might be really grateful!
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01-11-2006, 09:12 PM
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Originally Posted by Marrying_the_Good_Husband
That brings up a good point. Any other official you would need to pay a few hundred dollars for. Maybe you could ask her what he normal fee is for the service and offer to pay that--and she'll probably decline and say it's her gift to the couple.
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